Parenting: Discipline is Not a Four-letter Word
The object of discipline is the training of the child for self-government. Parents’ ultimate goal in disciplining a child is to help him become a self-regulating person.
The object of discipline is the training of the child for self-government. Parents’ ultimate goal in disciplining a child is to help him become a self-regulating person. Since his self-concept will largely determine the extent of his self-regulation, discipline must not inadvertently attach his self-image. There is a vast difference between telling a child that he is bad for kicking you and saying, “Kicking is bad, and I won’t tolerate it.” It is relatively harmless to attack another’s actions when he can learn to change. But it is disastrous to attack his self-respect, for he cannot become another person.
A proverb admonishes parents to “train up a child in the way he should go.” It does not teach parents to fulfill the wishes of their child, and a child may not always welcome training. In fact, he may stubbornly argue on every point. But, remember, you are the teacher, the trainer. He is the pupil or trainee. He does not decide the rules. He follows them whether he disagrees or not. And what if he refuses to obey and follow the guidelines you have established? Then you must help him learn to obey. The challenge and test of parenthood come when a parent faces defiance, resistance, rebellion, and other similar reactions.
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webseowriters | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
Very useful post
Ramalingam | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
Brief and to the point.
rajeev bhargava | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
i completely agree with you 100%. a really informative and educational article that i enjoyed reading. thanks for sharing.
Melody SJAL | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
Insightful and precise.
Aiyanna | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
Being a parent myself, I have to agree with what you have described. Correcting the child rather than the behaviour diminishes their esteem and confidence. If only all parents read this and understood the damage they cause by condemning the child rather than their behaviour. Thank you for spreading the awareness…
LCM Linda | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
Parents need a lot of love, care and patience to teach their children. Great share.
Alaina Ellington | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
ahh…words of wisdom : ) You did a great job keeping this short, simple, powerful, and truthful!! Thank you for the insight you hit the nail right on the head!
One of the scariest thoughts we parents face is the fact that it is our job to train our children up in the way they will go…gratefully and thankfully we have the Lord’s Almighty guidance and grace, and help to get us through and show us the way!
Starpisces | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
I agree with you! Well said.
earthlyjewels | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
Great article. We really need to explain reasons why things are done or why they are being punished.
PR Mace | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
You were right on the money with this one. Well done.
Raj the Tora | Sep 18, 2010 | Reply
excellent advise
sandcastle | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
I love every article you write on parenting! Worth my time reading them. Thanks
wonder | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
This should be a great guide to parenting, yes, condemning the action rather than the child is the way.A useful post.
johnnydod | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Good one, well said
Lady Sunshine | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Parenting is a very hard job.
Phoenix Montoya | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Discipline. Still learning how to do it. Good post.
Jimmy Shilaho | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
You are right gift.
Hugo La Rosa | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Thought provoking article! Well done, giftarist.
yes me | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
If you don’t want to hear it don’t ever say it… liked this Gift cheers
Mr Ghaz | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
very interesting and helpful article. loved this post. thanks for sharing my friend
Christine Ramsay | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
I have just come back from church where children aged as old as ten years were running around the church playing games throughout the service. The parents just took no notice. It seems to me that children are running the lives of parents these days. Your article really hits home.
Christine
K64FUNNY | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
fine post,informative
Jessie Will | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Very useful and well put. Raising a child is a challenging experience.
Shirley Shuler | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Great post, gift, Parenting is a very hard job.
akira14 | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
disciplining children is the big challenge that parents faces. It always depends on how you discipline them and teach them to obey.
Kaye TM | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
love it. another article in parenting. tnx! =p
Tulan | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Wonderful advice, too many parents do not follow it.
PSingh1990 | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Nice Share.
Inna Tysoe | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Good advice. And not just for parents–for anyone dealing with kids!
Inna
Eunice Tan | Sep 19, 2010 | Reply
Great article. Well said.
valli | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
Valuable info.
Baijayanti Pradhan | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
Good post.
rajaryanme | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
A good share friend.
Luna Morena | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
Great share
TwiKnight | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
Thank God I’m still a kid myself… Nonetheless, one can never be too sure that he’s never gonna need this any time from now. Great advice, mate.
Brewed Coffee | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
It can really be frustrating when a child defies the parents. But parents should not give up on the child and keep loving and disciplining the child. A great post, friend
monica55 | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
Very useful and nicely developed points. Thanks for the read.
Monica.
monica55 | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
Very useful and nicely developed points. Thanks for the read.Monica.
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Anuradha Ramkumar | Sep 20, 2010 | Reply
A very educative post is what I felt after reading this wonderful post. Gr8 share.
Lwandaz Tale | Sep 22, 2010 | Reply
well said, it is a delicate balance
CC23 | Sep 28, 2010 | Reply
very well said. =)
R.Laws | Oct 1, 2010 | Reply
Parenting is not easy.