There Would be Fewer Spoiled Children If You Could Spank Their Parents
I am not saying I have been a perfect parent, but it seems like todays parents are lazy and letting their kids get away with murder. Somebody needs a spanking, and it is not always the kids.
Kids start at a young age, learning to wrap their parents around their fingers. They learn that if they throw a tantrum their parent will give in. They know that if they pout their parent will give in. They learn that if they beg enough, their parent will give in. They learn because this is what their parents teach them.
Many people attribute the problems often seen in modern kids to parents who are divorced, each one trying to be their kids favorite. As well many think it is a result of parents working, and feeling guilty about leaving the kids in daycare, they try to make up for being absent parents by spoiling their child. For many it is simply an easier way of parenting than to step up and lay down the law.
In restaurants it is not uncommon to see kids stand up on chairs, or throw food on the floor, even stuffing unfinished food into their drink cups. All of this occurs under their parents eyes, and with no discipline… nobody tells them to stop. Do they behave like this at home too?
I had a great chat with a clerk at Wal Mart one day. She saw a mom come through the cashout with her kid. The kid had a stuffed animal in hand, and the clerk needed to scan it. The kid was throwing a fit about having to give up the stuffed animal for five seconds. So.. the parent lifted the kid up with the stuffed animal in her arms so the clerk could scan it. The clerk related to me “If that was my kid I would have taken the toy away and not bought it!”
Indeed the Wal Mart clerk is right, why didn’t the woman lay down the law and stop allowing her child to be the boss? Did she not want to make a scene? To be honest her incorrect parenting was a worse scene than if she had parented the right way.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/avlxyz/2166936281/ BUT… Some times the unattended children are not nearly as bad as the Attended ones.
Where I work (a retail gift store) we have water fountains, most parents are smart enough to keep their kids from playing in the water fountains. A few seem to turn a blind eye and allow their kids to play in the water, while pretending they don’t see it. Occasionally though, you will have a parent that will actually encourage their kid to play in the water, splashing it around, and on other merchandise. How I would love to spank the parents. When I say to the kids “Don’t play in the water it has chemicals in it.” you will rarely hear an apology from the parent.
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PR Mace | May 2, 2010 | Reply
You have said a mouth full and you are so correct. Parents need to be parents and keep their children in line. I bet the parents that you asked to please make their children get out of the fountain, got mad at you. didn’t they?
martie | May 2, 2010 | Reply
Part of the problem is that many of these parents regardless of age haven’t grown up themselves. A while back I was talking to a parent in a local store, her very young son was standing in the cart. She chatted away totally ignoring him, when he reached for something he almost fell out of the cart and I had to grab him.
Instead of thank you she said to me, “you can tell you haven’t been around kids in awhile.” she got kind of huffy when I relied that I didn’t let may children stand in a cart of reach for things off shelves. The real irony was she had a job where she decided whether or not other people were neglecting their children.
ken bultman | May 2, 2010 | Reply
Good one. A spoiled child is not born but raised. I still believe spanking the child helps unspoil.
MartineP | May 2, 2010 | Reply
Good and true one. I sometimes wonder what parents have in mind. Now spanking a kid might also not be a great idea, but if I had kids and they would behave like little monsters, be sure they would get a momster mum. I would never spank them, since spanking did me no good and made me turn against my parents, but I would explain them how to think of others.
Alive11 | May 2, 2010 | Reply
Brilliant Work
Check my stuff also
Mark Gordon Brown | May 2, 2010 | Reply
I hear so many times ” remember we look with our eyes not our hands” said for the benefit of the store clerks and not as a command to the children. If it were a command for the children store clerks and other customers would not hear it. It would be said to the children in private.
I hear so many times “don’t touch that because if you break it we will have to buy it” and not the proper “don’t touch that it is not yours. It belongs to someone else and we want to respect the property and feelings of others”. Maybe if parents would try to explain to children about respecting the property and feelings others we would have a better world. They could say “how would you feel if someone came into your room and starting touching all of your toys and breaking them?”
lillyrose | May 2, 2010 | Reply
Great article B, I had to read the title twice… second time I was laughing and nodding my head! I get sad when I see kids misbehaving because it is not always their fault! I saw a young mother eat a bag of crisps and just drop the bag on the floor!! outrageous, what message were her kids getting?
CA Johnson | May 2, 2010 | Reply
This was a very good article and an interesting subject. I have seen kids act up in public and their parents don’t do anything about it. They either ignore it or they laugh it off. It really is a sharme.
C Jordan | May 2, 2010 | Reply
Well considered article B, I whole heartedly agree.
Videomark | May 2, 2010 | Reply
The title says it all. I totaly agree with this article. Good work.
VTech | May 2, 2010 | Reply
Nice Post
limelda | May 3, 2010 | Reply
I could not agree more. This is a good one.
Jo Oliver | May 3, 2010 | Reply
Very good message. Cant say I disagree one bit.
Authoress Terry E. Lyle | May 4, 2010 | Reply
That’s a wonderful articles because there are some parents I would like to spank.
keep up the good work.
A. Fool | May 5, 2010 | Reply
I was going to write something like this…I call them feral children.
I suppose the first discipline they’ll get will be from the state when they get arrested.
iworkathome | May 8, 2010 | Reply
Great article. That’s why I carry a bamboo cane everywhere I go. My kids get a good beating before they leave the house, so they act right the cane is for everyone elses kids who don’t know how to act. Okay, so I don’t really beat kids with a stick, but this article was right on. Maybe we should all print a bunch of copies and hand them out to the people who need to read it.
EricPinola | May 12, 2010 | Reply
Great post.
Children will be a blessing or a curse; but we get to decide which.
Eric Pinola
Daisy Peasblossom | May 18, 2010 | Reply
LOVED the title. Reminds me of when my grandson got in trouble for using the “F” word in kindergarten. My daughter was all, “I can’t imagine where he learned that word…” I reminded her of how often I told her that if she kept saying certain things he was certainly going to repeat it! (No, we did NOT use those kinds of words at home when my children were growing up. They picked them up in public school.)
Anusha Jain | Apr 14, 2011 | Reply
Very nicely written. The incidents you shared to illustrate your statement and the supportive arguments made the flow of thoughts in your article very precise.
I second all you’ve said here. Parents being spanked does not sound like an exaggeration at all.
Regards,
Anusha, UV Associates