The Biggest Pressure Fathers Face in Raising Teens
by giftarist on Nov 05, 2009 with 23 Comments
Fathers give many reasons why they spend so little time with their children, but no amount of success outside the home will compensate for failure within the home.
Time is the biggest pressure fathers’ face in raising their teens. We all have the same number of hours in a day. Yet some men seem to make everything fit into their hours, while others always have more to do than time to do it in.
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In the traditional home setting, a father is often working away from the home at least forty hours a week. When a man comes home after working all day, he is usually tired and hungry. His evening is divided by eating, talking with his wife, other activities, and trying to relax. Often it is hard to integrate the needs of children into the few unscheduled hours remaining. I think it takes a concerted effort to “make” time for teens. A father must make his children a priority, no matter how important his occupation is.
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Often fathers say that they feel out of touch with their teens and they don’t know what the real issues are. But I wonder how much time those men spend talking with their teens, trying to discover the issues.
I think it’s a great idea to get alone with your teen for a weekend when he’s almost thirteen or fourteen. Just talk through some things he can expect in the coming years. Pave the pathway to less pressure by opening the channels of communication early.
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Too many fathers look back and regret not spending more time with their teens. The teen years only last seven years with each child; compared to your total life-span, that’s not much time. I’ve yet to hear a parent complain about spending too much time with his teen.
Someone once said, “Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend.”
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alc | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
I’m not looking forward to these days but on the other hand they all have to grow! Thanks for the share, I enjoyed the read!
Themax | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
May be I am not a father but I can still understand The Biggest Pressure through your article!!
Thanks for the share
agriculi | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
Eating together as a family at the table is a good way of spending time with eachother. One can talk and eat at the same time.
athena goodlight | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
This is so true. It is sad that these days, some children have to grow up without a father.
cebuanaeyez | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
Boys especially need a good father figure
Lady Sunshine | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
Fathers need to make time for their children, no matter what. Thanks, gift!
Francois Hagnere | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
Very well said and observed! Bravo.
Goodselfme | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
You mention good points. A1 article and composed well.
diamondpoet | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
Times are changing fathers are taking a more active role in the family settings. Good write.
Teves | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
Nice one…keep sharing.
Mystify | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
This is truly a wonderful write on an eye opener of a subject! I think this would inspire any father to spend more time with their kids! If not then they aren’t good dads to begin with! Excellent write Gift!!
Judy Sheldon | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
A father can have a huge impact on his children but most mothers work all day also. The time factor effects both parents and children. Children are involved in extracurricular activities, homework and part time jobs & it is imperative that we connect some where in the midst of it all.
Shirley Shuler | Nov 5, 2009 | Reply
Fathers should always make time for their children.
Petalm | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
You are so right.
Christine Ramsay | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
A very good piece. When I look back my father was always there for us and a great support. He was so entertaining too. A great man.
Christine
Starpisces | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
Enjoy reading this article, agree with what you have written.
Lee Ness | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
Very good point and this can relate to mother or single mother too. That is inetesting a single teen is only 7 years compared to our live span how short indeed. I quit my second job to be home more with my oldest daughter who was hitting her teens years and yes it work out for us in the end and we are closer now because of it.
Thanks Lee Ness
chitragopi | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
Well thought of.
lillyrose | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
Excellant article, you obviously have strong feelings about this. Lots of men just leave it up to the mother, which is ok, some teens don’t have a father but like you said time goes by so fast and you never get that time with your teen back. Well done you on such a great write.
Paul2KAD | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
It’s the main reason why I am self-employed. I get to spend a lot of time with my kids. I work while they are in school and in the evening. The rest of the time I can be a proper dad.
I couldn’t go back to working a 9-5 job again.
Nice article.
Ruby Hawk | Nov 6, 2009 | Reply
No, we will never worry about spending too much time with a child but we will regret spending too little. Working long hours and kids having their activities puts a crimp in the time available though.
Melody Arcamo Lagrimas | Nov 7, 2009 | Reply
Very good points here, thanks.
sexyme | Nov 9, 2009 | Reply
hope you shall be the FATHER we all love to have
good work i can know what a father means to kids he is a
FATHER FIGURE YOU KNOW ……….SOLID