Step Children: Why Do Women Hate Them So Much?

Women can not tolerate step children. Men may show dislike for step children but the length to which step mothers go just to torture the other children in their lives a living hell is quite abhorring. Why do women hate step children so much? Why can’t they stand the sight of another woman’s children yet entertain those of neighbors and strangers?

It’s not the step children’s fault

Woe unto those children who are brought up as step sons or daughters for one reason or another. It isn’t their fault that their mothers or fathers died, it isn’t their fault that their parents separated, and it isn’t their fault that at some point they were left with one parent, but more often than not they live through hell, thanks to the women into whose life they fall when the inevitable happens.

Step mothers from hell

Never wish for your child to fall into these women from hell, never wish for your son or daughter to encounter the terrorism that they spew like venom for he or she will never know peace, for she or he will never grow up with confidence.

Women hate step children

Women hate step children, they hate the other children left in their care when the real mother dies or is divorced or for whatever reason is not available to bring up her own children. I have never understood why they hate these children so much when at times they are more welcoming to those of the neighbors and even complete strangers in the home.

Is it because of the other woman?

Could it be because step children remind their men of the other woman who gave him these children? Could it be because these children are a bridge to a past they would rather forget? Why should the poor children pay for mistakes that weren’t theirs in the first place? Why should they pay when their mother is to blame for dying or separating for some reason from their dad?

Is it because of inheritance?

Do these women mistreat the step children out of the fear of losing out on the man’s inheritance? Do they fear that their own children may get a smaller share of the will at the expense of their step children? Are these children seen as competitors in all matters to do with the will? Even if they are, whose fault is it?

Step children don’t deserve this cruelty

Step children have seen it all. Their fingers have been burned and pricked with needles, they have been tortured like animals in captivity, they have been poisoned time and again, they have been strangled, they have buried alive by their step mothers yet the law is silent on their plight and the actions of these women who mistreat them go unpunished for more often than not they fear the repercussions of ever reporting this cruelty to their dads and have to suffer in silence, most of the time their daddy loves their new mother from hell and will not hear their own version of the story and they have either to shape up or shape out. They become strangers in their own home; they become outsiders under their own roof, a roof that was at one time filled with maternal warmth, a roof that held a lot of promise for a brighter future for them that now dims before their own eyes.

Why do women hate them so much?

When will step mothers let these poor children rest, when will step mothers treat these children a little more humanely, when will men who they call fathers wake up to the realities that take place right under their noses?

My heart cries out to all of them. I know what they go through and just wish women were a little more understanding, a little more tolerant, a little more humane to these poor children. They have never known peace on earth through a fault that wasn’t theirs and will never be theirs. Why do women hate these children so much?

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  1. Good topic. It just seems that your view is quite extreme. I have friends who are raising stepchildren, and while it can be a difficult situation, I can’t imagine anyone abusing children the way you describe. I guess it does happen, and there are people who do commit these atrocities.

  2. You said it all.

  3. Well, it kinda reminds me of my Dad’s story. Good share, friend.

  4. Great article. Alot of families can relate to this.

  5. Most women are competitive by nature. Perhaps they feel that their spouse’s step children are going to take their love and attention away from them. Perhaps these women just need to find themelves a man without baggage. I don’t have any problems with guys that have kids as long as they like me.

  6. Not all women hate step kids and those who do should NOT get involved with a guy with kids.. some men hate step kids too.. after all.. there are many stories of women who kill their kids because the guys found them a burden.

  7. i have two friends, a male Canadian-American who is divorced with 3 children and a Japanese-Hawaiian female friend with 2 male kids also divorce, they met, got married and have their own children but they all lived together in the same house with one of the happiest family i saw and lived with for some time. They have a total of 9 children at this time.

  8. It’s pretty sad when you don’t show the love to the stepchildren, because they are a package deal with the parent now in charge that you profess your love too. If you’re an adult then grow up and act like it and be the parent you would be to your own blood children. It might be difficult but raising children isn’t a picnic anyway.

  9. .good post…….

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  12. Many women as you said hate step children. I think it could be because of the other women in their man’s life…I’m not sure. But recently I came across women who raises step children as their own.

  13. great article…i think that you cant just put it down to one reason…but the kid by the man they love…is also another womans…something that they are not tightly linked to in that way…jealousy? anyway as entertaining as ever :D

  14. Very toucy one, I have some different view. You have a God-gifted pen LEO. Thanks.

  15. I know there are rare cases in which some women take care of those children exceptionally well, but the reality out there is disheartening more often than not.

  16. Jealousy…with a belief that she will not her due attention from her husband.

  17. this was VERY enlightening. great share.

  18. Your right it is never the child’s fault, now I’ll sit on the fence cheers Leo

  19. Not all the women hate step children.

  20. Very good article again. Yes, mainly because of the other woman. Let say I am a man. I will not marry any woman who detest any children, whether my own child or not..or maybe before married she may pretend to like the child/children and then later show the true colour, and if this the case I will divorce her and marry the 3rd one or be a single father. The only problem is she may have her own child/children so will be more difficult to divorce her, very headache.
    (suddenly I become a man)

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  22. A very deep thought to write about … amazing piece Leo.

  23. hmm good one…but loving or hating step children, itss all on situations…

  24. I don’t know if I would put all the blame on the woman. I think you make a good point that the children remind her of the other woman, but she knows all of this going into the relationship and has to live with the man that she falls for having kids.

    So, the problem is deep in that it starts knowing what she is getting herself into before the relationship starts. If she can’t accept the fact that the kids in the relationship are from another woman going into it, then maybe she should not enter in the relationship in the first place.

    But, once again I would say don’t make this a one way street. there are many men out there that go into a relationship with a woman and don’t like the kids that she has, and the same can be said that if she has a 17 year old son for example that her boyfriend can’t stand her son, becusae he remindes the boyfriend of the other man.

  25. i can relate to the topic as i have seen some one close deal with a step mother from hell .. and the mental torture was huge on her …

    the person who is willing to marry second time is well aware of the statistic so i call them a partner in crime with the step mother

  26. Blood is thicker than water. For these women step children are not kids of their very own blood. Thus a hatred towards them.

  27. Nicely written thanks.
    the fact that people relate to this show that it is so real I am wonderfully surprised that it is a universal phenomenon!, People will think it is widely prevalent in third world society where people are less educated and poor.

  28. Hey Andy, you just said what I believe myself, I am an idiot yes but there is nowhere in the article where I stated that all women hate step children. To every rule their is always an exception. Thanks anyway for sharing what you really feel about the article.

  29. I think we have an over-generalization here; and quite one-sided. There are many men out there who expect a wife to choose between him and her children (his step-children) and just as many women (I work with several) who accept and care for their step-children as if they were their own.

  30. Perhaps this has been the unfortunate case with the women in your own life, but I know many women who love their step-children as they do their own. My own step-mother was a brilliant, loving woman who was obviously a little more together than the women you are basing this on. My advice: Get to know better women. I question the validity of your whole premise. You show nothing but your own opinion-no facts, no studies done, Just ‘hey, I think step mom’s suck.’ No, they don’t. Just the ones you know do.

  31. I have a Stepmom. My experience with her is a little different for me. My Stepmom loves me as if I am her own daughter. And she also has two kids (My half brothers) with my dad. She is great. Though I could understand other scenarios when stepchildren are maltreated. Good article though.

  32. OMG – this is the most one sided piece of crap writing I have ever seen. Most moms are good moms – step or not. I raised kids – some biological – some not – I love them all – and they bring all 13 of my grandbabies home for holidays, birthdays, weekends ect. I’ve never known a “step mom” that was mean to her kids – just lucky I guess since you say it’s so prevalent.

  33. I know more men who hate their step kids then women. I am now single and I would rather date a man that has kids. Then one that doesn’t.

  34. Hehehe…I have never been this misunderstood before. I never meant all mothers or women hate their step children but most do whatever you want to believe. I have related cases that actually took place. It may be an opinion but it is based on long time observation. Just because some of you were lucky to have a good step mom does not mean all is well, and again I like writing such crap because it gets comments from you, otherwise Triond would be so boring.

  35. This is very thought provoking… In fact one of the comments above is quiet below the belt… I think your ideas are from your own experience… I respect that… But there are also those who are good step moms… cheers though…

  36. I have raised step children and I love them with all my heart! I would never hurt them or allow anyone else to hurt them. As Karen said, your take on step mothers sound very extreme.

  37. LQQKs like you’ve done it now, Leo! AND, some of these women would probably love to be YOUR step-mother right about now! I bet you’d find yourself sleeping in a closet for a bit, and Mommy Dearest wouldn’t have anything on some of these women. Kidding ladies! Anyway, sometimes I think it comes down to behaviors, women have “trained” their own kids in a certain way and then the step children come along, and sometimes are a challenge for the step mother. I don’t think that all step moms are horrible to step-children; in fact, I’ve known a couple of these types of relationships where the child preferred to be with the step-mother over the biological mother. What step-parents need to remember is that, children grow up and sometimes when they do-they TELL everything. Step-parents also need to think about how fast time passes, and realize that one day, they’re going to be old and they might be alone with that step-child they once mistreated.

  38. I know many women who love their step-children as they do their own,Great article.

  39. very good entry once again

  40. I am a product of having a step-mother and even though she and I don’t have a great relationship (We don’t speak) She would never do the things you described in here. To her credit she did her best but it didn’t work as far as she and I are concern. But I will say she is a good person :)

    Sadly there are more stories about the ones like you have described than the other type. This was a good subject to touch on and well written.

  41. What you say is true for some families but many step-mothers are better to the children than the real mothers. I’m not a step mother so I’m not saying that to defend myself. I know both kinds.

  42. These things do happen but it’s not fair to generalize that all step moms are like the way you described them. I think you should keep a balance of things as there are step mothers who are even better than the biological mothers.

  43. people should be rational when they marry the first time, divorce is terrible for practically all involved

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  45. Wow. What a very narrow view you have there. It is possible that your own experiences have given you this opinion however I assure you that not all women hate their step children.

  46. this is very true. i have a friend who can rlate to this

  47. ALL human beings come from one GOD. I know it is not right to hate anybody, whether step children or not

  48. You are one of those people I can’t stand: a person who compares their 5 block experience and translates it to a world view. Do you know 1000 stepmothers? A million? Have you conducted a scientific study based on real data or are you just pulling this out of your ass to make a few extra pennies on Triond??? Your writing is deplorable and irresponsible, but it’s not the worse thing…the worst thing is that you paint ALL step-mothers as evil, money-grubbing, psychos. That might be true…if this was a Disney fairytale! The truth of the matter is you can’t use such a broad brush to paint all people (that leads to racism, moron); and I take particular dislike to your festering hatred of women. You need to explore your world more…meet different people than the obvious garbage that are currently influencing you.

    Jerk.

  49. They don’t like it just as you wouldn’t like to raise someones else kids in Sims for example lol, it’s just not your own

  50. I think your title should be more like Why some women hate step-children. Your title insinuates that all women hate steps.

    I was unfortunate enough to have a step father that did not like us very well, but I also have friends who’s step parent loved and treated them as if they were their very own.

  51. There are all kinds! Some step-moms i think go out of their way to be good to their step children and some sick minded ones fester hatred.

    In my country the popular belief is that step moms are terrible. In fact extreme care is taken while selecting a spouse when there are children from an earlier marriage, esp. in India usually a step mom’s is the wife’s sister, they prefer this(in case of the death of the wife) as they feel the children will be well taken care of. But I have some friends who love and are loved extremely by their step-moms. I think only a sick woman can hate children step or own! It is the animal instinct to reject children not her own. I don’t ever want to come across any such!

  52. Good article, but your asking a bit too many questions, and no solid answers.

  53. What a delicate subject matter :-)
    Strangely, it is not only step-mums who treat their step children so badly sometimes it can be the natural Fathers of the children as well.

    I think this happens (in my case anyway) because my “X” was jealous of the time I spent with my kids and the relationship I had and have with them.

    I once worked for a scientific organisation and part of my job was looking after and carefully observing Rats and other small rodents.

    Many of the male Rats used to eat their young unless they could be segregated early. I think my ex-husband should have been segregated from us much earlier….

    And I have never remarried. Once bitten three times shy! :-)

  54. My stepmother disliked me intensely throughout her marriage to my father. I returned the favor, I wouldn’t even talk to her unless forced to. At least we were lucky that we never lived together.

    Once my dad and stepmother split up, all of a sudden my stepmother and I got along much better.

    My dad had pretended to be a very involved father before marrying my stepmother, but once she saw how it really was she realized that he wasn’t so involved and besides there was 350 miles one way between us.

    In the end, though, we liked each other as women, not as stepdaughter/stepmother. Spent Christmases with her and my dad after the divorce.

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  56. That is so disgusting! These men should probably do a better jobs at screening out these women that they choose. These days, the chances that a woman will marry or date a man who has a child is higher than it’s ever been. These women better get used to it. That is soo selfish.

  57. This is very good. It is sad that there are women who hate their stepchildren. I have never dealt with that because my parents are still together.

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  59. Could be a law of nature. When a male takes over a pride of females the existing children are killed. Maybe it’s like that in humans too. I’m thinking it works both ways, human females feeling the same way. Granted not all of them do but I’m thnking that the instinct to get rid of the off spring of one’s rival is still there in the sub-concious.

  60. You speak as if you are an expert, I would be interested to know the source your knowledge of this mass cruelty and attempted genocide. How can we be living amongst that many cruel women when approximately 50% or more children (in some area it’s 80%) are in second families? You also have not addressed child abuse occurring from natural parents. May it be that your scorn has roots in a personally hurtful experience? I would be careful of generalizing…that’s how racism starts.

  61. I agree with Shilaho, it is observes that ” these” step moms are really blind to the sufferings to the young children also as i fthey are transformed or under some kind of evil shadow.There are exceptions surely but mostly it is true.

  62. I am a step mom to two boys. I started out liking them very much and we all had fun together, but my husband and I got married and three months into the marriage, I don’ tknow what came over me. I started being really mean and abusive towards the youngest one. They were 7 and 5 at the time. It all started like this….the oldest one was mature and played fair. He listened and was a good kid. The youngest is a good kid too , listens but you have to tell him a few times before he does it. He was spoiled and would bully his bro to do what he says. One day I finally had it and started screaming at him. He’s a fat little boy, cute really…and after that I just have this urge to want to hurt him phyiscally and emotionally. I’ve never been an abusive person to adults or children. I am wonderful as aunt to my nephews and nieces….but somehow with my youngest step son, and it seems to only be him, not his older brother…sometime I feel so out of control with my urge to hurt him. I’ve thought about ways to torture him, even fantasize about it. I know this sounds scary, and I feel afraid myself to with these dark thoughts. I want to get help but not sure how.

  63. So what do you do as a man when your wife seems to dislike or even hate your son (her stepson)? I sense this and it perplexes me. Nothing he does is good enough. Everything she says of him of critical, belittling or dismissive. Even progress as far as my son getting paid for writing an article or learning computer science on his own is seen as a negative in some respects. Why can’t some stepmom’s just loosen up? He is 18 and she doesn’t want him to have a key to his own house

  64. THis is not to say my son is perfect. He is a slacker oftentimes and wanders the neighborhood too long, staying up long, erratic hours. He does have a “direction” problem but is basically good underneath it all. He needs some stern discipline at times that his stepmom helps provide, but she is all “vinegar” and no sugar, meaning encouragement is missing usually.

  65. Hello, I’m not even sure this will be posted. I am now a stepMom and though we are struggling at the moment, maybe one should take a step back. waaayyyy back.
    The situation I am in is with two adults that are struggling over a child that is doted on with material items. The mother counts the hours so her support doesn’t get cut, despite the fact the hours the boy is with her she is sleeping and he is on his own mostly to do as he wants. Gee what a great life. We got the boy this past summer and his entire schedule was that of a nightworker. It was insane. Her house has fleas and etc, but she is the perfect mother according to Children’s Aid. She can break wooden spoons over his body and then blame his body for being too bony. Good Grief, Maybe the step mothers are actually distant enough to see the WHOLE picture. So maybe instead of attacking us, by the way I have raised 3 sons with 2 having special needs and my middle son is now on his way to college. Complimented by a university professor in child psychology of my parenting skills. But I am not qualified enough to raise this child. No wonder a child would hate the step Mom that comes in and say the terrible word ‘NO’ and stick to rules that the own parents can’t do.
    I say no with the risk that child will hate me but I am honest and try my best. I love my step son adore him, but honestly his parents need to grow up..

  66. I think that “most”people out in the world has a mentantal pic. of how a Step-Mother should be and, they are all NOT like the wicked step-mother. I love my daughter very much, although I didnt give birth to her (imagine that). It dont sound like most (not all) think that should be, and dont think that is the way sacitity sees things. My Daughter has told me on many occacations that although she love her Bio mom very much, there is nobody can be as good of Mother as Me. I know I am not perfect but, I am in my daughters eyes. AND SHE IS THE PERSON THAT MATTERS MOST.

  67. Never married & with no children, I married a widower & became a step mom to 3 girls, aged 21, 16 & 8. No hate initially on my part. Oldest girl was already married. She was nice enough & never mean to me. Same with youngest. Middle daughter was a spoiled brat bitch. Rebellious. Defiant. Argumentative. I believe she helped drive hew own sick mother to commit suicide. I began to think of her as the stepdaughter from hell. And I began to despise my husband for being a weak wimp who couldn’t control his daughter. Before I could divorce him I got pregnant. I stayed longer. Finally I ran away, taking our baby with me. Eventually we reconciled & had 2 more kids, but the marriage was doomed and we divorced after 17 horrible, unhappy years.

    Maybe some stepmoms hate their step kids because the kids deserve it. My middle one deserved to be hated. She earned it, but not the oldest & youngest. I didn’t hate them, but I felt no special bond with them. I never felt it was my responsibility to stay in the marriage for their sakes but I did feel that way for my kids’ sake. I think the standard of Mother Love is so high and special, that when kids don’t get it from a step parent, they think the stepparent hates them, when in reality the S.P. probably just feels neutral…. but neutral can feel like hate when the child wants LOVE. I certainly never loved my step kids, ever. I could have boned with the youngest one, but the middle daughter would have none of it. She made sure that the youngest stayed loyal to her and their original family unit. I was always an unwelcome outsider who was never “good enough” for her. Sad. Because the youngest one paid the price for her big sister’s selfishness. Youngest dropped out of high school & briefly turned to prostitution. But now she’s “best friend’s” with her big sister, and it never occurs to her the role her big sister played in f*cking up her life.

  68. I certainly would NEVER put the blame on the woman!!! Often a man never even tells the woman he marries he has a child by another woman until AFTER the marriage. In many cases, the first wife..the biological mother…has a mental illness and abused the child through neglect. The father is never REALLY certain the child is his and has never “bonded” with the child. Instead, after a divorce, he often places the child in ANY sort of foster home as he does NOT want the responsibility. THEN he finds a really nice, decent hard-working younger woman without much experience with men, marries her and suddenly FORCES her to quit her job and take care of a child that is NOT hers because of his own personal guilt at the situation. The husband then uses more and more emotional abuse and force to keep his second wife “in line”. She often then develops severe mental disorders, but at the same time has to care for a child that is NOT hers and also has mental problems. The whole situation becomes tragic as the husband abuses the woman, but the woman cannot fight back…so she..in turn…abuses the child..mainly out of frustration and fear of the husband. Until recent times, this was a NO WIN situation as women could not work outside the home after marriage, the husband completely controlled finances..denying both her and the child money for clothing and adequate food and necessities. The wife SUFFERED constant abuse..hence the child was abused by the wife….and the husband? HA!! He was VERY happy as all he had to do was concentrate on his job, come home to a meal and then go to bed and watch TV! No guilt..no problems…and no need to even LOOK at the child. Thankfully…due to higher education for women and the Internet and more knowledge about men, women are not often placed in this position today. EDUCATION is POWER for women, and it’s now only the poor woman without the education who must marry to survive. Sadly, many step-children DO suffer greatly, but the fault ALWAYS lies with the MAN who fathered them!!!!!!!

  69. My own experience is,i am a step child and i never really understood why my step mom was so unfair with me as i never even understood whatever she spoke.i am 33 yrs old now and it\’s only after me turning 25 started understanding what she meant what she spoke.It\’s all in the mind.Now i know that i reminded her of my mother whom i resemble in the photo(i was barely 2 yrs old when my mom died)and with whom my dad had a good relationship(i got to know this when i read the letters written between my parents,which i found in my mothers suitcase..along with her clothes).it\’s also for property inheritence where she was insecure abt her 2 sons.and kind of competation between her step children and own.she could never tolerate my dad being nice to me.i always loved my brothers and it\’s hard even to write that they are not my own brothers.today i am well settled in life with a caring husband and a wonderful daughter but some where my upbringing has made me loose confidence and each day i try to build $my confidence.I pity my step mom who spoilt her a nd her childrens life by being selfish and being insecure.She would be treated like a princess today and would be very happy if she accepted and done her duty without being selfish.At the end of the day i pray for my wonderful dad who tried every minute to set things right.Daddy I love you .You are a true hero.God plz help my step mom and help her to make her life better.

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  70. Sometimes Stepchildren-especially teens or adults make it difficult for the stepmother to like them.Sometimes the stepmother sacrifices and goes out of her way to develop a frienship but the stepchild wants to be a perpetual victim because the parents divorced…even after they marry and have children of thier own.Often ,the stepmother had no part in the parents failure in thier marriage but recieve poor treatment because of two other peoples failure..the biological parents.

    Sometimes the husband is a guilt ridden Daddy who knows he screwed up and uses his wife to prove a point to his children by treating her poorly while in the poor forlorn childrens presence and shows no respect.Notice I said some not all unlike your lumping ALL stepmoms in the article.

    Sometimes the kids need to look no further than thier parents and themselves for the answer why stepmothers have a problem if they are old enough to know better and grasp things..especially in adulthood.I’ve noticed also inheritance plays an issue with adult kids too not just stepmothers who often contribute assests and money into the marriage too not just Daddy dearest.Those types of step kids need to GROW UP AND GET OVER THEMSELVES.And I don’t condone child abuse but I do condone a child treating adults with resoect stepmother or not as long as they aren’t abused.

  71. Wow, your comments are certainly out there. I am currently having issues with my Step-son and went online to look for some handy tips and came across this link.
    I was a Step-Child myself and endured a sometimes lonely childhood with a strict Step-Father when my own Father passed away when I was 5. When I met my husband 3 years ago, I thought I would be an understanding Step-Mum.

    Step-Parenting in a blended family, where he spends week on/week off is much harder than I had ever imagined and the resentment towards me is still there and everyone has an opinion on what we how we should be thinking of his needs
    more.
    He has recently said that he wants to spend more time with his Dad which we are doing and which I encourgage but nothing seems to please him and I have become the target of his frustrations.
    I am currently pregnant and it is hard not to take his treatment od me personally regardless of the fact that he is a child and to get any peace it feels like we have to give into his demands at times.
    Before you write an article where you slate all step-mothers and don’t give credit to those who have accepted their Step-children, think about those who are trying their hardest and want the best for these children.

  72. After reading this it appears as though you have no clue as to what it is like to take care of step-children. You brought up a good point about a step-mother living in her own hell, but you went the wrong direction with it. If women had more courage to talk about their feelings with others then maybe they could understand why they are feeling this way without being judged as inhumane or “women from hell”. I am a step-mother and I, for some reason can’t stand my step-children coming. I love them when I am alone with them and I hate them when they are with their dad. I don’t know why, and that is the reason I am searching for answers and seen this site. I hate feeling the way I do. I have 4 children of my own whose father left and has nothing to do with them. I also lived without a father. Maybe my feelings stem from the fact that I am jealous that they have a father and my children nor I had that luxury. I think that if there were more people who actually came forward with how they feel and talked about it without people like you making them feel horrible then there would be less abuse. I would never abuse my step-children, but I don’t respond to them when they hurt themselves the same way I do with my own children. I don’t know why. I was the same way with my children’s fathers other children when we were married. Those children are now adults and I love them and they love me. They still come to stay with me and call me mom. I don’t know why because I treated them as outcasts when their father and I were together but after he left I continued to get them because he walked out on my 4 AND his 2. All 6 of them were left behind and forgotten about. I was never jealous of them again after he and I divorced. It is an awful feeling and step-mothers often feel as outsiders who have no where to turn. They are hurting inside and can’t speak of it to anyone because then they are monsters.

  73. One more thing, I think the comment about inheritance is stupid. Most women make their own money now a days. I am the primary care provider. I pay all the bills INCLUDING child support for his children. The more I read this article the angrier I get. You are absolutely wrong and need to research this topic before you post such harsh words! The issues go much deeper than inheritance not being given to the mothers or their children. I am the most caring mother and I provide anything and everything they need, but for some reason I can’t grasp an understanding of why I am so angry at my step-children. I seek answers because I hurt, because I don’t understand, and because I know it is not right, but I don’t think it is fair that you are so cruel along with your lack of evidence to support your feelings.

  74. Interesting topic! It speaks to how I feel in a few ways. I\’m in a relationship with a guy who has a son with another woman (they broke up before this child was born and this child lives with his mother). I absolutely dislike his son, cannot accept him or want anything to do with him. My feeling stem from the reasons mentioned in this article- It is a piece of his ex that I have to put up with, it bothers me to the core of my being that he created a child with another woman, and I’m very territorial and don’t like sharing my partner with anyone. Interesting to note that while I\’m cold and indifferent to his son I\’m absolutely in love with his nephews and treat them with love and care as if they were my own. My partner hopes that when we\’ll have children my attitude towards his son will change because I will understand what it is like to be a parent. Unfortunately, I have a feeling that I will get even worse and become more territorial because I will ensure that my children will come first and will get the best of everything. Though this article made a lot of generalizations I completely related to many aspects of this article (minus the torturing and the killing part).

  75. I am a step parent. I am ok with the fact that I do not like or love my step child. I do not feel that this makes me a bad person. Why should we step mothers continue to beat ourselves up over not loving a child. It is our natural instinct to love. We cannot force that emotion.

    The most a step child can hope for is to be treated with kindness and decency. So long as a step parent does that, they haber done their duty. Step kids are merely something one puts up with because they fell in love with a man. I think it is unrealistic to expect women to have emotions that just aren’t there.

  76. I hate my step-kids, the wicked monsters that they are!!!!

  77. I agree with you, I love the man I am with, but it does not mean I have to love or like his children. His children are very different than me or my children, and that is what makes it very hard to like them. Also the fact that my husband does not discipline them or make them do anything around the house makes it even harder, but when I try to, it turns in to a big argument with my husband and he tells them they don’t have to. When they come to our house, they arrive every other friday at 6 they o to their room get on the computer and the only time we see them is to eat, until they leave on Sunday, they make a mess eating, always have a huge pile of dishes that I have to clean and a disgusting bedroom.

  78. Thank you for once again propogating the bigotry against step-mothers. I have 3 female step children. I do not have children of my own, I do not like children in general. This being said, I bend over backwards to make these children welcome in our home, cared for, supported and heard which is far more than their bio-mum does. I fix their school uniforms and wash them, replace school clothes with holes, get them new school shoes when their’s have falled apart – which their mother doesn’t.

    Women I have spoken to who grew up in a step family have told me that their step-mum was the best thing that ever happened to them. Like everything, there are bad seeds everywhere, ‘labels’ don’t help anyone. Being a step mum is a damn hard job, more so than being a bio-parent. Cut us some slack. If you haven’t been there, please don’t be too quick to judge.

  79. Great article. I was never physically tortured by my stepmonster but she made it clear from day one she didn’t want me around. I was 10 years old but I could tell she hated me. She didn’t even try to hide it. I was there first but somehow she considered me an intruder in HER life.

    She constantly ran me down to my father and tried to get him to abandon me. She was resentful of any time him and I spent together. And she would raise a huge stink if he spent any money on me. (that money was for her alone)

    He was super strict with me just to keep her happy and to this day we do not have a close relationship because of it. I could never complain about her because he would always take her side. And to pay him back for mistreating his own flesh and blood for her, she slept with his best friend!

    And for all those posters complaining “All stepmoms aren’t like that” Screw you! I have scores of friends from divorced families and they ALL have stories like mine.

  80. Your view is insanely bias. Stepbrats stink!!! The don\\\’t. Deserve air to breathe. Stop defending them and realize they mistakes that our husbands made and they are repulsive. I am glad to hear of the burning poking and poisoning. Way to you to those moms!.. wish id the courage to do that stuff

  81. bottom line dont divorce if u have kids!!!!! god shake what a mess,i am like kelly comments in this article i dont want to torture them or be bad but i want them out of my life, no matter what is a piece of his ex and i will never tolarate that.people say its not their fault but either is mine,its their mothers and if she didnt care why a stranger woman should???plain selfish mother they had.so if they dont like it they should go to their mom and ask explanations,why she cheated their dad and didnt protect the whole family,
    i am aswel nice with my nephews and other peoples kids exept the exes so i guess u cant go against nature all the time.
    even if the ex wife was an angel would any second wife would like her?or is she was the best person on world?no it has nothing to do if the ex is bad or good or the kids are bad or good its still from a previous sexual relationship and is hard to like them ny nature,some women can but many cant, i would reccomend dont divorce,in the first place.

  82. and by the way if a man is widowed there is were i beleive a woman should take care of them as their own if possible,although its something i could never do cause its big responsibility ,but if they are young and they know me as mom then i could accept it as my own but just if it was a baby and mother dead hahhaah.
    but i would prefer stay away any ways cause i prefer suffer for my own kids,cause even to make ur own kids is hard task.
    but divorced man is kinda tricky u think there is no trouble but there is before u realise it ur in the mess…

  83. You’re not on the step mother’s shoes and you don’t understand what’s it like. I agreed it’s not the child’s fault but not all children are as innocent as you think.

    I entered the relationship with my partner with an open minded thinking his child need care from a woman as the parents separated since she was 2yo. I looked after her, took her to school, picked her up, cleaned, washed, bought her clothes … you name it. I’m working full time and I have 2 kids of my own as well, so you can imagine how rushing I was every day…But she’s not a normal 6yo kid that I thought, she stole a bag of lollies from the shop and hid under her shirt (she was 6yo!!), she got into a fight with other kids at school nearly every week then told a very convincing story to her dad that the other kid attacked her until he found out from the principal that she was a terror herself !!! She took whatever she wanted to play with then after put in my son’s draw to get him into trouble, she used texter to scribble the whole bedroom wall and bed sheet, She even pooped in her pants then told me that she didn’t want to go to the toilet (she was 7). And the list go on….All the clothes I bought for her never came back when she took them to her mum. Then the worst came, one day after she left home 8 hrs to see her mum on the weekend, I got a phone call from the police informed me that there was an AVO drawn against me and an assault claim from her mum ( I was away on business trip the whole week and just came home the day before). That what I got from looking after other people’s kid!!! I got arrested, I had to appear in court 3 times but the police couldn’t find any evidence and they dropped the charges. Thank you there is GOD above us. I moved out, I couldn’t take it any more.

    And guess what the mum doesn’t want her, even the father offered to set up the place for her and the kid, pay half of the rent, pay all expenses for the kid, school fees, everything. She said she couldn’t do it. What a mum!!! And that’s the biological mother.

    I wish I never met her in my life!!!

    So please don’t accuse stepmother until you are in their shoes.

  84. I didn’t hate my step daughter; then I realized that she thought of herself as better than my daughter and belittled her in front of friends. I found out she was looking at porn on the internet, having sex, sending picture of herself to strangers in other states, doing everything behind our backs. To our faces, we thought everything was okay. She smiled, did well in school, willingly helped out at home. Total betrayal. I quit my career and took a crappy third shift job so I could be home to monitor her. I paid for attorney fees. I know that there are issues in her life that cause these behaviors in her, and I ache for her because of them, want to be there for her to help her deal with it. But I end up just hating her because we are in constant turmoil in our family and it’s always surrounding her. If it weren’t for her, we’d be happy. That’s a hard thing to say.

  85. I can be considered as a step mom and I am going to be a complete honest one to this article. The reason I hate my husbands children who are (4 the boy and 3 the girl) is because there is always going to be a relationship with the childrens mom and my husband that is never going to go away. Although he did not marry her he lived with her for 4 years. I feel that those children are a mistake becuase the mother of those children just had them with my husband becuase she was getting too old to have any more children so she had two more apart from two children she previously had with another man. The thought of that woman makes me more angry becuase everytime i see those children they remind me of the mother who was irresponsible and had children to please others not herself. I also feel those children are ruining my marriage life becuase my husband always has to think about paying child support and listening to my mother in law begging him to see those children he truly does not care for. I say this because he has said this plenty of times not just to tell me what i want to hear but because you know when a father loves their children and he does not care for them. I also feel that I have been cheated out by those children because when me and my husbnd have children he will never get the “dad for the first time” feeling like I will feel as a mom. What irritates me more is that his first born was a son and sometimes he mentions that I must have a son first and I feel if I dont he will include his son into our lives which I do not want. Apart from this I will experience first parent experiences and my husband wont and that makes me extremely mad. I will hate the fact that he will eventually say, “yea I experienced that with my kids” or something like that. As bad as this sounds to people this is VERY realistic and other women feel the same. I conclude this with saying I have been nothing but honest and what I am doing to have a happier marriage is me and my husband are looking into moving out of the country to start a new life with NO KIDS OF his past girlfriend not wife and we will happily have children who are not bastards that come from a catholic marriage.

  86. I can tell you this much J when you have stepchildren, you give them the same amount of love as you give your own children and women don’t hate them unless they are jealous of the fact that the child was fathered somewhere else.
    It means that the woman took away the sanctity of that emotion and the love shared between two people by first sleeping with the man who is now a father of a child outside wedlock.
    Technically speaking the child is called a Bastard as they don’t know who the father is unless they go and confess and integrate the two families and acquaint the father with that child.
    But will the society accept it?? Well truth is in a blinkered society, no. But in an Openminded society MAYBE.
    The children are the ones who are stigmatised not the parent. They are the ones who spread their legs all over town and covet another persons love/partner and produce seeds of that union.
    It is the woman who holds the key if she cannot keep her legs together and prevent seducing a man who always goes to a place where there is food she is unfit to be a mother let alone him being a father.
    Sorry J, such women are insipid in society and they are women who bring out rapists, murderer, hackers and whatever crime.
    There is no balance in the upbringing, let alone the values.
    I am a single mum and if my ex-husband would have told me about an illicit child, I would have cried my heart out and kicked him out but kept the child as the child is innocent he didnot have the control and the woman is the worst ever, she seduced him to have the child.

  87. Before any of your team insinuate any further, I know who the father of my son is and yes, he was produiced within wedlock and I have the birth certificate and blood report to prove it…
    But hey, I have to caveat myself as someone called me Aiyanna Banana, accused me of being a pedophile and what not…

  88. I am in a situation now with a step mother/gilfriend from hell, my best friends girl friend. She is a monster, a drunk, and a manipulator. She hates my 8 yr old God son so much that his father got me to move back to the states form Costa Rica to help raise him, I am his only Mother figure and now consider him my child. Still his father insists on bringing this nightmare female into his life and into his home. This creature has reeked havock on our lives and at times I feel like the little dutch boy with fingers pluging the holes in a crumbling dyke. She has even attacked me and I had to take her to the floor to keep her from doing more damage to me personaly, lucky for me I am a former prison guard and have been trained in self defence and in management of agressive behaviors. Even so she is 11 yrs my junior, I am 51, she still landed several good right hooks to the side of my face, head and jaw, loosening a molar and causing severe swelling, and lots of pain and a mild concusion, she was even trying to bite me when I got control of her right fist, and pulling a large chunk of my hair out by the roots. Still I was not trying to hurt her just keep her pined down till she calmed down, and I di manage that. What about the next mental meltdown she has. What if she goes for my God son or my own 12 yr old daughter. We are living in hell here. My friend swore she would go to rehab and get help, she convinced his she didn’t need it. He swore she had stoped drinkin, yet there are empty wine bottels all over the house. She shows him only the face she wants him to see, the one she shows the rest of us, me and the kids is her real face. No one we know comes out to the house any more cause she is here and most wont let thier kids come and play or swim. He swears that she only acts like that when she drinks, I say the drink just lets her show her true self, lets the real bitch off the leash so to speak. When she is sober the hate and resentment are still there under the face she shows him. I see the real face when he isn’t looking, so do the kids. Why do I stay you may ask? I made a promise to my boy that I would never leave him again, and I am a woman of my word. He needs one stable adult in his corner, and I am it.

  89. I can relate to this one, my daughter is 16 and she is treated like a 2nd class citizen by her stepfather. He is in total denial about how he treats her. She cannot have a key to the house, she cannot exspress an opinion, he considers it argueing. He calls her a cow or pig when she eats, so now she covers her mouth even when shes chewing with her mouth closed. He has nothing good to say about her…………we have left.

  90. The title is just NOT true. I do not hate my stepchildren. Sometimes I catch myself overlooking things I would correct my biological children doing as I am always trying to not be hated by them. My husbands ex has always turned the children against me and my husband and speak nasty about us both which is horrible for the children as this is the strongest influential parent the bio-mom. I go out of my way to explain to the stepkids that I care for them the same as I do my own and would do anything for them even when they are mean. I can’t imagine hating my stepchildren. My eldest stepchild, who is now in her 20’s, won’t speak to us at the moment and has said the worst things imaginable to me when my father was dying but I don’t hate “her” I might not like her attitude or things she says or does but I still love her. I wish everyone would learn to try and see the best rather than the worst in people rather than pass judgment. I get judged all the time by outsiders that see how we avoid my husbands ex even at weddings and other get togethers but they just don’t have a clue what we go through all the time. My husbands ex is extremely verbally abuses in public and in email. Once she banged on my car out of anger as I wouldn’t listen or talk with her at a child drop off. She sues us looking for $ all the time and when she loses (which is each time) and courts ask her to pay the fee’s she doesn’t. She forgets to pick her kids up and is rarely ever on time. If she knows my husband is out of town she purposely tries to change a child exchange but she doesn’t have custody however, she knows it makes life difficult for us so she does this stuff. We do NOT talk negatively in front of kids of the mother but am sure they can tell from our faces when she does upset us and they are present. However, she speaks negatively about us and they tell us when they are allowed to tell us as they have secrets with her. Life is VERY difficult dealing with the ex but I put up with it for the kids and all I can say is that one day I hope they all realize al that I went thru for them and I hope that my bio kids don’t resent me for putting up with too much as they too are effected from it all. In short….I think most step mother’s get a bad wrap and “LOVE” the stepchildren.

  91. ok im going to look at it from both sides well there are a lot stepkids out there who do make it difficult for the stepparent to like them wether it be man or woman becuase maybe they want their parents to get back together or they feel like there going to hurt the other parent\’s feelings or there scared there taking the other parent away and yea snd slot of them can be down right mean to the stepaprent becuase they earned it and deserved it by acting like spoiled brats after the stepparent try to be nice and open up to the children so yea those are the ones that should be treated like crap and yes the kids with mix feelings about the new mommy and daddy so yea but on other hand also I guess being a parent and a stepparent can be hard and a thankless job too when the kids don\’t play fair so yea but my stepdad and I have a good and bad relationship but now I\’m going to get to the other point here and now I get the fact that life doesn\’t work out the way u want it so u have to grab your happiness at anyway u get it wether the person has kids are not but here\’s the thing If u cant handle the fact the your new spouse had a past and then dont go out with someone and then marry them and alot of ya\’ll have children and I think thats what ya\’ll want where only you bring the children into the realtionship and your new spouses kids can jump in the damn lake I mean come on now I agree you don\’t have to like or love your stepkids but you can tolerate them and treat them with dignity and respect If they disrespect you then you ignore them or tell your their mom or dad and let them handle it and yea I admit there are stepparents out there that called the kids there own just to piss off the ex spouse then go behind close doors and treat the stepchild like fucking dog shit under there feet then alot of them only wanna plasy the nice card intil they marry there new spouse and then turn on the child like that and then they wanna say they wanna divorce or becuase enraged because the spouse that they prefessed their love to is paying attention to his or her kids and not paying attention to their kids It\’s like well this is sarcastic LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY SLAPPING YOUR KIDS CALLING THEM NAMES TELLING THEM THEIR STUPID THEY WON\’T AMOUNT TO NOTHING LET ME PAY MY NEW SPOUSES LOVE BACK BY BEATING YOUR KIDS BY PUSHING THEM DOWN A FLIGHT OF STAIRS OR LET ME TREAT THE CHILD THAT LOOKS LIKE YOUR EX LIKE SHIT AND LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY BEATING THE EXSTENCE OUT OF THE CHILD OR THAT I WANNA BE FIRST NOW OR THAT IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT ME AND MY KIDS LET PAY OR LOVE BACK BY BEING CONTROLLING AND TELLING YOU TO ONLY FOCUS ON ME AND MY KIDS this part is to the stepmothers only only the bad ones MY CHILDRENS FATHER OR FATHERS AREN\’T AROUND BECUASE HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM OR I\’M KEEPING THEM FROM HIM AND LYING TO YOUR FACE BY SAYING THAT THERE FATHER ISNT AROUND EVEN THOUGH I LIED AND TOLD HIM TO GO FUCK HIMSELF THAT IF HE LEAVES ME HE WILL NEVER SEE HIS CHILDREN AGAIN AND SAME TO YOU IF WE GET DIVORCE YOU WILL NEVER THE KIDS THAT WE HAVE TOGETHER AGAIN EVER yea like I said this only for the stepmothers LET ME THEARTENED YOU WITH DIVORCE IF YOU SPEND ANYTIME WITH YOUR KIDS OR IF IT ISNT MY WAY LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY STARVING YOUR KIDS AND CHOCKING THEM LET PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY TELLING YOU THAT I LIED AND SAYING IT WAS COOL THAT YOU HAVE KIDS BUT THE REASON I WANTED A SINGLE PARENT FOR IS SO THAT MY NEW SPOUSE HAS EXPIRENCED BUT AFTER THAT I WANT YOU TO ABANDONED TEHM this part is for the stepmoms too yes the evil ones from hell I DIDNT HAVE A FATHER GROWING UP SO LET ME PUNISH YOUR KIDS BECUASE MY WUSSBAG FATHER WHO COULDNT PRODUCE SONS CREATED SOMEONE LIKE ME A JEALOUS TERRIOTORIAL VAGINA LOL LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY FINALLY KILLING YOUR KIDS AND YEA WE MAY GO TO JAIL BUT ATLEAST I\’LL HAVE MY PERFECT FAMILY EVEN THOUGH I\’LL BE ROTTING IN JAIL AND WE MIGHT GET DIVORCED FOR IT ALSO BUT ATLEAST THEY\’LL BE PUT OF MY LIFE AND LET PAY U AND YOUR FAMILY BACK BY NOT SHOWING ANY REMOSE OH LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY THE THE ONLY KIDS THAT WILL GET TREATED LIKE SHIT ARE YOURS AND IF YOU EVER TREAT MINE LIKE CRAP I\’LL LEAVE YOU AND I think some of these evil stepparents out here only find men or women that are the desperate ones and I think some people only wanna marry someone just so that they can control them too ok you all choose to date someone whi had children and if he or she didn\’t tell you then you need to leave there ass and i think alot stepparents out there are like be mean to the kids first before they do it to you and then after the kids open up to ya\’ll and are nice to ya\’ll. Ya\’ll think oh well were married now I can turn on the kids and treat them like shit now and tell them to go fuck them selves and to quit runing my perfect happy little life and the perfect familt that i want where it should only consist of me and my children and the children we might have together ok yes those evil steparents should be tortured ok just becayse your lifes sucked you dont take punish your new family for and if u dont wanna play mommy or daddy or be a stepparent THEN HELLO DUMBASSES DON\’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS FUCKING CHILDREN YOU FUCKING IDIOTS you have no right to treat someone\’s children like shit becaue guess what they didnt ask to be put on this fucking earth just like you are me and you else is stupid a stepparent who treats their stepchild or children like crap just because of their genetic make up a.k.a looks like the other spuse oh one more sarcastic thing i wanna put LT ME OAY YOUR LOVE BACK USING MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL AND PSYCOLOGICAL AND VERBAL ABUSE ON YOUR CHILD OH YEAH I LOVE U baby and you know you these children are with you ful time becuase the other parent is either dead or a deadbeat and put their needs ahead of their children and the men and women who are staying with these people who are hurting your own flesh and blood why because you DON\’T WANNA LIVE ALONE mena and women ok this is for the men part WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU GONNA STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS OR KID LIKE FUCKING DOGSHIT FROM UNDERNEATH HER FEET WHY BECAUE YOU DON\’T WANNA COOK YOUR MEALS CLEAN YOUR OWN HOUSE DO YOUR CHORES WHY BECAUSE IT\’S GONNA KILL YOU INSIDE BECUASE YOU CAN\’T SHOVE YOUR COCK IN BETWEEN HER LEGS BECUASE YOUR A WUSS BAG FOR NOT STANDING UP FOR YOUR CHILDREN BECUASE YOU FEEL LIKE IF YOU GET DIVORCED AGAIN YOUR GONNA PUT SHAME ON YOUR FAMILY OR THAT YOUR SCARED OF THE DARK OR SOMETHING AND NOW FOR THE WOMEN WHY IN THE FUCKING HELL ARE YOU GOING TO STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS LIKE SHIT UNDER HIS FEET WHY BECAUSE YOU DON\’T WANNA GET A JOB OR PAY YOUR BILLS OR CLEAN OR THAT OR SCARED TO BE ALONE TO get over it they just want a relationship where it\’s one way that they except your to treat kids like royality and they get to treat yours like crap but on another note i know the other reason too that stepparents are the way that they are for is because of the ex making it difficult and the new ex spouse and the new spuse get hell for it and yes they try there damndest to tell the children he or she is this and that sp yea and not all steparents are bad theres alot of good ones out there don\’t get me wrong but if your jealous and territorial and controlling and manipulative and mean and rude and can\’t except your new spouses past or child or children or want that person all to yourself then dont marry that person idc if you have the biggest crush on that person that your heart wants to pop out of your fucking chest you dont trat the person that loves child like shit ok you know what these of people that would treat the ex\’s children like shit and wanna treat the neices and nephews and other people\’s children I bet you would aslo treat a pedophile or a child molestor or any tyoe of register sex offender or a drug dealer or any type of psycotic person better than your new spouses children and these people that hurt there new spouses children nned to go eat shit and die and the children that are make it hard for the new spouse to like them need to go to conseuling and get the help that you need well I\’m done here

  92. ok im going to look at it from both sides well there are a lot stepkids out there who do make it difficult for the stepparent to like them wether it be man or woman becuase maybe they want their parents to get back together or they feel like there going to hurt the other parent\’s feelings or there scared there taking the other parent away and yea snd slot of them can be down right mean to the stepaprent becuase they earned it and deserved it by acting like spoiled brats after the stepparent try to be nice and open up to the children so yea those are the ones that should be treated like crap and yes the kids with mix feelings about the new mommy and daddy so yea but on other hand also I guess being a parent and a stepparent can be hard and a thankless job too when the kids don\’t play fair so yea but my stepdad and I have a good and bad relationship but now I\’m going to get to the other point here and now I get the fact that life doesn\’t work out the way u want it so u have to grab your happiness at anyway u get it wether the person has kids are not but here\’s the thing If u cant handle the fact the your new spouse had a past and then dont go out with someone and then marry them and alot of ya\’ll have children and I think thats what ya\’ll want where only you bring the children into the realtionship and your new spouses kids can jump in the damn lake I mean come on now I agree you don\’t have to like or love your stepkids but you can tolerate them and treat them with dignity and respect If they disrespect you then you ignore them or tell your their mom or dad and let them handle it and yea I admit there are stepparents out there that called the kids there own just to piss off the ex spouse then go behind close doors and treat the stepchild like fucking dog shit under there feet then alot of them only wanna plasy the nice card intil they marry there new spouse and then turn on the child like that and then they wanna say they wanna divorce or becuase enraged because the spouse that they prefessed their love to is paying attention to his or her kids and not paying attention to their kids It\’s like well this is sarcastic LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY SLAPPING YOUR KIDS CALLING THEM NAMES TELLING THEM THEIR STUPID THEY WON\’T AMOUNT TO NOTHING LET ME PAY MY NEW SPOUSES LOVE BACK BY BEATING YOUR KIDS BY PUSHING THEM DOWN A FLIGHT OF STAIRS OR LET ME TREAT THE CHILD THAT LOOKS LIKE YOUR EX LIKE SHIT AND LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY BEATING THE EXSTENCE OUT OF THE CHILD OR THAT I WANNA BE FIRST NOW OR THAT IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT ME AND MY KIDS LET PAY OR LOVE BACK BY BEING CONTROLLING AND TELLING YOU TO ONLY FOCUS ON ME AND MY KIDS this part is to the stepmothers only only the bad ones MY CHILDRENS FATHER OR FATHERS AREN\’T AROUND BECUASE HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM OR I\’M KEEPING THEM FROM HIM AND LYING TO YOUR FACE BY SAYING THAT THERE FATHER ISNT AROUND EVEN THOUGH I LIED AND TOLD HIM TO GO FUCK HIMSELF THAT IF HE LEAVES ME HE WILL NEVER SEE HIS CHILDREN AGAIN AND SAME TO YOU IF WE GET DIVORCE YOU WILL NEVER THE KIDS THAT WE HAVE TOGETHER AGAIN EVER yea like I said this only for the stepmothers LET ME THEARTENED YOU WITH DIVORCE IF YOU SPEND ANYTIME WITH YOUR KIDS OR IF IT ISNT MY WAY LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY STARVING YOUR KIDS AND CHOCKING THEM LET PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY TELLING YOU THAT I LIED AND SAYING IT WAS COOL THAT YOU HAVE KIDS BUT THE REASON I WANTED A SINGLE PARENT FOR IS SO THAT MY NEW SPOUSE HAS EXPIRENCED BUT AFTER THAT I WANT YOU TO ABANDONED TEHM this part is for the stepmoms too yes the evil ones from hell I DIDNT HAVE A FATHER GROWING UP SO LET ME PUNISH YOUR KIDS BECUASE MY WUSSBAG FATHER WHO COULDNT PRODUCE SONS CREATED SOMEONE LIKE ME A JEALOUS TERRIOTORIAL VAGINA LOL LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY FINALLY KILLING YOUR KIDS AND YEA WE MAY GO TO JAIL BUT ATLEAST I\’LL HAVE MY PERFECT FAMILY EVEN THOUGH I\’LL BE ROTTING IN JAIL AND WE MIGHT GET DIVORCED FOR IT ALSO BUT ATLEAST THEY\’LL BE PUT OF MY LIFE AND LET PAY U AND YOUR FAMILY BACK BY NOT SHOWING ANY REMOSE OH LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY THE THE ONLY KIDS THAT WILL GET TREATED LIKE SHIT ARE YOURS AND IF YOU EVER TREAT MINE LIKE CRAP I\’LL LEAVE YOU AND I think some of these evil stepparents out here only find men or women that are the desperate ones and I think some people only wanna marry someone just so that they can control them too ok you all choose to date someone whi had children and if he or she didn\’t tell you then you need to leave there ass and i think alot stepparents out there are like be mean to the kids first before they do it to you and then after the kids open up to ya\’ll and are nice to ya\’ll. Ya\’ll think oh well were married now I can turn on the kids and treat them like shit now and tell them to go fuck them selves and to quit runing my perfect happy little life and the perfect familt that i want where it should only consist of me and my children and the children we might have together ok yes those evil steparents should be tortured ok just becayse your lifes sucked you dont take punish your new family for and if u dont wanna play mommy or daddy or be a stepparent THEN HELLO DUMBASSES DON\’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS FUCKING CHILDREN YOU FUCKING IDIOTS you have no right to treat someone\’s children like shit becaue guess what they didnt ask to be put on this fucking earth just like you are me and you else is stupid a stepparent who treats their stepchild or children like crap just because of their genetic make up a.k.a looks like the other spuse oh one more sarcastic thing i wanna put LT ME OAY YOUR LOVE BACK USING MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL AND PSYCOLOGICAL AND VERBAL ABUSE ON YOUR CHILD OH YEAH I LOVE U baby and you know you these children are with you ful time becuase the other parent is either dead or a deadbeat and put their needs ahead of their children and the men and women who are staying with these people who are hurting your own flesh and blood why because you DON\’T WANNA LIVE ALONE mena and women ok this is for the men part WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU GONNA STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS OR KID LIKE FUCKING DOGSHIT FROM UNDERNEATH HER FEET WHY BECAUE YOU DON\’T WANNA COOK YOUR MEALS CLEAN YOUR OWN HOUSE DO YOUR CHORES WHY BECAUSE IT\’S GONNA KILL YOU INSIDE BECUASE YOU CAN\’T SHOVE YOUR COCK IN BETWEEN HER LEGS BECUASE YOUR A WUSS BAG FOR NOT STANDING UP FOR YOUR CHILDREN BECUASE YOU FEEL LIKE IF YOU GET DIVORCED AGAIN YOUR GONNA PUT SHAME ON YOUR FAMILY OR THAT YOUR SCARED OF THE DARK OR SOMETHING AND NOW FOR THE WOMEN WHY IN THE FUCKING HELL ARE YOU GOING TO STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS LIKE SHIT UNDER HIS FEET WHY BECAUSE YOU DON\’T WANNA GET A JOB OR PAY YOUR BILLS OR CLEAN OR THAT OR SCARED TO BE ALONE TO get over it they just want a relationship where it\’s one way that they except your to treat kids like royality and they get to treat yours like crap but on another note i know the other reason too that stepparents are the way that they are for is because of the ex making it difficult and the new ex spouse and the new spuse get hell for it and yes they try there damndest to tell the children he or she is this and that sp yea and not all steparents are bad theres alot of good ones out there don\’t get me wrong but if your jealous and territorial and controlling and manipulative and mean and rude and can\’t except your new spouses past or child or children or want that person all to yourself then dont marry that person idc if you have the biggest crush on that person that your heart wants to pop out of your fucking chest you dont trat the person that loves child like shit ok you know what these of people that would treat the ex\’s children like shit and wanna treat the neices and nephews and other people\’s children I bet you would aslo treat a pedophile or a child molestor or any tyoe of register sex offender or a drug dealer or any type of psycotic person better than your new spouses children and these people that hurt there new spouses children nned to go eat shit and die and the children that are make it hard for the new spouse to like them need to go to conseuling and get the help that you need well I\’m done here

  93. ok im going to look at it from both sides well there are a lot stepkids out there who do make it difficult for the stepparent to like them wether it be man or woman becuase maybe they want their parents to get back together or they feel like there going to hurt the other parent\\\’s feelings or there scared there taking the other parent away and yea snd slot of them can be down right mean to the stepaprent becuase they earned it and deserved it by acting like spoiled brats after the stepparent try to be nice and open up to the children so yea those are the ones that should be treated like crap and yes the kids with mix feelings about the new mommy and daddy so yea but on other hand also I guess being a parent and a stepparent can be hard and a thankless job too when the kids don\\\’t play fair so yea but my stepdad and I have a good and bad relationship but now I\\\’m going to get to the other point here and now I get the fact that life doesn\\\’t work out the way u want it so u have to grab your happiness at anyway u get it wether the person has kids are not but here\\\’s the thing If u cant handle the fact the your new spouse had a past and then dont go out with someone and then marry them and alot of ya\\\’ll have children and I think thats what ya\\\’ll want where only you bring the children into the realtionship and your new spouses kids can jump in the damn lake I mean come on now I agree you don\\\’t have to like or love your stepkids but you can tolerate them and treat them with dignity and respect If they disrespect you then you ignore them or tell your their mom or dad and let them handle it and yea I admit there are stepparents out there that called the kids there own just to piss off the ex spouse then go behind close doors and treat the stepchild like fucking dog shit under there feet then alot of them only wanna plasy the nice card intil they marry there new spouse and then turn on the child like that and then they wanna say they wanna divorce or becuase enraged because the spouse that they prefessed their love to is paying attention to his or her kids and not paying attention to their kids It\\\’s like well this is sarcastic LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY SLAPPING YOUR KIDS CALLING THEM NAMES TELLING THEM THEIR STUPID THEY WON\\\’T AMOUNT TO NOTHING LET ME PAY MY NEW SPOUSES LOVE BACK BY BEATING YOUR KIDS BY PUSHING THEM DOWN A FLIGHT OF STAIRS OR LET ME TREAT THE CHILD THAT LOOKS LIKE YOUR EX LIKE SHIT AND LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY BEATING THE EXSTENCE OUT OF THE CHILD OR THAT I WANNA BE FIRST NOW OR THAT IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT ME AND MY KIDS LET PAY OR LOVE BACK BY BEING CONTROLLING AND TELLING YOU TO ONLY FOCUS ON ME AND MY KIDS this part is to the stepmothers only only the bad ones MY CHILDRENS FATHER OR FATHERS AREN\\\’T AROUND BECUASE HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM OR I\\\’M KEEPING THEM FROM HIM AND LYING TO YOUR FACE BY SAYING THAT THERE FATHER ISNT AROUND EVEN THOUGH I LIED AND TOLD HIM TO GO FUCK HIMSELF THAT IF HE LEAVES ME HE WILL NEVER SEE HIS CHILDREN AGAIN AND SAME TO YOU IF WE GET DIVORCE YOU WILL NEVER THE KIDS THAT WE HAVE TOGETHER AGAIN EVER yea like I said this only for the stepmothers LET ME THEARTENED YOU WITH DIVORCE IF YOU SPEND ANYTIME WITH YOUR KIDS OR IF IT ISNT MY WAY LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY STARVING YOUR KIDS AND CHOCKING THEM LET PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY TELLING YOU THAT I LIED AND SAYING IT WAS COOL THAT YOU HAVE KIDS BUT THE REASON I WANTED A SINGLE PARENT FOR IS SO THAT MY NEW SPOUSE HAS EXPIRENCED BUT AFTER THAT I WANT YOU TO ABANDONED TEHM this part is for the stepmoms too yes the evil ones from hell I DIDNT HAVE A FATHER GROWING UP SO LET ME PUNISH YOUR KIDS BECUASE MY WUSSBAG FATHER WHO COULDNT PRODUCE SONS CREATED SOMEONE LIKE ME A JEALOUS TERRIOTORIAL VAGINA LOL LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY FINALLY KILLING YOUR KIDS AND YEA WE MAY GO TO JAIL BUT ATLEAST I\\\’LL HAVE MY PERFECT FAMILY EVEN THOUGH I\\\’LL BE ROTTING IN JAIL AND WE MIGHT GET DIVORCED FOR IT ALSO BUT ATLEAST THEY\\\’LL BE PUT OF MY LIFE AND LET PAY U AND YOUR FAMILY BACK BY NOT SHOWING ANY REMOSE OH LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY THE THE ONLY KIDS THAT WILL GET TREATED LIKE SHIT ARE YOURS AND IF YOU EVER TREAT MINE LIKE CRAP I\\\’LL LEAVE YOU AND I think some of these evil stepparents out here only find men or women that are the desperate ones and I think some people only wanna marry someone just so that they can control them too ok you all choose to date someone whi had children and if he or she didn\\\’t tell you then you need to leave there ass and i think alot stepparents out there are like be mean to the kids first before they do it to you and then after the kids open up to ya\\\’ll and are nice to ya\\\’ll. Ya\\\’ll think oh well were married now I can turn on the kids and treat them like shit now and tell them to go fuck them selves and to quit runing my perfect happy little life and the perfect familt that i want where it should only consist of me and my children and the children we might have together ok yes those evil steparents should be tortured ok just becayse your lifes sucked you dont take punish your new family for and if u dont wanna play mommy or daddy or be a stepparent THEN HELLO DUMBASSES DON\\\’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS FUCKING CHILDREN YOU FUCKING IDIOTS you have no right to treat someone\\\’s children like shit becaue guess what they didnt ask to be put on this fucking earth just like you are me and you else is stupid a stepparent who treats their stepchild or children like crap just because of their genetic make up a.k.a looks like the other spuse oh one more sarcastic thing i wanna put LT ME OAY YOUR LOVE BACK USING MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL AND PSYCOLOGICAL AND VERBAL ABUSE ON YOUR CHILD OH YEAH I LOVE U baby and you know you these children are with you ful time becuase the other parent is either dead or a deadbeat and put their needs ahead of their children and the men and women who are staying with these people who are hurting your own flesh and blood why because you DON\\\’T WANNA LIVE ALONE mena and women ok this is for the men part WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU GONNA STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS OR KID LIKE FUCKING DOGSHIT FROM UNDERNEATH HER FEET WHY BECAUE YOU DON\\\’T WANNA COOK YOUR MEALS CLEAN YOUR OWN HOUSE DO YOUR CHORES WHY BECAUSE IT\\\’S GONNA KILL YOU INSIDE BECUASE YOU CAN\\\’T SHOVE YOUR COCK IN BETWEEN HER LEGS BECUASE YOUR A WUSS BAG FOR NOT STANDING UP FOR YOUR CHILDREN BECUASE YOU FEEL LIKE IF YOU GET DIVORCED AGAIN YOUR GONNA PUT SHAME ON YOUR FAMILY OR THAT YOUR SCARED OF THE DARK OR SOMETHING AND NOW FOR THE WOMEN WHY IN THE FUCKING HELL ARE YOU GOING TO STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS LIKE SHIT UNDER HIS FEET WHY BECAUSE YOU DON\\\’T WANNA GET A JOB OR PAY YOUR BILLS OR CLEAN OR THAT OR SCARED TO BE ALONE TO get over it they just want a relationship where it\\\’s one way that they except your to treat kids like royality and they get to treat yours like crap but on another note i know the other reason too that stepparents are the way that they are for is because of the ex making it difficult and the new ex spouse and the new spuse get hell for it and yes they try there damndest to tell the children he or she is this and that sp yea and not all steparents are bad theres alot of good ones out there don\\\’t get me wrong but if your jealous and territorial and controlling and manipulative and mean and rude and can\\\’t except your new spouses past or child or children or want that person all to yourself then dont marry that person idc if you have the biggest crush on that person that your heart wants to pop out of your fucking chest you dont trat the person that loves child like shit ok you know what these of people that would treat the ex\\\’s children like shit and wanna treat the neices and nephews and other people\\\’s children I bet you would aslo treat a pedophile or a child molestor or any tyoe of register sex offender or a drug dealer or any type of psycotic person better than your new spouses children and these people that hurt there new spouses children nned to go eat shit and die and the children that are make it hard for the new spouse to like them need to go to conseuling and get the help that you need well I\\\’m done here

  94. ok im going to look at it from both sides well there are a lot stepkids out there who do make it difficult for the stepparent to like them wether it be man or woman becuase maybe they want their parents to get back together or they feel like there going to hurt the other parent\\\\\\\’s feelings or there scared there taking the other parent away and yea snd slot of them can be down right mean to the stepaprent becuase they earned it and deserved it by acting like spoiled brats after the stepparent try to be nice and open up to the children so yea those are the ones that should be treated like crap and yes the kids with mix feelings about the new mommy and daddy so yea but on other hand also I guess being a parent and a stepparent can be hard and a thankless job too when the kids don\\\\\\\’t play fair so yea but my stepdad and I have a good and bad relationship but now I\\\\\\\’m going to get to the other point here and now I get the fact that life doesn\\\\\\\’t work out the way u want it so u have to grab your happiness at anyway u get it wether the person has kids are not but here\\\\\\\’s the thing If u cant handle the fact the your new spouse had a past and then dont go out with someone and then marry them and alot of ya\\\\\\\’ll have children and I think thats what ya\\\\\\\’ll want where only you bring the children into the realtionship and your new spouses kids can jump in the damn lake I mean come on now I agree you don\\\\\\\’t have to like or love your stepkids but you can tolerate them and treat them with dignity and respect If they disrespect you then you ignore them or tell your their mom or dad and let them handle it and yea I admit there are stepparents out there that called the kids there own just to piss off the ex spouse then go behind close doors and treat the stepchild like fucking dog shit under there feet then alot of them only wanna plasy the nice card intil they marry there new spouse and then turn on the child like that and then they wanna say they wanna divorce or becuase enraged because the spouse that they prefessed their love to is paying attention to his or her kids and not paying attention to their kids It\\\\\\\’s like well this is sarcastic LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY SLAPPING YOUR KIDS CALLING THEM NAMES TELLING THEM THEIR STUPID THEY WON\\\\\\\’T AMOUNT TO NOTHING LET ME PAY MY NEW SPOUSES LOVE BACK BY BEATING YOUR KIDS BY PUSHING THEM DOWN A FLIGHT OF STAIRS OR LET ME TREAT THE CHILD THAT LOOKS LIKE YOUR EX LIKE SHIT AND LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY BEATING THE EXSTENCE OUT OF THE CHILD OR THAT I WANNA BE FIRST NOW OR THAT IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT ME AND MY KIDS LET PAY OR LOVE BACK BY BEING CONTROLLING AND TELLING YOU TO ONLY FOCUS ON ME AND MY KIDS this part is to the stepmothers only only the bad ones MY CHILDRENS FATHER OR FATHERS AREN\\\\\\\’T AROUND BECUASE HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM OR I\\\\\\\’M KEEPING THEM FROM HIM AND LYING TO YOUR FACE BY SAYING THAT THERE FATHER ISNT AROUND EVEN THOUGH I LIED AND TOLD HIM TO GO FUCK HIMSELF THAT IF HE LEAVES ME HE WILL NEVER SEE HIS CHILDREN AGAIN AND SAME TO YOU IF WE GET DIVORCE YOU WILL NEVER THE KIDS THAT WE HAVE TOGETHER AGAIN EVER yea like I said this only for the stepmothers LET ME THEARTENED YOU WITH DIVORCE IF YOU SPEND ANYTIME WITH YOUR KIDS OR IF IT ISNT MY WAY LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY STARVING YOUR KIDS AND CHOCKING THEM LET PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY TELLING YOU THAT I LIED AND SAYING IT WAS COOL THAT YOU HAVE KIDS BUT THE REASON I WANTED A SINGLE PARENT FOR IS SO THAT MY NEW SPOUSE HAS EXPIRENCED BUT AFTER THAT I WANT YOU TO ABANDONED TEHM this part is for the stepmoms too yes the evil ones from hell I DIDNT HAVE A FATHER GROWING UP SO LET ME PUNISH YOUR KIDS BECUASE MY WUSSBAG FATHER WHO COULDNT PRODUCE SONS CREATED SOMEONE LIKE ME A JEALOUS TERRIOTORIAL VAGINA LOL LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY FINALLY KILLING YOUR KIDS AND YEA WE MAY GO TO JAIL BUT ATLEAST I\\\\\\\’LL HAVE MY PERFECT FAMILY EVEN THOUGH I\\\\\\\’LL BE ROTTING IN JAIL AND WE MIGHT GET DIVORCED FOR IT ALSO BUT ATLEAST THEY\\\\\\\’LL BE PUT OF MY LIFE AND LET PAY U AND YOUR FAMILY BACK BY NOT SHOWING ANY REMOSE OH LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY THE THE ONLY KIDS THAT WILL GET TREATED LIKE SHIT ARE YOURS AND IF YOU EVER TREAT MINE LIKE CRAP I\\\\\\\’LL LEAVE YOU AND I think some of these evil stepparents out here only find men or women that are the desperate ones and I think some people only wanna marry someone just so that they can control them too ok you all choose to date someone whi had children and if he or she didn\\\\\\\’t tell you then you need to leave there ass and i think alot stepparents out there are like be mean to the kids first before they do it to you and then after the kids open up to ya\\\\\\\’ll and are nice to ya\\\\\\\’ll. Ya\\\\\\\’ll think oh well were married now I can turn on the kids and treat them like shit now and tell them to go fuck them selves and to quit runing my perfect happy little life and the perfect familt that i want where it should only consist of me and my children and the children we might have together ok yes those evil steparents should be tortured ok just becayse your lifes sucked you dont take punish your new family for and if u dont wanna play mommy or daddy or be a stepparent THEN HELLO DUMBASSES DON\\\\\\\’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS FUCKING CHILDREN YOU FUCKING IDIOTS you have no right to treat someone\\\\\\\’s children like shit becaue guess what they didnt ask to be put on this fucking earth just like you are me and you else is stupid a stepparent who treats their stepchild or children like crap just because of their genetic make up a.k.a looks like the other spuse oh one more sarcastic thing i wanna put LT ME OAY YOUR LOVE BACK USING MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL AND PSYCOLOGICAL AND VERBAL ABUSE ON YOUR CHILD OH YEAH I LOVE U baby and you know you these children are with you ful time becuase the other parent is either dead or a deadbeat and put their needs ahead of their children and the men and women who are staying with these people who are hurting your own flesh and blood why because you DON\\\\\\\’T WANNA LIVE ALONE mena and women ok this is for the men part WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU GONNA STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS OR KID LIKE FUCKING DOGSHIT FROM UNDERNEATH HER FEET WHY BECAUE YOU DON\\\\\\\’T WANNA COOK YOUR MEALS CLEAN YOUR OWN HOUSE DO YOUR CHORES WHY BECAUSE IT\\\\\\\’S GONNA KILL YOU INSIDE BECUASE YOU CAN\\\\\\\’T SHOVE YOUR COCK IN BETWEEN HER LEGS BECUASE YOUR A WUSS BAG FOR NOT STANDING UP FOR YOUR CHILDREN BECUASE YOU FEEL LIKE IF YOU GET DIVORCED AGAIN YOUR GONNA PUT SHAME ON YOUR FAMILY OR THAT YOUR SCARED OF THE DARK OR SOMETHING AND NOW FOR THE WOMEN WHY IN THE FUCKING HELL ARE YOU GOING TO STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS LIKE SHIT UNDER HIS FEET WHY BECAUSE YOU DON\\\\\\\’T WANNA GET A JOB OR PAY YOUR BILLS OR CLEAN OR THAT OR SCARED TO BE ALONE TO get over it they just want a relationship where it\\\\\\\’s one way that they except your to treat kids like royality and they get to treat yours like crap but on another note i know the other reason too that stepparents are the way that they are for is because of the ex making it difficult and the new ex spouse and the new spuse get hell for it and yes they try there damndest to tell the children he or she is this and that sp yea and not all steparents are bad theres alot of good ones out there don\\\\\\\’t get me wrong but if your jealous and territorial and controlling and manipulative and mean and rude and can\\\\\\\’t except your new spouses past or child or children or want that person all to yourself then dont marry that person idc if you have the biggest crush on that person that your heart wants to pop out of your fucking chest you dont trat the person that loves child like shit ok you know what these of people that would treat the ex\\\\\\\’s children like shit and wanna treat the neices and nephews and other people\\\\\\\’s children I bet you would aslo treat a pedophile or a child molestor or any tyoe of register sex offender or a drug dealer or any type of psycotic person better than your new spouses children and these people that hurt there new spouses children nned to go eat shit and die and the children that are make it hard for the new spouse to like them need to go to conseuling and get the help that you need well I\\\\\\\’m done here

  95. ok im going to look at it from both sides well there are a lot stepkids out there who do make it difficult for the stepparent to like them wether it be man or woman becuase maybe they want their parents to get back together or they feel like there going to hurt the other parent\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s feelings or there scared there taking the other parent away and yea snd slot of them can be down right mean to the stepaprent becuase they earned it and deserved it by acting like spoiled brats after the stepparent try to be nice and open up to the children so yea those are the ones that should be treated like crap and yes the kids with mix feelings about the new mommy and daddy so yea but on other hand also I guess being a parent and a stepparent can be hard and a thankless job too when the kids don\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t play fair so yea but my stepdad and I have a good and bad relationship but now I\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’m going to get to the other point here and now I get the fact that life doesn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t work out the way u want it so u have to grab your happiness at anyway u get it wether the person has kids are not but here\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s the thing If u cant handle the fact the your new spouse had a past and then dont go out with someone and then marry them and alot of ya\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ll have children and I think thats what ya\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ll want where only you bring the children into the realtionship and your new spouses kids can jump in the damn lake I mean come on now I agree you don\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t have to like or love your stepkids but you can tolerate them and treat them with dignity and respect If they disrespect you then you ignore them or tell your their mom or dad and let them handle it and yea I admit there are stepparents out there that called the kids there own just to piss off the ex spouse then go behind close doors and treat the stepchild like fucking dog shit under there feet then alot of them only wanna plasy the nice card intil they marry there new spouse and then turn on the child like that and then they wanna say they wanna divorce or becuase enraged because the spouse that they prefessed their love to is paying attention to his or her kids and not paying attention to their kids It\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s like well this is sarcastic LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY SLAPPING YOUR KIDS CALLING THEM NAMES TELLING THEM THEIR STUPID THEY WON\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’T AMOUNT TO NOTHING LET ME PAY MY NEW SPOUSES LOVE BACK BY BEATING YOUR KIDS BY PUSHING THEM DOWN A FLIGHT OF STAIRS OR LET ME TREAT THE CHILD THAT LOOKS LIKE YOUR EX LIKE SHIT AND LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY BEATING THE EXSTENCE OUT OF THE CHILD OR THAT I WANNA BE FIRST NOW OR THAT IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT ME AND MY KIDS LET PAY OR LOVE BACK BY BEING CONTROLLING AND TELLING YOU TO ONLY FOCUS ON ME AND MY KIDS this part is to the stepmothers only only the bad ones MY CHILDRENS FATHER OR FATHERS AREN\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’T AROUND BECUASE HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM OR I\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’M KEEPING THEM FROM HIM AND LYING TO YOUR FACE BY SAYING THAT THERE FATHER ISNT AROUND EVEN THOUGH I LIED AND TOLD HIM TO GO FUCK HIMSELF THAT IF HE LEAVES ME HE WILL NEVER SEE HIS CHILDREN AGAIN AND SAME TO YOU IF WE GET DIVORCE YOU WILL NEVER THE KIDS THAT WE HAVE TOGETHER AGAIN EVER yea like I said this only for the stepmothers LET ME THEARTENED YOU WITH DIVORCE IF YOU SPEND ANYTIME WITH YOUR KIDS OR IF IT ISNT MY WAY LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY STARVING YOUR KIDS AND CHOCKING THEM LET PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY TELLING YOU THAT I LIED AND SAYING IT WAS COOL THAT YOU HAVE KIDS BUT THE REASON I WANTED A SINGLE PARENT FOR IS SO THAT MY NEW SPOUSE HAS EXPIRENCED BUT AFTER THAT I WANT YOU TO ABANDONED TEHM this part is for the stepmoms too yes the evil ones from hell I DIDNT HAVE A FATHER GROWING UP SO LET ME PUNISH YOUR KIDS BECUASE MY WUSSBAG FATHER WHO COULDNT PRODUCE SONS CREATED SOMEONE LIKE ME A JEALOUS TERRIOTORIAL VAGINA LOL LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY FINALLY KILLING YOUR KIDS AND YEA WE MAY GO TO JAIL BUT ATLEAST I\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’LL HAVE MY PERFECT FAMILY EVEN THOUGH I\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’LL BE ROTTING IN JAIL AND WE MIGHT GET DIVORCED FOR IT ALSO BUT ATLEAST THEY\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’LL BE PUT OF MY LIFE AND LET PAY U AND YOUR FAMILY BACK BY NOT SHOWING ANY REMOSE OH LET ME PAY YOUR LOVE BACK BY THE THE ONLY KIDS THAT WILL GET TREATED LIKE SHIT ARE YOURS AND IF YOU EVER TREAT MINE LIKE CRAP I\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’LL LEAVE YOU AND I think some of these evil stepparents out here only find men or women that are the desperate ones and I think some people only wanna marry someone just so that they can control them too ok you all choose to date someone whi had children and if he or she didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t tell you then you need to leave there ass and i think alot stepparents out there are like be mean to the kids first before they do it to you and then after the kids open up to ya\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ll and are nice to ya\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ll. Ya\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ll think oh well were married now I can turn on the kids and treat them like shit now and tell them to go fuck them selves and to quit runing my perfect happy little life and the perfect familt that i want where it should only consist of me and my children and the children we might have together ok yes those evil steparents should be tortured ok just becayse your lifes sucked you dont take punish your new family for and if u dont wanna play mommy or daddy or be a stepparent THEN HELLO DUMBASSES DON\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS FUCKING CHILDREN YOU FUCKING IDIOTS you have no right to treat someone\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s children like shit becaue guess what they didnt ask to be put on this fucking earth just like you are me and you else is stupid a stepparent who treats their stepchild or children like crap just because of their genetic make up a.k.a looks like the other spuse oh one more sarcastic thing i wanna put LT ME OAY YOUR LOVE BACK USING MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL AND PSYCOLOGICAL AND VERBAL ABUSE ON YOUR CHILD OH YEAH I LOVE U baby and you know you these children are with you ful time becuase the other parent is either dead or a deadbeat and put their needs ahead of their children and the men and women who are staying with these people who are hurting your own flesh and blood why because you DON\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’T WANNA LIVE ALONE mena and women ok this is for the men part WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU GONNA STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS OR KID LIKE FUCKING DOGSHIT FROM UNDERNEATH HER FEET WHY BECAUE YOU DON\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’T WANNA COOK YOUR MEALS CLEAN YOUR OWN HOUSE DO YOUR CHORES WHY BECAUSE IT\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’S GONNA KILL YOU INSIDE BECUASE YOU CAN\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’T SHOVE YOUR COCK IN BETWEEN HER LEGS BECUASE YOUR A WUSS BAG FOR NOT STANDING UP FOR YOUR CHILDREN BECUASE YOU FEEL LIKE IF YOU GET DIVORCED AGAIN YOUR GONNA PUT SHAME ON YOUR FAMILY OR THAT YOUR SCARED OF THE DARK OR SOMETHING AND NOW FOR THE WOMEN WHY IN THE FUCKING HELL ARE YOU GOING TO STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOUR KIDS LIKE SHIT UNDER HIS FEET WHY BECAUSE YOU DON\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’T WANNA GET A JOB OR PAY YOUR BILLS OR CLEAN OR THAT OR SCARED TO BE ALONE TO get over it they just want a relationship where it\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s one way that they except your to treat kids like royality and they get to treat yours like crap but on another note i know the other reason too that stepparents are the way that they are for is because of the ex making it difficult and the new ex spouse and the new spuse get hell for it and yes they try there damndest to tell the children he or she is this and that sp yea and not all steparents are bad theres alot of good ones out there don\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t get me wrong but if your jealous and territorial and controlling and manipulative and mean and rude and can\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t except your new spouses past or child or children or want that person all to yourself then dont marry that person idc if you have the biggest crush on that person that your heart wants to pop out of your fucking chest you dont trat the person that loves child like shit ok you know what these of people that would treat the ex\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s children like shit and wanna treat the neices and nephews and other people\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s children I bet you would aslo treat a pedophile or a child molestor or any tyoe of register sex offender or a drug dealer or any type of psycotic person better than your new spouses children and these people that hurt there new spouses children nned to go eat shit and die and the children that are make it hard for the new spouse to like them need to go to conseuling and get the help that you need well I’m done here

  96. ok im sorry for the mispelling and then posted about 4 times i did write a new it’s a little less harsh so I might post it and u can delete this one if you want to

  97. I agree, this generalization causes more destruction, and prejudice against step moms. I am a Stepmother to an eleven year old girl. My husband got divorced six years ago because the Biological mom cheated on him and had a baby with another main while still married to my now husband. He went through years of hardship, all the while being a supportive and loving parent to his daughter. Although we are not close (the step daughter and I) I respect their relationship and only come in to give advice when necesarry, which is almost never. I give them privacy to talk, and I encourage him to give her exclusive time and advice when she is feeling sad. I told him that I will never be a mother to her, but I will be kind, and patient with their relationship. Even know as I write this, my husband has been on the phone with her for the last hour, consoling her because her mom is getting re-married. Am I jelous? No, I left him alone so that he can talk and console her and make her feel safe. Instead of taking a vacation this christmas, we are saving that money to bring her out and have her spend two weeks with us. Does that make me uncomfortable, sure it does, and that is ok, as long as I check myself and react accordingly and with maturity. Its natural to feel the fear that she may provoke problems that we have not had since we have been married. Will I make her life miserable? No. I will suck it up, be kind to her and remind myself that she is a child, and she needs her father. After all, when we decide to have children of our own, I will expect the same special treatment toward my own kids by my husband. If he is a good parent to his first child, he will be a good parent to my kids one day.

  98. ok Im going to add some other things but im going to watch my spelling and grammar and also make some points and more to what i add like o said i know that there are stepkids out there like i said in the 1st 4 postings that stepkids can be pain in the asses if they are acting up but like i said they only act like that becuase there afaird they might loose that parent or that there hurting the other parents feelings which is understandable and some of the parents are molding to be like them because the parent that is trying to raise them to be respectful is only a weekend parent ands some can’t handle not being the center of attention and they think because your not there biological parent they don’t have to listen to you ok this for stepmoms and stepdads and bio parents to but on the other side of the story I know there are steparents out there that you know wanna love on there kids and then lash out abuse on there stepkids I mean ok I know why you abusive steparents out or jealous and terriortorial ones or center of attention ones because your ass yourself is desperate what hoping that he or she will put you first or you and your bio kids first and what only be a full time parent to your kids becuase mommy or daddy isnt around or because mommy is choosing her needs over her children or daddy also choose his needs too or that daddy didn’t wanna wear him a condom I mean come on ok If you dont want your disire family to consits of someone else and their kids and dont like kids or don’t want you and your kids to be part of a blended family then DON’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS A FAMILY I mean some of ya’ll are together by affairs because ya’ll cheated on your former spouses but I got another thing let me say this if you are an abusive steparent and you divorce the person that your with and you marry someone else and they treat you kids like shit or ignore them then don’t get mad becuase your getting a taste of your own medicine and maybe you will look back and say gee you know when I was with my spouse that had children I’m now looking back and saying I wish I had never treated my former spouses children like trash and you know what else I think some ya’ll evil steparents could care less IF your married or single ok becuase alot of ya’ll want it a one way street so think about this is to parents and steparents the next you abuse your child or stepchild think of this there are alot of people out there that wish that they could be with there children and they can’t be there and I know alot of steparents especialy stepmoms try to not let the child’s bio dad around becuase she wanted it her way which is out of spite or maybe to them no dad was better than a part time or every other weekned and hoilday and summer dad or a deadbeat and maybe that is the case and that the dad was a drugie or a abusive pick I understand that now but you have no right to punish your stepchildren for by being abusive ok just and its the same with stepdads too but like I said if you don’t want to your desired family to be blended then don’t marry someone who has children but I read that stepdads are easier to get along with or connect then stepmothers I read that here on the Internet ok one other thing just becuase you married that person who has kids doesn’t make you the displanairan If you have a problem with the kids then you let there mom and dad handle it not you you can tell them to behave or I’m going to tell your mom or dad thats it and I know alot of you steparents out there let your damn kids do whatever they want and let them disrespect your new spouse I guess I think that sucks alright and this alos to bio parents If you don’t want kids and this for fathers then wear a condom and the double or triple it If you wanna donate sperm do it at a sperm bank not inside a woman and then when she finds out shes prego you get up and leave and this for you women if you dont want children then keep your legs closed or get your tubes tide or eggs frozen or its called abortion or adoption pick one If you dont want a kid and I know there are also foster parents that abuse their foster children too they only want them for the money and same with bio parents because they get money or something if there like not working but know for you steparents who are mean attention hogers or the my way type or the highway type minipulative types and the I’ll change don’t leave me and then don’t or jealous types treat you stepkids with resepect if there nice to you then you be nice to then don’t do it then once your married you treat them like shit alright ok well I’m done I’ll post more later and this a nicer version and my spelling and grammar is okay

  99. ok Im going to add some other things but im going to watch my spelling and grammar and also make some points and more to what i add like o said i know that there are stepkids out there like i said in the 1st 4 postings that stepkids can be pain in the asses if they are acting up but like i said they only act like that becuase there afaird they might loose that parent or that there hurting the other parents feelings which is understandable and some of the parents are molding to be like them because the parent that is trying to raise them to be respectful is only a weekend parent ands some can\\\’t handle not being the center of attention and they think because your not there biological parent they don\\\’t have to listen to you ok this for stepmoms and stepdads and bio parents to but on the other side of the story I know there are steparents out there that you know wanna love on there kids and then lash out abuse on there stepkids I mean ok I know why you abusive steparents out or jealous and terriortorial ones or center of attention ones because your ass yourself is desperate what hoping that he or she will put you first or you and your bio kids first and what only be a full time parent to your kids becuase mommy or daddy isnt around or because mommy is choosing her needs over her children or daddy also choose his needs too or that daddy didn\\\’t wanna wear him a condom I mean come on ok If you dont want your disire family to consits of someone else and their kids and dont like kids or don\\\’t want you and your kids to be part of a blended family then DON\\\’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS A FAMILY I mean some of ya\\\’ll are together by affairs because ya\\\’ll cheated on your former spouses but I got another thing let me say this if you are an abusive steparent and you divorce the person that your with and you marry someone else and they treat you kids like shit or ignore them then don\\\’t get mad becuase your getting a taste of your own medicine and maybe you will look back and say gee you know when I was with my spouse that had children I\\\’m now looking back and saying I wish I had never treated my former spouses children like trash and you know what else I think some ya\\\’ll evil steparents could care less IF your married or single ok becuase alot of ya\\\’ll want it a one way street so think about this is to parents and steparents the next you abuse your child or stepchild think of this there are alot of people out there that wish that they could be with there children and they can\\\’t be there and I know alot of steparents especialy stepmoms try to not let the child\\\’s bio dad around becuase she wanted it her way which is out of spite or maybe to them no dad was better than a part time or every other weekned and hoilday and summer dad or a deadbeat and maybe that is the case and that the dad was a drugie or a abusive pick I understand that now but you have no right to punish your stepchildren for by being abusive ok just and its the same with stepdads too but like I said if you don\\\’t want to your desired family to be blended then don\\\’t marry someone who has children but I read that stepdads are easier to get along with or connect then stepmothers I read that here on the Internet ok one other thing just becuase you married that person who has kids doesn\\\’t make you the displanairan If you have a problem with the kids then you let there mom and dad handle it not you you can tell them to behave or I\\\’m going to tell your mom or dad thats it and I know alot of you steparents out there let your damn kids do whatever they want and let them disrespect your new spouse I guess I think that sucks alright and this alos to bio parents If you don\\\’t want kids and this for fathers then wear a condom and the double or triple it If you wanna donate sperm do it at a sperm bank not inside a woman and then when she finds out shes prego you get up and leave and this for you women if you dont want children then keep your legs closed or get your tubes tide or eggs frozen or its called abortion or adoption pick one If you dont want a kid and I know there are also foster parents that abuse their foster children too they only want them for the money and same with bio parents because they get money or something if there like not working but know for you steparents who are mean attention hogers or the my way type or the highway type minipulative types and the I\\\’ll change don\\\’t leave me and then don\\\’t or jealous types treat you stepkids with resepect if there nice to you then you be nice to then don\\\’t do it then once your married you treat them like shit alright ok well I\\\’m done I\\\’ll post more later and this a nicer version and my spelling and grammar is okay

  100. ok Im going to add some other things but im going to watch my spelling and grammar and also make some points and more to what i add like o said i know that there are stepkids out there like i said in the 1st 4 postings that stepkids can be pain in the asses if they are acting up but like i said they only act like that becuase there afaird they might loose that parent or that there hurting the other parents feelings which is understandable and some of the parents are molding to be like them because the parent that is trying to raise them to be respectful is only a weekend parent ands some can\\\\\\\’t handle not being the center of attention and they think because your not there biological parent they don\\\\\\\’t have to listen to you ok this for stepmoms and stepdads and bio parents to but on the other side of the story I know there are steparents out there that you know wanna love on there kids and then lash out abuse on there stepkids I mean ok I know why you abusive steparents out or jealous and terriortorial ones or center of attention ones because your ass yourself is desperate what hoping that he or she will put you first or you and your bio kids first and what only be a full time parent to your kids becuase mommy or daddy isnt around or because mommy is choosing her needs over her children or daddy also choose his needs too or that daddy didn\\\\\\\’t wanna wear him a condom I mean come on ok If you dont want your disire family to consits of someone else and their kids and dont like kids or don\\\\\\\’t want you and your kids to be part of a blended family then DON\\\\\\\’T MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS A FAMILY I mean some of ya\\\\\\\’ll are together by affairs because ya\\\\\\\’ll cheated on your former spouses but I got another thing let me say this if you are an abusive steparent and you divorce the person that your with and you marry someone else and they treat you kids like shit or ignore them then don\\\\\\\’t get mad becuase your getting a taste of your own medicine and maybe you will look back and say gee you know when I was with my spouse that had children I\\\\\\\’m now looking back and saying I wish I had never treated my former spouses children like trash and you know what else I think some ya\\\\\\\’ll evil steparents could care less IF your married or single ok becuase alot of ya\\\\\\\’ll want it a one way street so think about this is to parents and steparents the next you abuse your child or stepchild think of this there are alot of people out there that wish that they could be with there children and they can\\\\\\\’t be there and I know alot of steparents especialy stepmoms try to not let the child\\\\\\\’s bio dad around becuase she wanted it her way which is out of spite or maybe to them no dad was better than a part time or every other weekned and hoilday and summer dad or a deadbeat and maybe that is the case and that the dad was a drugie or a abusive pick I understand that now but you have no right to punish your stepchildren for by being abusive ok just and its the same with stepdads too but like I said if you don\\\\\\\’t want to your desired family to be blended then don\\\\\\\’t marry someone who has children but I read that stepdads are easier to get along with or connect then stepmothers I read that here on the Internet ok one other thing just becuase you married that person who has kids doesn\\\\\\\’t make you the displanairan If you have a problem with the kids then you let there mom and dad handle it not you you can tell them to behave or I\\\\\\\’m going to tell your mom or dad thats it and I know alot of you steparents out there let your damn kids do whatever they want and let them disrespect your new spouse I guess I think that sucks alright and this alos to bio parents If you don\\\\\\\’t want kids and this for fathers then wear a condom and the double or triple it If you wanna donate sperm do it at a sperm bank not inside a woman and then when she finds out shes prego you get up and leave and this for you women if you dont want children then keep your legs closed or get your tubes tide or eggs frozen or its called abortion or adoption pick one If you dont want a kid and I know there are also foster parents that abuse their foster children too they only want them for the money and same with bio parents because they get money or something if there like not working but know for you steparents who are mean attention hogers or the my way type or the highway type minipulative types and the I\\\\\\\’ll change don\\\\\\\’t leave me and then don\\\\\\\’t or jealous types treat you stepkids with resepect if there nice to you then you be nice to then don\\\\\\\’t do it then once your married you treat them like shit alright ok well I\\\\\\\’m done I\\\\\\\’ll post more later and this a nicer version and my spelling and grammar is okay

  101. ok I’m going to add more to this scenairo ok when u abuse a child your creating the next set of fucked up people thats what your doing and If you son’t no man or woman telling you what to do and make them have no say so then if your a woman and don’t want no man telling u what to do then date a woman or stay your ass single same for a man don’t want no woman telling you what to do then date a man or same thing stay your single becuase I bet you if your kids disrespected your new spouse you wouldnt like it and if your new spouse treated your kids like crap you wouldnt like so to all you evil steparents quit wanting it one way and also I know there are steparents who try there damndest for the stepkids especialy the ones that are ungreatful well I feel bad for them and those kids a.k.a have no home traning or manners becuase like I said that parent ever wants to be there friend or wants them out of there hair and let them do what ever they want

  102. Women don’t hate stepchildren, they hate that the biological parents don’t take full responsibility for the choices they have made in life and their own offspring. Many bio parents choose not to get a long well enough to co-parent ( they parallel parent) then pawn their responsibilities off on another woman. Hmmmmm if that doesn’t breed resentment, what will? If two people choose to divorce then they choose to become single parents for the rest of their lives. If two people choose to have children together, they are very aware that 50 percent of them will divorce and become single parents. If bio parents took full responsibility for financially supporting, raising, disciplining and supporting each other in their parenting roles regardless of the situation, then step children would feel less of a loyalty war and would welcome the step mom and the step mom would not feel like the bio parents responsibility is placed on her. Contrary to popular belief, step moms marry their husbands, not his kids and they are told by everyone all the time that those are not your children. Bio parents can not have it both ways, the responsibility lies solely with them

  103. Women don\’t hate stepchildren, they hate that the biological parents don\’t take full responsibility for the choices they have made in life and their own offspring. Many bio parents choose not to get a long well enough to co-parent ( they parallel parent) then pawn their responsibilities off on another woman. Hmmmmm if that doesn\’t breed resentment, what will? If two people choose to divorce then they choose to become single parents for the rest of their lives. If two people choose to have children together, they are very aware that 50 percent of them will divorce and become single parents. If bio parents took full responsibility for financially supporting, raising, disciplining and supporting each other in their parenting roles regardless of the situation, then step children would feel less of a loyalty war and would welcome the step mom and the step mom would not feel like the bio parents responsibility is placed on her. Contrary to popular belief, step moms marry their husbands, not his kids and they are told by everyone all the time that those are not your children. Bio parents can not have it both ways, the responsibility lies solely with them

  104. Ultimately, it is the relationship between the bio mom, bio dad and their own children that cause most of the issues. The issues caused as a result of divorce make it extremely challenging for a step mother to maneuver through. This is not her fault – just as it is not the children’s fault. Somehow though, step mom gets all the blame and bio parents get none even though they caused the situation in the first place. Perception from children and bio mom also plays a major role if bio mom and bio dad are parallel parenting rather than co- parenting. Yes, there will always be some step moms who won’t like their step children, it’s interesting how no one ever asks them, people assume it is jealousy which is normally not the case. If you were to ever really listen to step moms you would find out that the majority of them are wonderful, caring women who just want the bio parents to get their acts together without excuses.

  105. Terry I couldn’t have said it better myself. I’m a step mother to for children. We had one baby together so five in total. The bio mom suffers from personality disorders and left my husband and the children when their youngest wasonly nine months old. She has a history of infidelity and cheated four times during their marriage. Let me get this straight I love and protect my stepkids, l raise them all as my own. The only thing that gets to me is how awful their mother is. I agree s with Terry in that there are times when I feel angry because I m totally exhausted from looking after the kids sand doing everything for them when she has little or no responsibility because we have full custody. My husbands ex has even spread untrue rumors about me that are so hurtful and she’s actually the one that’s done all of the awful stuff. So it’s not my children I hate it’s their awful mother. She’s caused so many problems in our marriage but if never let her defeat us or hurt my kids. I could never do s what she did and leave them. S some of us are normal loving women.

  106. well i know my children’s step mom went as far as to not allow them to see their dad, but now that they are growth and over 18 now they are allowed there, wierd isn’t it.

  107. I am a love child. My biological father moved on and married another woman – they have 3 daughters between them. My mother married my step-father and they had 4 sons between them. Growing up I never felt like a step child and never considered my brothers to be half-brothers. But, I never had a close loving relationship with my step-dad. I would later on I would realize in the form of PTSD that he had rejected my affections repeatedly as a child and never outwardly showed me any affection.

    I did not meet my biological father til I was 22 years old. My sisters were keen to know me but their mom hated me and did everything she could do to keep me from becoming friends with them. My biological father showed some interest in getting to know me but his wife was not having it. Because of the fact that I had some challenges with my step-dad I decided that I did not want any step kids in my life. The thought of it left a bitter taste in my mouth. One of the reasons I married my husband was because he did not have kids with other women.

    I got married and moved to Africa to live and called my father 1 day. His wife answered the phone, refused to let me talk to him and told me she would never allow me to have a relationship with him. She said she was angry with him and he should pay for what he did to her. I didn’t call again. A few years later I visited my home country and went to visit my father and his family. He talked to me just fine outside their house but when we got inside and he was next to his wife he just stood there like a statue and wouldn’t talk to me. It was one of the most painful experiences I ever had and that was the last time I ever tried to communicate with him.

    I returned to Africa with my husband and did my best to get over the fact that my father did not want me and / or couldn’t stand up to his wife. I hated that he didn’t stand up for me. It took me years to finally bury him from my life and now I have 2 kids and they will never know him. My step dad has since died so my mom is their only grandparent left. Through this all my husband was there. I also remained friends with my sisters but we never talk about the way their mom treated me or the fact that our father rejected me.

    Now, I’ve been married for almost 14 years and we have left Africa and returned home. And, in the irony of all ironies, my husband has found out that he has a child with another woman. The girl is 18 years old and was conceived just around the time my husband and I started courting. He wants to get to know her and because of my experiences, I am not standing in his way. I do not want to be the (wicked) step-mom. I’m not that girl. But I am so angry about this and every time I hear her name or see her face it upsets me. My husband feels that because of my situation as a step child and with a step parent that I would empathize with his daughter and welcome her into our lives.

    But the truth is, that I want nothing to do with this. I’m so torn because I know exactly how she feels growing up thinking your dad doesn’t love you and then finding out that he wants to know you. I know that my husband wants to do the right thing and I respect him for that and even love him for it but I still feel resentful and angry. Can anyone give me some advise? I have a good husband. I really can’t complain. He is a good father too. Why do I feel this way? Why can’t I open my heart even though I know it’s the right thing to do?

  108. I will NEVER EVER date a man with kids again. I had a 5 year relationship with a man who has 2 young daughters. I was very welcoming of them and I pretty much kissed their butts. They wanted nothing to do with me and made it obvious from the start. They would ignore me and disrespect me all the time. But, I thought that with time they would adjust and accept me. I was DEAD WRONG! Things only got worse with time. They started bullying me! They always tried to get me and my ex to fight. They would always talk about how they wanted my ex and their mom back together. They criticized my cooking and my hobbies. They made huge messes in my home and mind you, this is legally my home, not their fathers. I allowed him to move in with me when his house foreclosed. And, unfortunately I had his girls over at my home every single weekend. The girls would stain my carpet, plug up my toilets and sinks, hide my mail, ruined my old laptop, and stole money from my purse. I think their mother had something to do with all of this because she never got over my ex. She was constantly calling and texting him and she hated my guts. I know she was talking badly about me to the girls. The last thing those girls did to me which made me throw my ex out was they let my cat out purposely in the freezing cold and I never saw her again. They were always bullying my beloved cat, but I never thought they would do something that cruel to her. These rotten kids did everything in their power to destroy my relationship with their father. And, it worked.

    Now, I am scared to death to even befriend a man with kids. When I meet someone, the first thing I ask is if he has children. I refuse to ever be with a man who has kids.

  109. NO WAY JOSE!

    I once broke it off with a dude because of his spoiled daughters. Mind you, they were adults, but they always had to interfere at the very last minute. Talk about PMS! We always had issues with him and never making it on time and on this one ocassion I remember we had a huge big fight and he left me stranded at the train station in Queens all because of his 21 year old daughter who didn’t have anyone to pick her up. Talk about being a big baby! But hell to the f*ckin NO will I ever do it again……

    A super duper article by the way…. keep em coming….

  110. My stepmother moved my father in with and her “perfect daughter” a month after my parents seperated.
    I was initally happy for my Dad, did not want him to be alone.
    They got married without telling me or my sibling about it, because “It’s no one’s business what they do”
    Of course her daughter was there, she and her child are the center of their universe.
    He has nothing to do with my children, being abandoned sucks.
    Happy father day;(

  111. My stepmother moved my father in with and her “perfect daughter” a month after my parents seperated.
    I was initally happy for my Dad, did not want him to be alone.
    They got married without telling me or my sibling about it, because “It’s no one’s business what they do”
    Of course her daughter was there, she and her child are the center of their universe.
    He has nothing to do with my children, being abandoned sucks.
    Happy father day;(

  112. Christy Nov 22nd 2012 Truly Has Issues.. I Would Never Treat A Child Who Has Been Hurt Any Different Than My Own Children.. I Could Careless Who’s Child It Is, If Someone Hurts Themselves My Sympathy Would Be As Great As If It Were My Own Child. Stargazerschild Jul 12, 2010 Definitely Depicts The Image Of The Stepdaughter From Hell, A Stepmother’s Worst Nightmare..

    Now With That Being Said, Baked Apples Nov 5th 2010, And Terry May 13th 2012 Said It Best!! They Are Exactly On Point.. Stepchildren Aren’t Taught To Show Respect, Often Times They Feel About You The Way There Mother Feels About You And The Father Is More Than Likely Afraid To Address The Issue Out Of Fear And Conflict.. I Have Shown Nothing But Love Toward My Stepchildren And Have Never Disrespected Them In Anyway, Although I Have Had Words With Their Mother, But Not Around Them..

    It’s Sad That The Stepmother’s Feelings Are Never Taken Into Consideration For It Is The Step Moms Who Suffers Most.. I Always Feel Like I’m In Competition With My Stepchildren And Their Mother.. Most Men Run Off From Their Ex’s And Kids, Then They Allow Their Ex’s To Brainwash And Make Them Feel Guilty For Walking Out On The Bad Relationship Which Leaves You Suffering The Consequences Of His Guilt Trip..

    My Advise To Women Wanting To Date Men With Children Is NEVER DO IT!! You Will Always Come In 2nd Place And You Will Always Be Neglected.. You Tell Yourself It’s Not About Me, But After 10 Years Or More It Gets Old..

  113. How many people on here are actually stepmothers and not bitter stepchildren.

  114. This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read. I have a step daughter and we are two peas in a pod. We do everything together and I adore her. There were problems in her mothers home and I forced my husband to get an attorney and get joint custody so she could be with us as much as possible. This posting has no references to fact whatsoever – who are all of these children being tortured? wouldn’t it be on the news? Yes many step families have issues but the biggest part of the problem is the kids acting like spoiled jerks! I’ve seen that 1000 times with friends. I love my step child and feel so lucky that she is a part of my life!

  115. The future step mom of my children insisted on having my children call her a step mom to speed up the process of her marrying my dr. husband. But it backfired on her so she now tells my children I am the step mom of my own flesh and blood. What a confusing thing to do to children. This future step mom to be, fits the bill of EVIL STEP MOTHER!!! EWWWW now I dread remarrying in future and being a step mother to some mans kids after the awful hatred my children sometimes express towards their dad’s girlfriend and their new baby(born on our wedding aniversay, Lucky 13, LOL. Cant make it up.

  116. I was a single parent of twin boys because my husband walked out on me after nearly 11 yrs of marriage.
    My sons do NOT know their real father.
    I worked my ass off and raised my own sons, with the help of my parents.
    My husband or his family had no contact by their own choice, and offered NO financial support. My sons, now 22, are especially close to me.
    I met my current husband after my Mom died in 1997. He was a nice guy, but he had baggage–a teenaged son who was having a homo sexual relationship with his drama teacher, and had a dui before he turned 17.
    His son was spoiled because his birth mother, who never married my husband, was a crack whore, and abandoned him at my in-laws’ as an infant. Everyone doted on him because they were trying to compensate for his mother leaving him; the mother had abandoned a sister who turned out just as bad as her mother did. His bad behavior was/is always excused with the words, “well, he has NO MOTHER…”
    She died of AIDS several years ago. I stood back from his son because I saw SONNY hit my son in the head with a piece of ice and split my child’s head open at his HS graduation party when he was allowed to drink alcohol until he was grossly out of control. (SONNY was 17).He was a danger to my OWN sons, and I was NOT having that.
    The next time old Sonny tried to assault my 7 year olds, one kicked him in the balls and his twin got behind and put his foot up Sonny’s ass. He or his friends never touched my sons again!!
    Sonny has been a drunk until 100 days ago, when he was forced into rehab after hitting rock bottom, winding up on Welfare, and drinking so much he blacked out and friends rushed him to the hospital, because he was almost in a coma.
    Sonny lost his license due to his dui after he got his license, was kicked out of the major university he had won a full scholarship to for flunking/dropping most of his classes, finishing his Freshman year with a sum total of 8 credits! I was the one who got the local county college to accept him, and sonny got himself kicked out for dropping too many classes (and pocketing refunds of the tuition his father and his aunt paid for him and using it for drugs and alcohol).
    When it was clearly obvious that his son would never make it as a college student, Sonny’s grandmother begged her best friend, the grandmother of our city’s then- mayor, to give him a job. Sonny was now 21, a closet addict, and working full time in a city job.
    My husband and I married at this point, believing he was well employed, and ready for independence. On MANY occasions I told my husband pre-marriage that I would NEVER allow his son, who assaulted his grandparents and stole money from them regularly, would never live with us. We were married when my sons were 11, and my husband worked out of town for most of the week. Though his son had been the “only child” and overindulged for over 21 years, he took every opportunity to cause trouble in our home. My sons, who are now 22, have been pretty much raised by me, and have scorned the example and lifestyle of sonny. The eldest of my sons plays six instruments, and is in a band. He is graduating college with two majors May 2013. The younger child, who graduated with dual majors and with honors December “11, is a Sgt, in the USArmy, getting his second college degree in June 2013.
    Though testing positive for alcohol twice, Sonny was kept on at his prestigious city job. After 10 years of working erratically, he was brethalyzed and suspended for 60 days and ordered into rehab. In October 2011, Sonny went to work especially plastered and was breathylized at 7am, before he took his truck and went out to work. 0.11. Sonny was fired.
    During this time he had a girlfriend older than I am, and she dumped him. Sonny lost a landscaping job for being drunk, and my father in law begged his former boss to hire sonny. Sonny struck a car on the premises, and was fired from there, too.
    He blames US for his myriad of problems, and has taken a swing at me and threatened my life on two occasions.
    Sonny has never shown me any respect, or given me a gift–though my husband constantly hands him money and gives him gifts.
    He never apologizes for his bad behavior.My husband makes the excuse “well, he didn’t have a mother” as an excuse. I tell my husband that my twins had no father–and look how well THEY turned out. He fails to understand that if you allow a child to get away with excuses for bad behavior, they always use the tactic, even when they are too old for it to be relevant!
    Last night my husband comes home upset, because his son, who is on Welfare because I did the paperwork–his son would NOT go for the interview until my husband took him–did not get a job at my brother’s business.
    I was put in the position of having to call my brother and beg for a job for this lazy SOB!
    My husband accepts as an excuse from his son that his being unemployed is the “fault” of everyone and anyone but him!
    My brother couldn’t hire him because he says the parent company he works for makes the choices, given the applications.
    My husband now refuses to speak to my brother, saying it is MY BROTHER’s FAULT his son has no job, even though he told him three places to go and that sonny could say he was sent by my brother.
    Finally, I have been seriously ill, this past two years with cancers, since 2010, and Sonny has not only done nothing to help, he has also done all he can do to cause fights and tension, especially over holidays.
    He has not even said he was sorry for all of the trouble he has instigated by his drunken, bratty bad behavior.
    NOT ACCEPTABLE at the age of 32!!
    I did not want to be a stepmother, so I waited until my husband’s son was grown to marry him. It didn’t matter- my husband’s son didn’t pursue his own life, he wasted his trying to destroy OURS.
    There is NO REDEMPTION for him. Sonny has another girlfriend (think he is looking for a “mother”) with grown children. HOPEFULLY they will show him the same love and kindness he has shown me in the years I have tolerated his presence in my life.

  117. I was a single parent of twin boys because my husband walked out on me after nearly 11 yrs of marriage.
    My sons do NOT know their real father.
    I worked my ass off and raised my own sons, with the help of my parents.
    My husband or his family had no contact by their own choice, and offered NO financial support. My sons, now 22, are especially close to me.
    I met my current husband after my Mom died in 1997. He was a nice guy, but he had baggage–a teenaged son who was having a homo sexual relationship with his drama teacher, and had a dui before he turned 17.
    His son was spoiled because his birth mother, who never married my husband, was a crack whore, and abandoned him at my in-laws\’ as an infant. Everyone doted on him because they were trying to compensate for his mother leaving him; the mother had abandoned a sister who turned out just as bad as her mother did. His bad behavior was/is always excused with the words, \”well, he has NO MOTHER…\”
    She died of AIDS several years ago. I stood back from his son because I saw SONNY hit my son in the head with a piece of ice and split my child\’s head open at his HS graduation party when he was allowed to drink alcohol until he was grossly out of control. (SONNY was 17).He was a danger to my OWN sons, and I was NOT having that.
    The next time old Sonny tried to assault my 7 year olds, one kicked him in the balls and his twin got behind and put his foot up Sonny\’s ass. He or his friends never touched my sons again!!
    Sonny has been a drunk until 100 days ago, when he was forced into rehab after hitting rock bottom, winding up on Welfare, and drinking so much he blacked out and friends rushed him to the hospital, because he was almost in a coma.
    Sonny lost his license due to his dui after he got his license, was kicked out of the major university he had won a full scholarship to for flunking/dropping most of his classes, finishing his Freshman year with a sum total of 8 credits! I was the one who got the local county college to accept him, and sonny got himself kicked out for dropping too many classes (and pocketing refunds of the tuition his father and his aunt paid for him and using it for drugs and alcohol).
    When it was clearly obvious that his son would never make it as a college student, Sonny\’s grandmother begged her best friend, the grandmother of our city\’s then- mayor, to give him a job. Sonny was now 21, a closet addict, and working full time in a city job.
    My husband and I married at this point, believing he was well employed, and ready for independence. On MANY occasions I told my husband pre-marriage that I would NEVER allow his son, who assaulted his grandparents and stole money from them regularly, would never live with us. We were married when my sons were 11, and my husband worked out of town for most of the week. Though his son had been the \”only child\” and overindulged for over 21 years, he took every opportunity to cause trouble in our home. My sons, who are now 22, have been pretty much raised by me, and have scorned the example and lifestyle of sonny. The eldest of my sons plays six instruments, and is in a band. He is graduating college with two majors May 2013. The younger child, who graduated with dual majors and with honors December \”11, is a Sgt, in the USArmy, getting his second college degree in June 2013.
    Though testing positive for alcohol twice, Sonny was kept on at his prestigious city job. After 10 years of working erratically, he was brethalyzed and suspended for 60 days and ordered into rehab. In October 2011, Sonny went to work especially plastered and was breathylized at 7am, before he took his truck and went out to work. 0.11. Sonny was fired.
    During this time he had a girlfriend older than I am, and she dumped him. Sonny lost a landscaping job for being drunk, and my father in law begged his former boss to hire sonny. Sonny struck a car on the premises, and was fired from there, too.
    He blames US for his myriad of problems, and has taken a swing at me and threatened my life on two occasions.
    Sonny has never shown me any respect, or given me a gift–though my husband constantly hands him money and gives him gifts.
    He never apologizes for his bad behavior.My husband makes the excuse \”well, he didn\’t have a mother\” as an excuse. I tell my husband that my twins had no father–and look how well THEY turned out. He fails to understand that if you allow a child to get away with excuses for bad behavior, they always use the tactic, even when they are too old for it to be relevant!
    Last night my husband comes home upset, because his son, who is on Welfare because I did the paperwork–his son would NOT go for the interview until my husband took him–did not get a job at my brother\’s business.
    I was put in the position of having to call my brother and beg for a job for this lazy SOB!
    My husband accepts as an excuse from his son that his being unemployed is the \”fault\” of everyone and anyone but him!
    My brother couldn\’t hire him because he says the parent company he works for makes the choices, given the applications.
    My husband now refuses to speak to my brother, saying it is MY BROTHER\’s FAULT his son has no job, even though he told him three places to go and that sonny could say he was sent by my brother.
    Finally, I have been seriously ill, this past two years with cancers, since 2010, and Sonny has not only done nothing to help, he has also done all he can do to cause fights and tension, especially over holidays.
    He has not even said he was sorry for all of the trouble he has instigated by his drunken, bratty bad behavior.
    NOT ACCEPTABLE at the age of 32!!
    I did not want to be a stepmother, so I waited until my husband\’s son was grown to marry him. It didn\’t matter- my husband\’s son didn\’t pursue his own life, he wasted his trying to destroy OURS.
    There is NO REDEMPTION for him. Sonny has another girlfriend (think he is looking for a \”mother\”) with grown children. HOPEFULLY they will show him the same love and kindness he has shown me in the years I have tolerated his presence in my life.

  118. I was a single parent of twin boys because my husband walked out on me after nearly 11 yrs of marriage.
    My sons do NOT know their real father.
    I worked my ass off and raised my own sons, with the help of my parents.
    My husband or his family had no contact by their own choice, and offered NO financial support. My sons, now 22, are especially close to me.
    I met my current husband after my Mom died in 1997. He was a nice guy, but he had baggage–a teenaged son who was having a homo sexual relationship with his drama teacher, and had a dui before he turned 17.
    His son was spoiled because his birth mother, who never married my husband, was a crack whore, and abandoned him at my in-laws\\\\\\\’ as an infant. Everyone doted on him because they were trying to compensate for his mother leaving him; the mother had abandoned a sister who turned out just as bad as her mother did. His bad behavior was/is always excused with the words, \\\\\\\”well, he has NO MOTHER…\\\\\\\”
    She died of AIDS several years ago. I stood back from his son because I saw SONNY hit my son in the head with a piece of ice and split my child\\\\\\\’s head open at his HS graduation party when he was allowed to drink alcohol until he was grossly out of control. (SONNY was 17).He was a danger to my OWN sons, and I was NOT having that.
    The next time old Sonny tried to assault my 7 year olds, one kicked him in the balls and his twin got behind and put his foot up Sonny\\\\\\\’s ass. He or his friends never touched my sons again!!
    Sonny has been a drunk until 100 days ago, when he was forced into rehab after hitting rock bottom, winding up on Welfare, and drinking so much he blacked out and friends rushed him to the hospital, because he was almost in a coma.
    Sonny lost his license due to his dui after he got his license, was kicked out of the major university he had won a full scholarship to for flunking/dropping most of his classes, finishing his Freshman year with a sum total of 8 credits! I was the one who got the local county college to accept him, and sonny got himself kicked out for dropping too many classes (and pocketing refunds of the tuition his father and his aunt paid for him and using it for drugs and alcohol).
    When it was clearly obvious that his son would never make it as a college student, Sonny\\\\\\\’s grandmother begged her best friend, the grandmother of our city\\\\\\\’s then- mayor, to give him a job. Sonny was now 21, a closet addict, and working full time in a city job.
    My husband and I married at this point, believing he was well employed, and ready for independence. On MANY occasions I told my husband pre-marriage that I would NEVER allow his son, who assaulted his grandparents and stole money from them regularly, would never live with us. We were married when my sons were 11, and my husband worked out of town for most of the week. Though his son had been the \\\\\\\”only child\\\\\\\” and overindulged for over 21 years, he took every opportunity to cause trouble in our home. My sons, who are now 22, have been pretty much raised by me, and have scorned the example and lifestyle of sonny. The eldest of my sons plays six instruments, and is in a band. He is graduating college with two majors May 2013. The younger child, who graduated with dual majors and with honors December \\\\\\\”11, is a Sgt, in the USArmy, getting his second college degree in June 2013.
    Though testing positive for alcohol twice, Sonny was kept on at his prestigious city job. After 10 years of working erratically, he was brethalyzed and suspended for 60 days and ordered into rehab. In October 2011, Sonny went to work especially plastered and was breathylized at 7am, before he took his truck and went out to work. 0.11. Sonny was fired.
    During this time he had a girlfriend older than I am, and she dumped him. Sonny lost a landscaping job for being drunk, and my father in law begged his former boss to hire sonny. Sonny struck a car on the premises, and was fired from there, too.
    He blames US for his myriad of problems, and has taken a swing at me and threatened my life on two occasions.
    Sonny has never shown me any respect, or given me a gift–though my husband constantly hands him money and gives him gifts.
    He never apologizes for his bad behavior.My husband makes the excuse \\\\\\\”well, he didn\\\\\\\’t have a mother\\\\\\\” as an excuse. I tell my husband that my twins had no father–and look how well THEY turned out. He fails to understand that if you allow a child to get away with excuses for bad behavior, they always use the tactic, even when they are too old for it to be relevant!
    Last night my husband comes home upset, because his son, who is on Welfare because I did the paperwork–his son would NOT go for the interview until my husband took him–did not get a job at my brother\\\\\\\’s business.
    I was put in the position of having to call my brother and beg for a job for this lazy SOB!
    My husband accepts as an excuse from his son that his being unemployed is the \\\\\\\”fault\\\\\\\” of everyone and anyone but him!
    My brother couldn\\\\\\\’t hire him because he says the parent company he works for makes the choices, given the applications.
    My husband now refuses to speak to my brother, saying it is MY BROTHER\\\\\\\’s FAULT his son has no job, even though he told him three places to go and that sonny could say he was sent by my brother.
    Finally, I have been seriously ill, this past two years with cancers, since 2010, and Sonny has not only done nothing to help, he has also done all he can do to cause fights and tension, especially over holidays.
    He has not even said he was sorry for all of the trouble he has instigated by his drunken, bratty bad behavior.
    NOT ACCEPTABLE at the age of 32!!
    I did not want to be a stepmother, so I waited until my husband\\\\\\\’s son was grown to marry him. It didn\\\\\\\’t matter- my husband\\\\\\\’s son didn\\\\\\\’t pursue his own life, he wasted his trying to destroy OURS.
    There is NO REDEMPTION for him. Sonny has another girlfriend (think he is looking for a \\\\\\\”mother\\\\\\\”) with grown children. HOPEFULLY they will show him the same love and kindness he has shown me in the years I have tolerated his presence in my life.

  119. I was a single parent of twin boys because my husband walked out on me after nearly 11 yrs of marriage.
    My sons do NOT know their real father.
    I worked my ass off and raised my own sons, with the help of my parents.
    My husband or his family had no contact by their own choice, and offered NO financial support. My sons, now 22, are especially close to me.
    I met my current husband after my Mom died in 1997. He was a nice guy, but he had baggage–a teenaged son who was having a homo sexual relationship with his drama teacher, and had a dui before he turned 17.
    His son was spoiled because his birth mother, who never married my husband, was a crack whore, and abandoned him at my in-laws\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ as an infant. Everyone doted on him because they were trying to compensate for his mother leaving him; the mother had abandoned a sister who turned out just as bad as her mother did. His bad behavior was/is always excused with the words, \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”well, he has NO MOTHER…\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”
    She died of AIDS several years ago. I stood back from his son because I saw SONNY hit my son in the head with a piece of ice and split my child\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s head open at his HS graduation party when he was allowed to drink alcohol until he was grossly out of control. (SONNY was 17).He was a danger to my OWN sons, and I was NOT having that.
    The next time old Sonny tried to assault my 7 year olds, one kicked him in the balls and his twin got behind and put his foot up Sonny\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s ass. He or his friends never touched my sons again!!
    Sonny has been a drunk until 100 days ago, when he was forced into rehab after hitting rock bottom, winding up on Welfare, and drinking so much he blacked out and friends rushed him to the hospital, because he was almost in a coma.
    Sonny lost his license due to his dui after he got his license, was kicked out of the major university he had won a full scholarship to for flunking/dropping most of his classes, finishing his Freshman year with a sum total of 8 credits! I was the one who got the local county college to accept him, and sonny got himself kicked out for dropping too many classes (and pocketing refunds of the tuition his father and his aunt paid for him and using it for drugs and alcohol).
    When it was clearly obvious that his son would never make it as a college student, Sonny\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s grandmother begged her best friend, the grandmother of our city\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s then- mayor, to give him a job. Sonny was now 21, a closet addict, and working full time in a city job.
    My husband and I married at this point, believing he was well employed, and ready for independence. On MANY occasions I told my husband pre-marriage that I would NEVER allow his son, who assaulted his grandparents and stole money from them regularly, would never live with us. We were married when my sons were 11, and my husband worked out of town for most of the week. Though his son had been the \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”only child\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\” and overindulged for over 21 years, he took every opportunity to cause trouble in our home. My sons, who are now 22, have been pretty much raised by me, and have scorned the example and lifestyle of sonny. The eldest of my sons plays six instruments, and is in a band. He is graduating college with two majors May 2013. The younger child, who graduated with dual majors and with honors December \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”11, is a Sgt, in the USArmy, getting his second college degree in June 2013.
    Though testing positive for alcohol twice, Sonny was kept on at his prestigious city job. After 10 years of working erratically, he was brethalyzed and suspended for 60 days and ordered into rehab. In October 2011, Sonny went to work especially plastered and was breathylized at 7am, before he took his truck and went out to work. 0.11. Sonny was fired.
    During this time he had a girlfriend older than I am, and she dumped him. Sonny lost a landscaping job for being drunk, and my father in law begged his former boss to hire sonny. Sonny struck a car on the premises, and was fired from there, too.
    He blames US for his myriad of problems, and has taken a swing at me and threatened my life on two occasions.
    Sonny has never shown me any respect, or given me a gift–though my husband constantly hands him money and gives him gifts.
    He never apologizes for his bad behavior.My husband makes the excuse \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”well, he didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t have a mother\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\” as an excuse. I tell my husband that my twins had no father–and look how well THEY turned out. He fails to understand that if you allow a child to get away with excuses for bad behavior, they always use the tactic, even when they are too old for it to be relevant!
    Last night my husband comes home upset, because his son, who is on Welfare because I did the paperwork–his son would NOT go for the interview until my husband took him–did not get a job at my brother\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s business.
    I was put in the position of having to call my brother and beg for a job for this lazy SOB!
    My husband accepts as an excuse from his son that his being unemployed is the \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”fault\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\” of everyone and anyone but him!
    My brother couldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t hire him because he says the parent company he works for makes the choices, given the applications.
    My husband now refuses to speak to my brother, saying it is MY BROTHER\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s FAULT his son has no job, even though he told him three places to go and that sonny could say he was sent by my brother.
    Finally, I have been seriously ill, this past two years with cancers, since 2010, and Sonny has not only done nothing to help, he has also done all he can do to cause fights and tension, especially over holidays.
    He has not even said he was sorry for all of the trouble he has instigated by his drunken, bratty bad behavior.
    NOT ACCEPTABLE at the age of 32!!
    I did not want to be a stepmother, so I waited until my husband\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s son was grown to marry him. It didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t matter- my husband\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s son didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t pursue his own life, he wasted his trying to destroy OURS.
    There is NO REDEMPTION for him. Sonny has another girlfriend (think he is looking for a \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”mother\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”) with grown children. HOPEFULLY they will show him the same love and kindness he has shown me in the years I have tolerated his presence in my life.

  120. I was a single parent of twin boys because my husband walked out on me after nearly 11 yrs of marriage.
    My sons do NOT know their real father.
    I worked my ass off and raised my own sons, with the help of my parents.
    My husband or his family had no contact by their own choice, and offered NO financial support. My sons, now 22, are especially close to me.
    I met my current husband after my Mom died in 1997. He was a nice guy, but he had baggage–a teenaged son who was having a homo sexual relationship with his drama teacher, and had a dui before he turned 17.
    His son was spoiled because his birth mother, who never married my husband, was a crack whore, and abandoned him at my in-laws\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ as an infant. Everyone doted on him because they were trying to compensate for his mother leaving him; the mother had abandoned a sister who turned out just as bad as her mother did. His bad behavior was/is always excused with the words, \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”well, he has NO MOTHER…\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”
    She died of AIDS several years ago. I stood back from his son because I saw SONNY hit my son in the head with a piece of ice and split my child\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s head open at his HS graduation party when he was allowed to drink alcohol until he was grossly out of control. (SONNY was 17).He was a danger to my OWN sons, and I was NOT having that.
    The next time old Sonny tried to assault my 7 year olds, one kicked him in the balls and his twin got behind and put his foot up Sonny\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s ass. He or his friends never touched my sons again!!
    Sonny has been a drunk until 100 days ago, when he was forced into rehab after hitting rock bottom, winding up on Welfare, and drinking so much he blacked out and friends rushed him to the hospital, because he was almost in a coma.
    Sonny lost his license due to his dui after he got his license, was kicked out of the major university he had won a full scholarship to for flunking/dropping most of his classes, finishing his Freshman year with a sum total of 8 credits! I was the one who got the local county college to accept him, and sonny got himself kicked out for dropping too many classes (and pocketing refunds of the tuition his father and his aunt paid for him and using it for drugs and alcohol).
    When it was clearly obvious that his son would never make it as a college student, Sonny\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s grandmother begged her best friend, the grandmother of our city\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s then- mayor, to give him a job. Sonny was now 21, a closet addict, and working full time in a city job.
    My husband and I married at this point, believing he was well employed, and ready for independence. On MANY occasions I told my husband pre-marriage that I would NEVER allow his son, who assaulted his grandparents and stole money from them regularly, would never live with us. We were married when my sons were 11, and my husband worked out of town for most of the week. Though his son had been the \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”only child\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\” and overindulged for over 21 years, he took every opportunity to cause trouble in our home. My sons, who are now 22, have been pretty much raised by me, and have scorned the example and lifestyle of sonny. The eldest of my sons plays six instruments, and is in a band. He is graduating college with two majors May 2013. The younger child, who graduated with dual majors and with honors December \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”11, is a Sgt, in the USArmy, getting his second college degree in June 2013.
    Though testing positive for alcohol twice, Sonny was kept on at his prestigious city job. After 10 years of working erratically, he was brethalyzed and suspended for 60 days and ordered into rehab. In October 2011, Sonny went to work especially plastered and was breathylized at 7am, before he took his truck and went out to work. 0.11. Sonny was fired.
    During this time he had a girlfriend older than I am, and she dumped him. Sonny lost a landscaping job for being drunk, and my father in law begged his former boss to hire sonny. Sonny struck a car on the premises, and was fired from there, too.
    He blames US for his myriad of problems, and has taken a swing at me and threatened my life on two occasions.
    Sonny has never shown me any respect, or given me a gift–though my husband constantly hands him money and gives him gifts.
    He never apologizes for his bad behavior.My husband makes the excuse \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”well, he didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t have a mother\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\” as an excuse. I tell my husband that my twins had no father–and look how well THEY turned out. He fails to understand that if you allow a child to get away with excuses for bad behavior, they always use the tactic, even when they are too old for it to be relevant!
    Last night my husband comes home upset, because his son, who is on Welfare because I did the paperwork–his son would NOT go for the interview until my husband took him–did not get a job at my brother\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s business.
    I was put in the position of having to call my brother and beg for a job for this lazy SOB!
    My husband accepts as an excuse from his son that his being unemployed is the \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”fault\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\” of everyone and anyone but him!
    My brother couldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t hire him because he says the parent company he works for makes the choices, given the applications.
    My husband now refuses to speak to my brother, saying it is MY BROTHER\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s FAULT his son has no job, even though he told him three places to go and that sonny could say he was sent by my brother.
    Finally, I have been seriously ill, this past two years with cancers, since 2010, and Sonny has not only done nothing to help, he has also done all he can do to cause fights and tension, especially over holidays.
    He has not even said he was sorry for all of the trouble he has instigated by his drunken, bratty bad behavior.
    NOT ACCEPTABLE at the age of 32!!
    I did not want to be a stepmother, so I waited until my husband\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s son was grown to marry him. It didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t matter- my husband\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’s son didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t pursue his own life, he wasted his trying to destroy OURS.
    There is NO REDEMPTION for him. Sonny has another girlfriend (think he is looking for a \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”mother\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\”) with grown children. HOPEFULLY they will show him the same love and kindness he has shown me in the years I have tolerated his presence in my life.

  121. I was a single parent of twin boys because my husband walked out on me after nearly 11 yrs of marriage.
    My sons do NOT know their real father.
    I worked my ass off and raised my own sons, with the help of my parents.
    My husband or his family had no contact by their own choice, and offered NO financial support. My sons, now 22, are especially close to me.
    I met my current husband after my Mom died in 1997. He was a nice guy, but he had baggage–a teenaged son who was having a homo sexual relationship with his drama teacher, and had a dui before he turned 17.
    His son was spoiled because his birth mother, who never married my husband, was a crack whore, and abandoned him at my in-laws’ as an infant. Everyone doted on him because they were trying to compensate for his mother leaving him; the mother had abandoned a sister who turned out just as bad as her mother did. His bad behavior was/is always excused with the words, “well, he has NO MOTHER…”
    She died of AIDS several years ago. I stood back from his son because I saw SONNY hit my son in the head with a piece of ice and split my child’s head open at his HS graduation party when he was allowed to drink alcohol until he was grossly out of control. (SONNY was 17).He was a danger to my OWN sons, and I was NOT having that.
    The next time old Sonny tried to assault my 7 year olds, one kicked him in the balls and his twin got behind and put his foot up Sonny’s ass. He or his friends never touched my sons again!!
    Sonny has been a drunk until 100 days ago, when he was forced into rehab after hitting rock bottom, winding up on Welfare, and drinking so much he blacked out and friends rushed him to the hospital, because he was almost in a coma.
    Sonny lost his license due to his dui after he got his license, was kicked out of the major university he had won a full scholarship to for flunking/dropping most of his classes, finishing his Freshman year with a sum total of 8 credits! I was the one who got the local county college to accept him, and sonny got himself kicked out for dropping too many classes (and pocketing refunds of the tuition his father and his aunt paid for him and using it for drugs and alcohol).
    When it was clearly obvious that his son would never make it as a college student, Sonny’s grandmother begged her best friend, the grandmother of our city’s then- mayor, to give him a job. Sonny was now 21, a closet addict, and working full time in a city job.
    My husband and I married at this point, believing he was well employed, and ready for independence. On MANY occasions I told my husband pre-marriage that I would NEVER allow his son, who assaulted his grandparents and stole money from them regularly, would never live with us. We were married when my sons were 11, and my husband worked out of town for most of the week. Though his son had been the “only child” and overindulged for over 21 years, he took every opportunity to cause trouble in our home. My sons, who are now 22, have been pretty much raised by me, and have scorned the example and lifestyle of sonny. The eldest of my sons plays six instruments, and is in a band. He is graduating college with two majors May 2013. The younger child, who graduated with dual majors and with honors December “11, is a Sgt, in the USArmy, getting his second college degree in June 2013.
    Though testing positive for alcohol twice, Sonny was kept on at his prestigious city job. After 10 years of working erratically, he was brethalyzed and suspended for 60 days and ordered into rehab. In October 2011, Sonny went to work especially plastered and was breathylized at 7am, before he took his truck and went out to work. 0.11. Sonny was fired.
    During this time he had a girlfriend older than I am, and she dumped him. Sonny lost a landscaping job for being drunk, and my father in law begged his former boss to hire sonny. Sonny struck a car on the premises, and was fired from there, too.
    He blames US for his myriad of problems, and has taken a swing at me and threatened my life on two occasions.
    Sonny has never shown me any respect, or given me a gift–though my husband constantly hands him money and gives him gifts.
    He never apologizes for his bad behavior.My husband makes the excuse “well, he didn’t have a mother” as an excuse. I tell my husband that my twins had no father–and look how well THEY turned out. He fails to understand that if you allow a child to get away with excuses for bad behavior, they always use the tactic, even when they are too old for it to be relevant!
    Last night my husband comes home upset, because his son, who is on Welfare because I did the paperwork–his son would NOT go for the interview until my husband took him–did not get a job at my brother’s business.
    I was put in the position of having to call my brother and beg for a job for this lazy SOB!
    My husband accepts as an excuse from his son that his being unemployed is the “fault” of everyone and anyone but him!
    My brother couldn’t hire him because he says the parent company he works for makes the choices, given the applications.
    My husband now refuses to speak to my brother, saying it is MY BROTHER’s FAULT his son has no job, even though he told him three places to go and that sonny could say he was sent by my brother.
    Finally, I have been seriously ill, this past two years with cancers, since 2010, and Sonny has not only done nothing to help, he has also done all he can do to cause fights and tension, especially over holidays.
    He has not even said he was sorry for all of the trouble he has instigated by his drunken, bratty bad behavior.
    NOT ACCEPTABLE at the age of 32!!
    I did not want to be a stepmother, so I waited until my husband’s son was grown to marry him. It didn’t matter- my husband’s son didn’t pursue his own life, he wasted his trying to destroy OURS.
    There is NO REDEMPTION for him. Sonny has another girlfriend (think he is looking for a “mother”) with grown children. HOPEFULLY they will show him the same love and kindness he has shown me in the years I have tolerated his presence in my life.

  122. I was a single parent of twin boys because my husband walked out on me after nearly 11 yrs of marriage.
    My sons do NOT know their real father.
    I worked my ass off and raised my own sons, with the help of my parents.
    My husband or his family had no contact by their own choice, and offered NO financial support. My sons, now 22, are especially close to me.
    I met my current husband after my Mom died in 1997. He was a nice guy, but he had baggage–a teenaged son who was having a homo sexual relationship with his drama teacher, and had a dui before he turned 17.
    His son was spoiled because his birth mother, who never married my husband, was a crack whore, and abandoned him at my in-laws\’ as an infant. Everyone doted on him because they were trying to compensate for his mother leaving him; the mother had abandoned a sister who turned out just as bad as her mother did. His bad behavior was/is always excused with the words, \”well, he has NO MOTHER…\”
    She died of AIDS several years ago. I stood back from his son because I saw SONNY hit my son in the head with a piece of ice and split my child\’s head open at his HS graduation party when he was allowed to drink alcohol until he was grossly out of control. (SONNY was 17).He was a danger to my OWN sons, and I was NOT having that.
    The next time old Sonny tried to assault my 7 year olds, one kicked him in the balls and his twin got behind and put his foot up Sonny\’s ass. He or his friends never touched my sons again!!
    Sonny has been a drunk until 100 days ago, when he was forced into rehab after hitting rock bottom, winding up on Welfare, and drinking so much he blacked out and friends rushed him to the hospital, because he was almost in a coma.
    Sonny lost his license due to his dui after he got his license, was kicked out of the major university he had won a full scholarship to for flunking/dropping most of his classes, finishing his Freshman year with a sum total of 8 credits! I was the one who got the local county college to accept him, and sonny got himself kicked out for dropping too many classes (and pocketing refunds of the tuition his father and his aunt paid for him and using it for drugs and alcohol).
    When it was clearly obvious that his son would never make it as a college student, Sonny\’s grandmother begged her best friend, the grandmother of our city\’s then- mayor, to give him a job. Sonny was now 21, a closet addict, and working full time in a city job.
    My husband and I married at this point, believing he was well employed, and ready for independence. On MANY occasions I told my husband pre-marriage that I would NEVER allow his son, who assaulted his grandparents and stole money from them regularly, would never live with us. We were married when my sons were 11, and my husband worked out of town for most of the week. Though his son had been the \”only child\” and overindulged for over 21 years, he took every opportunity to cause trouble in our home. My sons, who are now 22, have been pretty much raised by me, and have scorned the example and lifestyle of sonny. The eldest of my sons plays six instruments, and is in a band. He is graduating college with two majors May 2013. The younger child, who graduated with dual majors and with honors December \”11, is a Sgt, in the USArmy, getting his second college degree in June 2013.
    Though testing positive for alcohol twice, Sonny was kept on at his prestigious city job. After 10 years of working erratically, he was brethalyzed and suspended for 60 days and ordered into rehab. In October 2011, Sonny went to work especially plastered and was breathylized at 7am, before he took his truck and went out to work. 0.11. Sonny was fired.
    During this time he had a girlfriend older than I am, and she dumped him. Sonny lost a landscaping job for being drunk, and my father in law begged his former boss to hire sonny. Sonny struck a car on the premises, and was fired from there, too.
    He blames US for his myriad of problems, and has taken a swing at me and threatened my life on two occasions.
    Sonny has never shown me any respect, or given me a gift–though my husband constantly hands him money and gives him gifts.
    He never apologizes for his bad behavior.My husband makes the excuse \”well, he didn\’t have a mother\” as an excuse. I tell my husband that my twins had no father–and look how well THEY turned out. He fails to understand that if you allow a child to get away with excuses for bad behavior, they always use the tactic, even when they are too old for it to be relevant!
    Last night my husband comes home upset, because his son, who is on Welfare because I did the paperwork–his son would NOT go for the interview until my husband took him–did not get a job at my brother\’s business.
    I was put in the position of having to call my brother and beg for a job for this lazy SOB!
    My husband accepts as an excuse from his son that his being unemployed is the \”fault\” of everyone and anyone but him!
    My brother couldn\’t hire him because he says the parent company he works for makes the choices, given the applications.
    My husband now refuses to speak to my brother, saying it is MY BROTHER\’s FAULT his son has no job, even though he told him three places to go and that sonny could say he was sent by my brother.
    Finally, I have been seriously ill, this past two years with cancers, since 2010, and Sonny has not only done nothing to help, he has also done all he can do to cause fights and tension, especially over holidays.
    He has not even said he was sorry for all of the trouble he has instigated by his drunken, bratty bad behavior.
    NOT ACCEPTABLE at the age of 32!!
    I did not want to be a stepmother, so I waited until my husband\’s son was grown to marry him. It didn\’t matter- my husband\’s son didn\’t pursue his own life, he wasted his trying to destroy OURS.
    There is NO REDEMPTION for him. Sonny has another girlfriend (think he is looking for a \”mother\”) with grown children. HOPEFULLY they will show him the same love and kindness he has shown me in the years I have tolerated his presence in my life.

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