In a world filled with opinions here comes one more – Which is best spanking or time out? Could both be the answer?
The Super Nanny’s advice was to use time out with the twins. So, as the show progressed one of the mother’s little twins decided to play on the stairs. The mother explained to the two-year-old that he could get hurt and that if he proceeded to do this that he would go in time out. Sounds reasonable, right?
Oh, but no my friends.
I was watching Super Nanny here while back. The mother had twins and was having a difficult time disciplining them
The mother at the advice of the Supper Nanny placed the child in time out not once, not twice, but forty some times for this one incident. The child thought it was a game. Thus, began the tag team efforts of the twins to wear down mom with time out. Supper Nanny advised mom not to give up that it was her lack of discipline that had spurred on the twins and that as they saw how serious she was and how consistent she was that they would succumb to the new discipline routine of time out.
Enough Time Out
Let me begin by saying I am not against time out and other forms of discipline. But, what I am against is using it as the only form of punishment. I also feel that in this day and age that we have to many people trying every other method in the book, but refusing to spank. I hear parents being smart mouthed in the stores by their teens. I hear kids crying, screaming, and throwing an all out fit when they don’t get their way. Then the parent stands there trying to reason with the child and use every kind of “psychology crap” they can to get the child to calm down
when all that was needed was a firm swat on the bottom and a direct ” I said no” . There is a time when time out is not enough.
I’ve heard it said before by others my age, but I agree. ” I was spanked as a child and it did not hurt me. ” I understand that there can be a fine line to cross when it comes to spanking and abuse. When it is done inappropriately and in anger it can lead to and be abuse. There are parents who are true authoritarians that don’t allow for the child to be a child and express themselves to some degree. They lean too heavily on the belt and a good spanking.
I guess where spanking is concerned there needs to be some etiquette applied. Some guidelines that are set forth. First, always remember that they are children and that just as clay is molded in your hands so are they. Remember too, that if you go at them by lashing out in anger and beating them senseless you will only create hurt and angry adults who may have a hard time in the future.
When I go to punish my son the first thing I do is not to spank him. What I begin with is a small talk that explains why his actions or words are not appropriate. I give him a warning not to do it again and then if he does I ground him from things he loves most; his friends, TV, video games, etc. . Then if the behavior continues I do spank.
Now, if there is a situation that is life threatening to him or someone else then yes and most definitely he gets spanked. I feel that it is important to emphasize these times and to make them as real as possible to him.
I know that as long as time will stand there are going to be varying degrees of opinions on this subject. That is fine. I feel that as long as the child is loved and that it is the best intent of the parent to nurture that child to grow up to be healthy physically. Also, helping them to be an emotionally and mentally stable individual is the fulfillment of any parents job. Then begins the battle of the spanking issue with a whole new generation of parents…
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