What to Do When Your Child is Being Bullied in School
by brownpinay on Jul 28, 2008 with 4 Comments
Effective parent’s approach to deal with this situation.
When you learned that your child is being bullied, the initial reaction of a parent is to confront the bully. It is the common maternal instinct specially when there is a feeling that your child is being subjected to pressure.
If you learned that your child is being bullied, do not overact. Do not easily resort to confrontation and handle the bully yourself. If this is your action, you may not know it but you are also bullying the bully yourself.
Bullying should be immediately addressed, since this may eventually become the reason why the victim would like to stop to go to school.
Here are some tips that you can do if your child is a victim:
- It is important to focus on your child (the victim).
- Tell him to immediately inform an adult of any instances of bullying
- Teach him to stand up for himself (if it safe) or walk out of the scene and leave the bully alone if it becomes out of his control. Explain to him that moving out of the scene does not mean cowardice. After which tell him to inform his teacher immediately.
- Tell your child to be always with his friends or other kids; it is very usual that loners are an easy prey to this situation
- Role-play with your child on a similar incident and tell him how he should react on such incident
- Make the teacher aware of the incident. Talk to the teachers and discuss what has to be done to stop the bullying. You should not deal with the parents of the bully; instead it is the role of the school representative to inform the bully’s parent. Who knows the bully also needs some psychological help that needs to be addressed too.
- Feedback – Always check on your child if there is a recurrence of bullying. After informing the teacher. If it still persists, the teachers/ principals should be informed anew.
Just an advice to those parents who’s child is being bullied or a bully, please be sensitive and on the look-out on the behavior of your child. Sometimes they don’t know how to tell you that they have been victimized. It’s better to do something while it’s early; don’t let this attitude become a permanent thing until they grow up.
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Sharon | Jul 28, 2008 | Reply
i am bullied during my teens, & telling it to my parents was harder because they might think I am a loser.
brownpinay | Jul 28, 2008 | Reply
@sharon, it must have really been so hard for you, the thought of feeling that you are a loser usually occurs and at times self-esteem is lost. That is why parents really need to be observant on how their kids react and act.
nonoy | Jun 16, 2009 | Reply
when i learned that my child was being bullied i enrolled him in a martial arts school. he learned the discipline of controlling himself through martial arts. after 6 months, when the same child confronted him and challenged him into a fight… he simply shrug off his shoulder and told the bully that he doesn’t know what he was talking.
MARIE | Sep 24, 2009 | Reply
MY CHILD IS IN 4TH GRADE. A BOY SLAPPED HER IN THE MORING GATHERING IN THE GYM. THE TEACHERS OF BOTH SAW IT HAPPEN. THE REASON WAS SHE WAS IN MY WAY. THE PUNISHMENT WAS TO TELL HER HES SORRY AND MISSED A WEEKS WORTH OF PLAY TIME????? A DAY LATER HE TOLD HER WHEN SHE ENTERED THE GYM THAT YOU GOT SLAPPED LIKE CRAP! I GO TO PRINCIPLE AND SHE SAYS SHE’LL CHECK INTO IT?? WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT OR DO? ANY OPPIONS?