Prepare Your Teenager for Her First Job
Will your teenager be harrassed on her first job? Many teenagers are. It’s best to prepare her so she will know what to do if it happens. Let her know she is not to be afraid to protest if anyone harasses her and she is to tell you at once.
How can you protect your teenager on her first job? Your teen-age daughter will feel very grown up when she gets her first job, but will she be ready for what she might encounter? It’s best to prepare her, and explain to her what she should do if she runs into this problem.
Most teens work at low paying jobs and the bosses often ignore sex tinged behavior dismissing it as harmless flirtations, not knowing predators are not likely to back off. Some employers and co-workers will harass a quiet girl who they think will remain silent. Tell her she should not be afraid to protest if anyone should act inappropriately, and to tell you if it happens to her, so you can tell her the best way to respond.
Parents worry about internet predators, but did you know your child is more likely to be sexually harassed on the job? Ask her if you can drop by her place of employment so her supervisor can see you. Talk to her about her job, and listen closely. If she feels uncomfortable with anyone at work, ask her to explain why. If a manager seems to prefer your child, asking her to come early or stay late, be suspicious. Another danger is if he pays attention to her in ways unrelated to the job.
If your child is harassed on the job: Talk to the manager, if he doesn’t take you seriously go to the next higher-up. Keep going up the chain. Write down all dates, phone numbers, and times of your calls. Even if your teen is uneasy, stay on the case. Make it clear it is not about her behavior. It’s about the other persons.
Have her keep a notebook and write down everything that was said or done, when and where it took place, and if there was another person present. Tell her if she can, to take a picture, such as with a cell phone. If you think the situation is out of hand, tell your child to leave the job. If she stays, tell her this is not a time to be “nice”. Even if the harasser says “it is all in fun”. Tell her she is probably not the only victim.
Under federal law sexual harassment is a civil offence for which the employer can be sued. If the boss won’t protect teenagers then parents must. That means alerting your child about the risks when she starts hunting for a job, and the parent staying watchful. This goes for your son as well as your daughter. Although girls are more vulnerable, boys can be victims too.
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Mr Arrogant | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
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drelayaraja | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Great tips and advice here
Christine Ramsay | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Very good advice. Girls need to be prepared for what they come up against at work. My son was badly bullied at work, so this could be addressed also.
Christine
ken bultman | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
No question about…the more attractive the young lady the more apt what you describe will occur. The danger is, you girls/women tend to get a “crush” on their supervisor. Your advise is good: make sure she doesn’t come home with midnight oil all over her.
Jimmy Shilaho | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Invaluable
Jenny Heart | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Very valuavle information indeed.
Starpisces | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
very good information you have given, Ruby.
Brenda Nelson | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Very good points to make. Certainly one I am sure most parents dont even think of is that their kid might be harrased.. most people are just worried about their kid being able to do the job..and keep it..sometimes its more important that they know they can LEAVE a job and complain.
wonder | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Very valuable information and awareness.
Intuitive | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
valuable indeed. things every parent must know.
PR Mace | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Been there and done that, but how I wish I had, had this advice when my teens for working. Good work, Ruby.
Shirley Shuler | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Some good advice here, Ruby.
Shirley Shuler | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Some great advice here, Ruby.
Snooky | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Excellent advise will help keep our teenagers safer and Grandparents like me out of prison.
Tulan | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
This is important information for all parents. I hope parents will pay attention.
giftarist | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Sound suggestions for parents to keep.
David Johnson | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Thanks for the advice.
ronthoughts | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Good parenting, Ruby.
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Authoress Terry E. Lyle | Apr 19, 2010 | Reply
Very valuable advice.
Eunice Tan | Apr 20, 2010 | Reply
Very wise article for our next generation
ashan1614 | Apr 21, 2010 | Reply
Excellent advice. I wish more teens realized that a lot of what their parents do and say is for their own good, not just to be meddlesome.
Jewelstar | Apr 21, 2010 | Reply
This is an insecure period for teenagers. They are confused which is good and bad. Parents should be able to deal with their teenagers in a friendly manner, so that they feel free to open up and discuss any topics.
Debra. | Apr 22, 2010 | Reply
Excellent advice here, Ruby! Something every parent should take the time to address at home with their child and to help better prepare them, should them find themselves in a like-wise situation.
Trakiya | Apr 22, 2010 | Reply
Good article. Thanks for sharing
jesse lennon | Apr 23, 2010 | Reply
Gee, thanks for the information, since I am at my first job starting up soon!
-Jesse
Tina Cassello | Apr 23, 2010 | Reply
Teenagers aren’t the only ones who face this. When I was interviewed for a job when I was not a teen, I was told the environment may not be what I was used to and I was harassed by one of the men working there. I know meant it to be in fun and did not think he would dare to attack me or touch me inappropriately but it made me uncomfortable. When I told the supervisor, who was the one who had interviewed me, and warned me, he said it was best that I not work there anymore. I was let go. Now, more recently women have sued companies for such conduct, but I did not. I had been warned and took the job anyway, so I blamed myself, not the men and I actually found it flattering that I would get such attention.
patnoy1 | Apr 24, 2010 | Reply
nice job! keep the great posts coming!
S A JOHNSON | Apr 24, 2010 | Reply
Yeah, my first job was good but the boss was a nightmare.
Nineaeleven | Apr 24, 2010 | Reply
Nice one, I wasn’t aware of that
patofgold23 | Apr 25, 2010 | Reply
my son’s 14…but it’s good i read this ahead