One of the toughest roles in our life would definitely be parenting especially when we come to know that our child is lying. How to teach a child not to lie? What are the best ways to teach a child not to lie? Few methods for teaching a child not to lie include avoiding punishments, rewarding truth, isolating them from a party or group of friends, and much more. Know the best ways to to teach a child not to lie here…
Have you read my earlier article that dealt with why children lie? Children lie for various reasons like fear, seeing people who lie and imitating them, not want to do things they hate and much more. Regardless of whether a child lies for petite things or big things this habit has to be stopped for the well-being of the child. Are there any methods or ways to teach a child not to lie? Isn’t this one of the many biggest challenges in parenting? Here are some best ways to teach a child not to lie.
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1. Stop asking questions if the answer is known:
You must be wondering why I say you to stop asking questions when you very well know your child will tell a lie if you ask a specific question; I shall tell you why. Let me explain this with a small example; you have asked your child to clean the room and you very well know that he/she has not yet cleaned it. We tend to ask the question “Have you completed the cleaning?” this will surely lead to a lie; rather say “Let me know once your room is cleaned so that I can take a look at it.”
2. Tell that a lie will hurt people:
It is the responsibility of the parents to tell the child how much it would hurt people if they tell a lie. Once I told a story about a boy who cried “Wolf, Wolf” and cheated others to tell my little one how bad it is to say a lie. Educate your child how a lie would hurt others.
3. Avoid punishments:
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Are you sure that your child says a lie just because you would punish him/her? If yes then try to find out a better way to discipline your child rather giving punishments. Speak with your child why telling a lie is not good or how people would treat those who tell lies.
4. Reward truth:
If your child has said lies in the past and has said a truth, reward the child. The reward need not be toys; it can be a simple “Wow…how nice of you to tell you the truth; this is how good children behave.” This will definitely make them feel proud and continue doing the same.
5. Don’t force to confess:
A major mistake that many parents do is forcing the child to confess. When you force your child to do so, they tend to tell more lies rather confessing or telling you what exactly happened. Just tell him/her that you know what happened and will wait for them to tell you.
6. Isolate them:
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Your child is playing with another child and you hear a lie being told by your child; what can be done now? Ask your child to come and sit near you for the next 10 or 15 minutes as he/she cannot play because they told a lie.
7. Clean up your act:
This might sound harsh, but the truth is children learn from us. Many times we adults tell a lie; one simple incident would be telling a nosy friend or a relative that you would be going out today and will not be able to receive them when they come when actually you are not going anywhere. Your child is watching you; be aware of that. If you want your child to speak truth, clean up your act and start speaking truth.
These are the best ways to teach a child not to lie. Many children go through this phase of lying and it is the duty of the parents to tell the child how bad it is to lie. Last but not the least, never ever brand a child to be a bad boy or girl; tell them they are good, but have bad habits.
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