While many children like the school they go to, there is also a vast majority of kids who hate their school. The hate relationship with schooling is usually a temporary phase and can go away with a little careful observation, counseling and lots of moral support to the child. Here are some reasons why your kid hates school and what you can do to help.
School bullies are usually the primary reason why kids hate to go to school. Your child may be a victim of bullying and if he or she is, then as a parent you need to take action. You could begin by giving solutions to the child, so that he or she can help him/herself. This can be a good morale booster for the child. If this is not helping, you may need to go to school and inform the class teacher about the issue.
Besides school bullies, negative peer pressure in other forms can affect children as well. Being unable to sit with a close friend, rude remarks from other children, a feeling of mistrust, not feeling welcome and feeling the lack of things that other children possess are a few causes that build up peer pressure. In such cases, it is best to talk with your child and build his/her confidence regarding the things he or she possesses.
Partial class teachers
The temperament of the class teacher also determines whether your kid is enjoying school or not. If a teacher is putting too much pressure on children, is rude with them or is showing favorism towards other children, you as an adult need to help your child again. If this is getting your child nowhere, you may need to have a discussion with the teacher or principal and make things work out for your child.
If teachers and students are not the issue, probably the issue could lie with the transport to school that you use. A rude bus driver, an unsafe feeling, badly behaving children on the bus or other such issues could be the reason of your child’s anxiety and hence hatred towards school.
A jailed up perspective
For many kids school is a place where they are tied down, both physically and mentally. As compared to the freedom to do what they wish at home, school is a place where they have to sit at their seats and follow the teacher’s instructions. In such cases, parents need to constantly remind kids that school is where they would learn many new things. They would also make more friends and know more about the world we live in.
Parents also state that many kids who are bright students often state that they hate school. They instead show a preference to stay at home and watch tv. This could be because of the regular routine in school, which bores them and makes them look for change. Encouraging such children about the fun that they could have in school is the only way to help them attend.
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