My mom stopped spanking me at a young age. I felt like other punishments weren’t helping and wanted her to go back to spanking. This is how I accomplished that goal.
My mother decided when I was eleven that I was too old for spanking. At first my reaction to this was that it was great because punishment would get easier, such as grounding or loss of privileges. Sure, the punishments were easier, but I found myself feeling uneasy about the things I did wrong even after the punishment was over. Not all kids are like I was. I was always filled with a huge feeling of guilt after I did something that displeased my mother. My father wasn’t in the picture in case you’re wondering. So now my mother had stopped spanking me as punishment, but it seemed other punishments weren’t enough to keep away the guilt.
I finally decided to ask my mother why she had stopped spanking me. She told me there were two reasons. One of the reasons was modesty and the other was that spanking was no longer useful, as she didn’t see that it was hurting my bottom as much as it used to. Now that I am older I can see that the real reason was because everyone else with a child my age had stopped using spanking, but she didn’t want to tell me that because she was always against following the crowd and it would make her look as if she were following the crowd. Due to neither of her reasons being sensible, I decided to debate her reasoning. I didn’t like back talking my mother, but in this case I felt it was absolutely needed.
I decided to tackle the idea that spanking no longer hurt enough first. A spanking for me had always been 3 or 4 paddle licks on my bare bottom, until I got to the age of 10. At that point my mom decided to leave up my underwear, I guess for reasons of modesty again. One could argue that using the same implement with the same amount of licks is great for creating structure, but the downside is that my body had gotten stronger. Not to mention the fact that leaving up my underwear made the pain even less severe than it was when they were down. I remember the first thing that came out of my mouth was that of course it wasn’t going to hurt as much as I got older if the spanking was kept at the same severity all my years. And actually the severity had become less since she started leaving up my underwear. So I suggested why not try more licks. She then said that she feared I could get hurt too much and said that now that I was at the age where my underwear needed to be left up it wasn’t possible to tell when I had had enough by how red my bottom was.
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