Patterned Behavior
Why do we act the way we do? How do we learn the mechanisms by which we live our lives? What is Original Sin?
I picked up a book entitled Healing The Family Tree this afternoon. There were some interesting insights into things we inherit from our ancestors. Of course that led to many thoughts along that line and how my life has been affected by parents and what I have learned about how my parents were parented.
My childhood was a bit difficult and as I grew older I was forced to look at it when my oldest daughter had problems that sent us to a psychiatrist. After a few sessions the doctor informed me that I was the problem. Whoa, what? I was stunned. The group therapy session he put me into focused on our childhood experiences. I had wiped out my entire childhood and it wasn’t until needing to remember that things came back to me. I came to understand that the way my mother treated me was because she was mistreated by her mother. I remembered a few things she had told me about her mother and I tried to get her to talk more about her mother but she couldn’t. She would change the subject very abruptly every time I tried to get her to talk about her mother. She just couldn’t face it, which told me I was on the right track.
With these thoughts I began to muse about how the treatment of people from generation to generation depends upon those who have lived before. That led to thoughts of the original humans on this planet. We who believe in God and the truths of the bible call those first parents Adam and Eve. Their parent according to scripture was God. They had a pretty good deal going until they decided to do their own thing and go against their parent. They broke off with the Creator and made mistakes in parenting that eventually contributed to the wrongful death of one of their sons. Church folks call that break from God Original Sin. The pattern of disobedience was passed from our first parents to their children and on down through the ages. So, now what do we do? Sit and blame Adam and Eve, our grandparents, our parents for our bad behavior? No. We recognize that we have picked up patterns and if they aren’t so great, look for ways to break them and put new ones in their place.
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KittyK | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
Exactly!!! This is a great topic as we all need to examine ourselves and stop blaming others for our childhood experiences, when they go badly. I always find it interesting that the negative aspects of growing up are spoken about but where are all the positive ones?
avissado | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
great share…blame will get us nowhere! If we want to move forward we need to take responsibility. if you haven’t already read it, may I suggest you also read you can heal your life my louise hay.
stevetheblogger | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
Christine you have to be one of the most honest writers on here a truly wonderful and personal account
L.O.L
Steve
blogspoterss | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
thank you for sharing
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elee | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
brilliant display of knowledge Thanks for sharing.
Kai Vicky | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
We make mistakes in childhood, but instead of blaming them, we can learn from them a lot and avoid same mistake again. Great article.
Martin Kloess | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
Thank you for this.
stevetheblogger | Sep 8, 2012 | Reply
Christine had to come back and take another look at this one
L.O.L
Steve
shefaliarora | Sep 10, 2012 | Reply
Blame will get us nowhere! If we want to move forward we need to take responsibility.
lonelyplanet | Sep 10, 2012 | Reply
This is a great topic as we all need to examine ourselves and stop blaming others for our childhood experiences, when they go badly.
Eiddwen | Sep 10, 2012 | Reply
I love your work and admire you for being so honest ; I used to be such a closed book but have only just become an almost open book and isn’t it nice;we have nothing to keep secret and so very much to share. I look forward to a long time to come of sharing work with you my friend.
Eddy.
lauralu | Sep 10, 2012 | Reply
Interesting and so true, one day we have to say okay i don’t have to do it this way and with God’s help we can change.
God Bless hope you are having a okay day ^_^
realityspeaks | Sep 11, 2012 | Reply
When we make changes in our life it seldom works, when we allow God to do the same, it works. Excellent post.
stevetheblogger | Sep 12, 2012 | Reply
Had to come back for another look at this one great piece
Best Wishes
stevetheblogger
momofplenty | Sep 13, 2012 | Reply
Right on the money and a penny for our thoughts.
UmiNoor | Sep 14, 2012 | Reply
Have to break the cycle and then perhaps our mistakes as parents won’t be passed down to the next generation.
Uma Shankari | Sep 30, 2012 | Reply
Until you pay conscious attention to the behavior patterns and set our minds/brain to break them we will continue to perpetuate the same heritage. Faith in God may help us to do this.