Stop Butchering Their Childhood with Bad Parenting
This article deals with some bad parenting habits, which can really ruin a child’s life.
I don’t have kids. But I don’t think I need to have children to know the difference between good parenting and bad parenting. I am sick of seeing some parents treat their kids in ways, which will do more harm than good. This is what I wanted to share with you all.
First bad parenting habit- Stop living your dream through your child. That is the number 1 bad parenting habit on my list. I cannot stand it when parents push their kids to do things they could not achieve. How unfair is that? Be it dance, art, music or sports. Encourage your child, but remember one thing. Your child is a unique individual and not YOU! So stop pressurizing him/her to take up activities you want them to.
Obviously, you can’t sit back and watch them do things that are nasty or wrong. That is not what I am saying. I am saying, don’t act like a typical ‘child star’s’ guardian. Those kids have no childhood. 1 life, 1 childhood. Don’t take it away from your child, just because you could not live your dream.
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Second bad parenting habit- Don’t over pamper your kids. I have seen so many kids getting anything and everything they want. Then they get yelled at, when they sulk on you not buying them the “pink barbie doll bag”. Hello! You are at fault. Your bad parenting habit is at fault. You should be punished, not the child! Kids can be stubborn, yes. But only because you buy them anything they want. They throw a tantrum because they know they can have their way. So spend time with them and don’t buy their love.
Third bad parenting habit- Pay attention when kids are with you. When you are walking on the street, your stupid cellphone call can wait. Your child needs your attention. I have seen parents walking on the street, with the child next to the roadside. I firmly believe that you need to be holding the child’s hand, on the side which is away from the street. With all the road rage and crazy drivers who don’t pay attention, you need to be careful. Don’t get glued to the phone when your kid is running around in circles around you, least bothered about the vehicles.
Phew, I am done with the whole ‘bad parenting’ list. I just got mad at how some people use these bad parenting skills on their kids all the time, and decided to write what I saw. I don’t have kids, but it’s not rocket science.
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Prometheus Ridley Scott | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Good comments and as a parent agree. Especially the cell phone situ. Walking to my local school many parents are stuck to their cell phones texting or calling whilst the kids run off or bay for attention. Children only grow up once.
Themax | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
I am not a father right now but very useful and important advice!
Children need good parenting! love to read the way you explained the true fact,Thanks
Sharif Ishnin | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Great write. I guess there needs to be a balance between having too much attention and not enough attention. It’s never easy to advice parents on how to look after their child.;)
Val Mills | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Whew! Good stuff – and surprised you managed to limit yourself to such a short list! What you’ve written about is certainly part of our current ‘ME’ society – except it’s now the adults thinking it’s about themselves.
Sourav | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Good write. Some good advice for the future!
abhishek40914 | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
good points
jimbob1 | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Hey Rox…Your article is based on the fact that your are a very astute individual and that caring for and about others is a very important item on your radar. In addition to the many other things on your plate right now, maybe you need to start wearing the hat of a family/parental counsellor. This was a great write and a great read…great job.
Pithom | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
I can only agree. The first point may be different if the child shares the passion however. I’d want to encourage my children as much as possible if they shared a talent they wished to pursue. Spot on though, especially the last. It’s second nature for me to walk my children away from the road. My eldest a little too old to hold my hand, but she finds herself automatically walking beside me away from the traffic. And if I do need to text, or phone, my grasp is firm (on my child… not the phone).
Frances Lawrence | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Very well said! I would like to add a couple more points, it is very important that parents talk to their children and it is even more important to listen to their children.
deep blue | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Well written. Thanks for the share, certainly parents will be guided with these tips.
AlmaG | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
Point # 1 is very common… I my self had experienced that.. to continue my parent’s dreams and forget mine… Thanks for the share
Guy Hogan | Nov 29, 2009 | Reply
I saw a male adult let a little girl walk on the top of a two-foot-high highway barrier next to the highway. I’ve seen other things but that was the the most outrageous.
Christine Ramsay | Nov 30, 2009 | Reply
I agree whole heartedly with everything you say. Children are our responsibility and we should take care of them properly. A great post.
Christine
Denise Anne Spooner | Nov 30, 2009 | Reply
Good piece Phoenix. I agree with you wholeheartedly on the bad parenting thing. No parent is perfect, but as a parent ( I have four grown children and two grandchildren) we should always be trying to put our children’s best interests first. Yes, this means spending time with them above and beyond that friend that has to talk at that very moment, or watching our children near the street and definitely holding their hand if their age permits as well as loving kids enough to not appease them in satisfying their every wish.
Time is the one thing that can never be replaced. Being on the phone when you should be listening to your child perhaps reveal something of vital importance is golden.
A child’s safety is important for obvious reasons, but we as parents must remember to keep a constant watch over them and be prepared to intercept when need be.
Finally, giving in to a child’s ‘precious’ face will not help then in school, advance them in sports, or get them their first job let alone help them make it in life.
Wonderful post Phoenix and it’s okay to rant and rave about such an important topic. Anytime!
Denise Anne Spooner | Nov 30, 2009 | Reply
Oh, and I forgot to mention living our dreams through our children. How unfair is that. Can they not become their own little human beings?
It is so true that each child is a unique human being. Why not take pride in their God-given abilities rather than those as parents, we never were blessed with in the first place and just enjoy other’s who have been blessed with that we had not. It just makes more sense and saves our children the experience of never feeling like they measure up, are good enough or cared about for the unique person they are.
lillyrose | Nov 30, 2009 | Reply
Really great article hun! parenting is really hard work and these tips just remind you that it is your job to do your best!
magicdarts | Nov 30, 2009 | Reply
Very well said – I think you’d make a great parent! – it frustrates me endlessly when parents don’t pay proper attention to their kids while out and about, and sometimes you get the feeling that they are treated like inconveniences rather than the blessing they truly are!!
Enlightenedpsych2 | Dec 2, 2009 | Reply
You would make an excellent parent, I think because as me not having any children either, I believe you swiped my exact list from my memory bank and posted them here ! Great read and very helpful, thank you.
P.S. Thanks for the comment about adding the ingredients. I am very conscious of what should and should not be in our food, chemicals should not !
sharing the light,
miss erica hidvegi,
the Enlightenment Advisor
LitWurst | Dec 4, 2009 | Reply
I think that the third is the one you see the most, but watching parents project their failings on their kids is definitely the hardest to see happen. Heaven knows there are some undeserving breeders out there.
fmakeita | Dec 4, 2009 | Reply
This is such a great topic! A lot of parents do this and doesn’t even notice what it does to their kids. Some of them realizes it only when it’s too late. Thanks for sharing this. It sure would help open the eyes of parents who still get a chance to make changes.
trios2009 | Dec 5, 2009 | Reply
Great article! I completely agree with all of your points. We are seeing more and more of this every day and I hope a parent who does these things will read your article and change their ways.
Jon Abraham | Dec 9, 2009 | Reply
Good article for all Moms and Dads!
Leo Rizzuti | Jan 4, 2010 | Reply
Excellent article! The one thing that I would add is for someone who is a parent to remember to act like a parent, and not try to be their child’s best friend. There will come a time when your child is grown and will look to you as a friend as well as a mentor, but now is not the time. Our society is in the process of being destroyed slowly by a culture that thinks that we need to be cool and relate to our children and try to buddy up to them instead of performing our duty as a parent and not caring whether or not our kids think that we are being mean or harsh. Trust me, your children will thank you for it later in life. (Father of six)