How do you conduct an underwear check without it being too embarrassing for the child?
Sometimes parents will check the child’s underwear to make sure they are wiping well. This can be embarrassing to a child, especially one over the age of 10. There are varied methods parents use to check the child’s underwear. Some methods do use humiliation as the parent feels it might make the child wipe better to avoid having to have their underwear checked. It is best not to humiliate a child to get a point across. It has been proven to stick with their minds and possibly cause psychological issues later in life. Here are some of the methods and why they are or aren’t recommended.
One method, also used to keep the underwear from being stained, is to have the child call the parent after they are done wiping, but tell the child not to pull up their clothes yet. The parent then wipes the child once and tells them whether or not they are done. This goes on until the child has wiped properly. This method isn’t recommended due to the fact that it can be extremely humiliating, which can get worse as they get older. An alternative method is to have the child bend over the parent’s lap and the parent wipe them, spanking them after each wipe until they are clean. This is not recommended due to humiliation, the fact that wiping for the child can cause laziness to progress, and the fact that it may not always be just a few wipes.
Another method is to have the child come to you and you pull out their underwear a little from their behind. Although this minimizes exposure, the child will still feel a little humiliated if they look back when you do it at what you are doing. They will see part of their behind and then know that you can too. For this reason it is not the most recommended, but is okay to use in small children, as they don’t care so much.
Another method is for the child to stand in front of the parent and lower his pants and underwear before bending over. This method is usually done if the punishment for having a stain is a spanking. This is not recommended due to humiliation mainly. Spanking is not recommended as a punishment for a child not wiping well ever, but this method has the child humiliated even if they aren’t stained, which renders it unnecessary.
The best method is to have the child bring you their underwear after they have bathed and put on new clothes. Although a bit embarrassing still due to the principle that the parent is looking at the underwear to see if the child wiped well, there is no exposure of the child and therefore there is no real humiliation.
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