Step Parenthood!!!

The introduction of such a figure in some one’s life from both angle’s, a child’s impressionable age and an adult in search of Mr or Mrs right, whilst then taking into consideration that if you want this person you also have to take on their child.

This article is coming from pure knowledge, being on both side’s, being a step child and now being a step farther.

Where to start, the beginning will probably do.

The first time in meeting a step parent will be one that will never be forgotten, even if you are told that he/she is just a friend, because sooner or later it is going to be a little obvious.

The experience I had was terrible, as my sister is two years older than me and was a complete, well you know what I am going to say. I was 9 years old and my Mother was working two jobs to keep us a float and no I am not using that as an excuse for her pathetic choice. Anyway my Mother came in from work one afternoon from her job in a factory soldering circuit boards and followed was Mr right, well so she thought at that point. He looked like a rocked up version of Mr Bean, I know that is hard to get your head around but try really hard to imagine the vision. Mr bean grin with long black hair, purple Dr Martin’s and a multi coloured jumper, like the one your grandmas knits all year and gives you on Christmas day. I am not sure what it was but you probably guessed it, we hated him. Poor bloke, although he could give back. When a step parent comes onto the scene it is the best 3 weeks of your life, they are trying there hardest to impress. I remember waking up to breakfast and a cup of tea most mornings for about three week’s, soon ended. Strangest thing happened, he must have just woken up one day and smelt the coffee, or should I say my sister scratched about 50% of his CD collection. I hope my step daughter is a little easier on me than we were with him.

I met her Mrs right well she was miss right when I met her and now she is Mrs right, so yes we got past a few hurdles and got married. When we met I did know about the child and took it into consideration that one day I might have to take care of this child as my own. Whilst being very disappointed with her real father and trying to make a communication plan between the child’s mother and her ex, the real father, I actually was able to fit in some time to get to know the girl I eventually married. It was hard but it was worth it, now here I am with my ready made family and doing just fine.

One of the hardest thing’s ever done by a partner is meeting the one they believe to be one’s dependent’s. Only ever seeing films with the wicked step mother and the horrid step children, scarred is an understatement, not knowing if the child is going to like you or hate you and remembering how we felt to our step farther. Life brings great challenges, comeuppances and absolute stress, not that I have had any yet. I think I might be ok with this one, but I will keep you informed.

Take care all step parents, all step children and anyone in the middle.