Step Children: Why Do Women Hate Them So Much?
Women can not tolerate step children. Men may show dislike for step children but the length to which step mothers go just to torture the other children in their lives a living hell is quite abhorring. Why do women hate step children so much? Why can’t they stand the sight of another woman’s children yet entertain those of neighbors and strangers?
It’s not the step children’s fault
Woe unto those children who are brought up as step sons or daughters for one reason or another. It isn’t their fault that their mothers or fathers died, it isn’t their fault that their parents separated, and it isn’t their fault that at some point they were left with one parent, but more often than not they live through hell, thanks to the women into whose life they fall when the inevitable happens.
Step mothers from hell
Never wish for your child to fall into these women from hell, never wish for your son or daughter to encounter the terrorism that they spew like venom for he or she will never know peace, for she or he will never grow up with confidence.
Women hate step children
Women hate step children, they hate the other children left in their care when the real mother dies or is divorced or for whatever reason is not available to bring up her own children. I have never understood why they hate these children so much when at times they are more welcoming to those of the neighbors and even complete strangers in the home.
Is it because of the other woman?
Could it be because step children remind their men of the other woman who gave him these children? Could it be because these children are a bridge to a past they would rather forget? Why should the poor children pay for mistakes that weren’t theirs in the first place? Why should they pay when their mother is to blame for dying or separating for some reason from their dad?
Is it because of inheritance?
Do these women mistreat the step children out of the fear of losing out on the man’s inheritance? Do they fear that their own children may get a smaller share of the will at the expense of their step children? Are these children seen as competitors in all matters to do with the will? Even if they are, whose fault is it?
Step children don’t deserve this cruelty
Step children have seen it all. Their fingers have been burned and pricked with needles, they have been tortured like animals in captivity, they have been poisoned time and again, they have been strangled, they have buried alive by their step mothers yet the law is silent on their plight and the actions of these women who mistreat them go unpunished for more often than not they fear the repercussions of ever reporting this cruelty to their dads and have to suffer in silence, most of the time their daddy loves their new mother from hell and will not hear their own version of the story and they have either to shape up or shape out. They become strangers in their own home; they become outsiders under their own roof, a roof that was at one time filled with maternal warmth, a roof that held a lot of promise for a brighter future for them that now dims before their own eyes.
Why do women hate them so much?
When will step mothers let these poor children rest, when will step mothers treat these children a little more humanely, when will men who they call fathers wake up to the realities that take place right under their noses?
My heart cries out to all of them. I know what they go through and just wish women were a little more understanding, a little more tolerant, a little more humane to these poor children. They have never known peace on earth through a fault that wasn’t theirs and will never be theirs. Why do women hate these children so much?
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Karen Gross | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
Good topic. It just seems that your view is quite extreme. I have friends who are raising stepchildren, and while it can be a difficult situation, I can’t imagine anyone abusing children the way you describe. I guess it does happen, and there are people who do commit these atrocities.
ceegirl | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
You said it all.
giftarist | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
Well, it kinda reminds me of my Dad’s story. Good share, friend.
creativeone | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
Great article. Alot of families can relate to this.
Love Doc | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
Most women are competitive by nature. Perhaps they feel that their spouse’s step children are going to take their love and attention away from them. Perhaps these women just need to find themelves a man without baggage. I don’t have any problems with guys that have kids as long as they like me.
B Nelson | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
Not all women hate step kids and those who do should NOT get involved with a guy with kids.. some men hate step kids too.. after all.. there are many stories of women who kill their kids because the guys found them a burden.
ronthoughts | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
i have two friends, a male Canadian-American who is divorced with 3 children and a Japanese-Hawaiian female friend with 2 male kids also divorce, they met, got married and have their own children but they all lived together in the same house with one of the happiest family i saw and lived with for some time. They have a total of 9 children at this time.
Authoress Terry E. Lyle | Jul 6, 2010 | Reply
It’s pretty sad when you don’t show the love to the stepchildren, because they are a package deal with the parent now in charge that you profess your love too. If you’re an adult then grow up and act like it and be the parent you would be to your own blood children. It might be difficult but raising children isn’t a picnic anyway.
PSingh90 | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
.good post…….
hope2010 | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
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Anuradha Ramkumar | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Many women as you said hate step children. I think it could be because of the other women in their man’s life…I’m not sure. But recently I came across women who raises step children as their own.
ShadowPsychos | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
great article…i think that you cant just put it down to one reason…but the kid by the man they love…is also another womans…something that they are not tightly linked to in that way…jealousy? anyway as entertaining as ever
Idlepen | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Very toucy one, I have some different view. You have a God-gifted pen LEO. Thanks.
JIMMY SHILAHO | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
I know there are rare cases in which some women take care of those children exceptionally well, but the reality out there is disheartening more often than not.
Temjen Imchen | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Jealousy…with a belief that she will not her due attention from her husband.
Ashwath Komath | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
this was VERY enlightening. great share.
yes me | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Your right it is never the child’s fault, now I’ll sit on the fence cheers Leo
rajaryanme | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Not all the women hate step children.
Starpisces | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Very good article again. Yes, mainly because of the other woman. Let say I am a man. I will not marry any woman who detest any children, whether my own child or not..or maybe before married she may pretend to like the child/children and then later show the true colour, and if this the case I will divorce her and marry the 3rd one or be a single father. The only problem is she may have her own child/children so will be more difficult to divorce her, very headache.
(suddenly I become a man)
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Poo in Love | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
A very deep thought to write about … amazing piece Leo.
sunnyiam | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
hmm good one…but loving or hating step children, itss all on situations…
Mrjaialai | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
I don’t know if I would put all the blame on the woman. I think you make a good point that the children remind her of the other woman, but she knows all of this going into the relationship and has to live with the man that she falls for having kids.
So, the problem is deep in that it starts knowing what she is getting herself into before the relationship starts. If she can’t accept the fact that the kids in the relationship are from another woman going into it, then maybe she should not enter in the relationship in the first place.
But, once again I would say don’t make this a one way street. there are many men out there that go into a relationship with a woman and don’t like the kids that she has, and the same can be said that if she has a 17 year old son for example that her boyfriend can’t stand her son, becusae he remindes the boyfriend of the other man.
suhail | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
i can relate to the topic as i have seen some one close deal with a step mother from hell .. and the mental torture was huge on her …
the person who is willing to marry second time is well aware of the statistic so i call them a partner in crime with the step mother
Jewelstar | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Blood is thicker than water. For these women step children are not kids of their very own blood. Thus a hatred towards them.
Andy MacManus | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
You’re a fucking idiot. How can you say that all women hate their stepchildren? I have a very loving stepmom who, though annoying at times, loves me and my siblings very much.
You make me sick. The fact that so many people like this article proves only that there are mean women in the world, nothing else. You write as if you have something serious and educated to say, and what comes out is speculative drivel.
Everyone who likes this article is a piece of illiterate and simple-minded shit.
dablu | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Nicely written thanks.
the fact that people relate to this show that it is so real I am wonderfully surprised that it is a universal phenomenon!, People will think it is widely prevalent in third world society where people are less educated and poor.
JIMMY SHILAHO | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Hey Andy, you just said what I believe myself, I am an idiot yes but there is nowhere in the article where I stated that all women hate step children. To every rule their is always an exception. Thanks anyway for sharing what you really feel about the article.
ashan1614 | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
I think we have an over-generalization here; and quite one-sided. There are many men out there who expect a wife to choose between him and her children (his step-children) and just as many women (I work with several) who accept and care for their step-children as if they were their own.
Annie Hintsala | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
Perhaps this has been the unfortunate case with the women in your own life, but I know many women who love their step-children as they do their own. My own step-mother was a brilliant, loving woman who was obviously a little more together than the women you are basing this on. My advice: Get to know better women. I question the validity of your whole premise. You show nothing but your own opinion-no facts, no studies done, Just ‘hey, I think step mom’s suck.’ No, they don’t. Just the ones you know do.
Erin Miller | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
I have a Stepmom. My experience with her is a little different for me. My Stepmom loves me as if I am her own daughter. And she also has two kids (My half brothers) with my dad. She is great. Though I could understand other scenarios when stepchildren are maltreated. Good article though.
VTAlsup | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
OMG – this is the most one sided piece of crap writing I have ever seen. Most moms are good moms – step or not. I raised kids – some biological – some not – I love them all – and they bring all 13 of my grandbabies home for holidays, birthdays, weekends ect. I’ve never known a “step mom” that was mean to her kids – just lucky I guess since you say it’s so prevalent.
babygirl3605 | Jul 7, 2010 | Reply
I know more men who hate their step kids then women. I am now single and I would rather date a man that has kids. Then one that doesn’t.
JIMMY SHILAHO | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
Hehehe…I have never been this misunderstood before. I never meant all mothers or women hate their step children but most do whatever you want to believe. I have related cases that actually took place. It may be an opinion but it is based on long time observation. Just because some of you were lucky to have a good step mom does not mean all is well, and again I like writing such crap because it gets comments from you, otherwise Triond would be so boring.
Gateway to Wizard | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
This is very thought provoking… In fact one of the comments above is quiet below the belt… I think your ideas are from your own experience… I respect that… But there are also those who are good step moms… cheers though…
Jamie Myles | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
I have raised step children and I love them with all my heart! I would never hurt them or allow anyone else to hurt them. As Karen said, your take on step mothers sound very extreme.
LiteraryPrincess | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
LQQKs like you’ve done it now, Leo! AND, some of these women would probably love to be YOUR step-mother right about now! I bet you’d find yourself sleeping in a closet for a bit, and Mommy Dearest wouldn’t have anything on some of these women. Kidding ladies! Anyway, sometimes I think it comes down to behaviors, women have “trained” their own kids in a certain way and then the step children come along, and sometimes are a challenge for the step mother. I don’t think that all step moms are horrible to step-children; in fact, I’ve known a couple of these types of relationships where the child preferred to be with the step-mother over the biological mother. What step-parents need to remember is that, children grow up and sometimes when they do-they TELL everything. Step-parents also need to think about how fast time passes, and realize that one day, they’re going to be old and they might be alone with that step-child they once mistreated.
zain0077 | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
I know many women who love their step-children as they do their own,Great article.
Atanacio | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
very good entry once again
K.D. Storm | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
I am a product of having a step-mother and even though she and I don’t have a great relationship (We don’t speak) She would never do the things you described in here. To her credit she did her best but it didn’t work as far as she and I are concern. But I will say she is a good person
Sadly there are more stories about the ones like you have described than the other type. This was a good subject to touch on and well written.
Ruby Hawk | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
What you say is true for some families but many step-mothers are better to the children than the real mothers. I’m not a step mother so I’m not saying that to defend myself. I know both kinds.
Brewed Coffee | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
These things do happen but it’s not fair to generalize that all step moms are like the way you described them. I think you should keep a balance of things as there are step mothers who are even better than the biological mothers.
RSyed | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply
people should be rational when they marry the first time, divorce is terrible for practically all involved
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Pablina | Jul 9, 2010 | Reply
Wow. What a very narrow view you have there. It is possible that your own experiences have given you this opinion however I assure you that not all women hate their step children.
doppy283 | Jul 9, 2010 | Reply
this is very true. i have a friend who can rlate to this
EMMANUEL UDOM | Jul 9, 2010 | Reply
ALL human beings come from one GOD. I know it is not right to hate anybody, whether step children or not
Angelita DeBois | Jul 9, 2010 | Reply
You are one of those people I can’t stand: a person who compares their 5 block experience and translates it to a world view. Do you know 1000 stepmothers? A million? Have you conducted a scientific study based on real data or are you just pulling this out of your ass to make a few extra pennies on Triond??? Your writing is deplorable and irresponsible, but it’s not the worse thing…the worst thing is that you paint ALL step-mothers as evil, money-grubbing, psychos. That might be true…if this was a Disney fairytale! The truth of the matter is you can’t use such a broad brush to paint all people (that leads to racism, moron); and I take particular dislike to your festering hatred of women. You need to explore your world more…meet different people than the obvious garbage that are currently influencing you.
Jerk.
Denis Liang | Jul 10, 2010 | Reply
They don’t like it just as you wouldn’t like to raise someones else kids in Sims for example lol, it’s just not your own
TammyFSmithCaldwell | Jul 10, 2010 | Reply
I think your title should be more like Why some women hate step-children. Your title insinuates that all women hate steps.
I was unfortunate enough to have a step father that did not like us very well, but I also have friends who’s step parent loved and treated them as if they were their very own.
Intuitive | Jul 10, 2010 | Reply
There are all kinds! Some step-moms i think go out of their way to be good to their step children and some sick minded ones fester hatred.
In my country the popular belief is that step moms are terrible. In fact extreme care is taken while selecting a spouse when there are children from an earlier marriage, esp. in India usually a step mom’s is the wife’s sister, they prefer this(in case of the death of the wife) as they feel the children will be well taken care of. But I have some friends who love and are loved extremely by their step-moms. I think only a sick woman can hate children step or own! It is the animal instinct to reject children not her own. I don’t ever want to come across any such!
mufflepuff | Jul 10, 2010 | Reply
Good article, but your asking a bit too many questions, and no solid answers.
Minbani | Jul 11, 2010 | Reply
What a delicate subject matter
Strangely, it is not only step-mums who treat their step children so badly sometimes it can be the natural Fathers of the children as well.
I think this happens (in my case anyway) because my “X” was jealous of the time I spent with my kids and the relationship I had and have with them.
I once worked for a scientific organisation and part of my job was looking after and carefully observing Rats and other small rodents.
Many of the male Rats used to eat their young unless they could be segregated early. I think my ex-husband should have been segregated from us much earlier….
And I have never remarried. Once bitten three times shy!
stargazerschild | Jul 12, 2010 | Reply
My stepmother disliked me intensely throughout her marriage to my father. I returned the favor, I wouldn’t even talk to her unless forced to. At least we were lucky that we never lived together.
Once my dad and stepmother split up, all of a sudden my stepmother and I got along much better.
My dad had pretended to be a very involved father before marrying my stepmother, but once she saw how it really was she realized that he wasn’t so involved and besides there was 350 miles one way between us.
In the end, though, we liked each other as women, not as stepdaughter/stepmother. Spent Christmases with her and my dad after the divorce.
virility ex | Jul 12, 2010 | Reply
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Masonlu | Jul 12, 2010 | Reply
That is so disgusting! These men should probably do a better jobs at screening out these women that they choose. These days, the chances that a woman will marry or date a man who has a child is higher than it’s ever been. These women better get used to it. That is soo selfish.
CA Johnson | Jul 12, 2010 | Reply
This is very good. It is sad that there are women who hate their stepchildren. I have never dealt with that because my parents are still together.
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Belinda Dobie | Jul 13, 2010 | Reply
Could be a law of nature. When a male takes over a pride of females the existing children are killed. Maybe it’s like that in humans too. I’m thinking it works both ways, human females feeling the same way. Granted not all of them do but I’m thnking that the instinct to get rid of the off spring of one’s rival is still there in the sub-concious.
Jami sizer | Aug 17, 2010 | Reply
You speak as if you are an expert, I would be interested to know the source your knowledge of this mass cruelty and attempted genocide. How can we be living amongst that many cruel women when approximately 50% or more children (in some area it’s 80%) are in second families? You also have not addressed child abuse occurring from natural parents. May it be that your scorn has roots in a personally hurtful experience? I would be careful of generalizing…that’s how racism starts.
shivanipearl | Aug 20, 2010 | Reply
I agree with Shilaho, it is observes that ” these” step moms are really blind to the sufferings to the young children also as i fthey are transformed or under some kind of evil shadow.There are exceptions surely but mostly it is true.