Selfish Parenting

The Partier

This is usually people who have kids young, but not necessarily so. These are the parents who refuse to change their lifestyle because of a child. They want to travel and party and continue to do so, without their child. These people are selfish only because they are putting themselves ahead of the life they have created, and while it is important we do have some fun in our lives we need to remember why we became a parent. If our child is a burden to our desired lifestyle perhaps we were not ready to have children. When we can incorporate our lifestyle with a child, then we move forward.

Too Many Kids

Years ago families were large because birth control was unheard of and more kids meant more help. Governments encouraged large families, it meant more people for their armies, and later meant more tax payers. Religion followed as larger families meant larger congregations. Today many people have families far too large for them to support, financially, physically, and emotionally. People often turn to the government for financial assistance, turn to day cares to help raise their kids, or simply turn their backs on their kids, allowing their children to be raised by television. All this because selfish people simply “wanted” a large family, with lots of kids.

The Desire for Money

Another problem is some parents do not know what the word “sacrifice” means. They refuse to give up anything for the sake of their kids. To them all that matters is money. These are the people who from the moment their child is three months old try to find a day care that will accept them. They refuse to give up anything in order to stay at home and raise their own flesh and blood. Like most selfish parents, they do not see it as being selfish. They tell themselves they are doing it so their child can have lots of things, but the things their child needs the most, is for them to be a parent.

Living Though Them

Some parents grew up always wanting to be a star at something, football, piano, whatever. They force their child into following the footsteps they did not finish taking. They push their child more and more and fail to see that the child is unhappy or does not have the same dream that their parent had. In the end this often makes the child hate the sport, hobby, or whatever role they were forced into for the selfish need of the parent. Sometimes this happens because the parent is trying to play the role of support they wish their own parent played or sometimes they are tying to relive (through their child) moments of their own lost childhood.

The Demand for Grandkids

Once our children are grown a new phase of selfish parenting begins to emerge. The one in which we want our kids to have grandchildren. We have all heard somebody say “When are you going to give us grandchildren?” Could there be a more selfish question? This is probably one of the biggest problems adult children experience. To this end many parents are so selfish they react in horror if they learn their child, for whatever reason, does not want children. Homosexuality is met with fear because it may mean there will be no grandchildren. Is their anything more cruel than not loving a child simply because they want something different?

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