The term "Time out" is much popular among the preschoolers than among any other older kids. It consists of immediately isolating a child in a boring place for a few minutes when he or she misbehaves.
Preschoolers are intensively learning rules and testing boundaries. They are much more capable of rational thoughts than a toddler, she’s still ruled by her emotions and can turn on a dime from a happy go lucky girl to a wailing wild thing.
When the preschooler crosses the line or gets too worked up for her own good, sometimes the best way is to make her calm down or isolate her from the place which made her to do that, and this is termed as “Time Out”. This method is a great way to shape behaviour. This also helps both the child and the parent to get a cooling off period and regain control of their emotions. The success to this lies in effectively handling and using the timeout in the appropriate situation. It can almost change any childhood behaviour.
It is most useful for aggressive, disruptive and harmful behaviour This is not needed for children below the age of 18 months as most of them understand the verbal language and do respond to them positively… This is mostly needed for kids from age 2-4. And according to my personal knowledge this is the time when the actions speaks more better than words!!!
Understand what a time out is and what isn’t…….. If u dont think it as a punishment ans neither will your child be and thats as it should be. Instead think of it as an oppurtunity to calm down your child from common frustrations and modify her behaviour.
Time the “time-out” well……It should be short enough to make your child to realise and go back to the original situation and learn the acceptable behaviour. A good rule of thumb is 1 minute per year of age. If you leave them longer than that, they might shift focus from being calm to angry and resentful which counteracts what time-out is supposed to do..
There are various ways you can assign a time-out. U can pick a chair and designate it as the place. But be sure to keep it at a boring place facing a wall or a corner and that all the toys n activities are away from it. Or else u can also choose a room when the child is a little older. But be careful to see that the child is not in a scary or dark enviroment or that contain some hot water etc.
Be consistent, meaning to say, decide what actions merit a time out. If u use it frequently even for small things, the purpose would dilute out. So use this for tougher problems such as agrssivenss of biting, hitting or throwing toys or open defiance.
When the timeout is over, address the transgression that put her their in the first place. Also ask the child how she would handle the situation next time, Dont yell at her or shout.
Finally give your child lot of time-in too.This reinforces good behaviour too. Give the child a big hug or apprciate when she behave well in a public place or to her siblings. u can show your appreciation by giving small gifts or taking them to a long promised place etc.
Kids how much they torture us, we tend to give them more and more love and affection.. These are some good steps which would give them some place in the social life in thier future.
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