Many parents do not realize that how they behave directly impacts how their children behave later in life. This essay will list common problems in parenting, and various ways to improve these situations to ensure that both the parent and the child are able to live peacefully and happily.
Parents often refer to children as the “next generation,” the generation that will some day lead the various nations around the world and make decisions that will impact the fate of the nation, if not the world. Many of these adults, however, do not realize the catastrophic harm they are causing to this “next generation” by not being the parent—that is, an older authoritative figure responsible for the nurturing of the child. These parents are not aware of their behaviors around their children, or are not aware that their child is watching. As a result, these children, particularly those who are in their toddler years, pick up these behaviors and exhibit them, the majority of said behaviors bringing various consequences to both the child and those around them. If the child is not disciplined properly after performing these negative actions, they will continue to perform these actions throughout their life, leading to disastrous results. Should the parent halt their misbehavior at a young age, however, then the problem can be attacked and nullified before it becomes a serious threat. There have been countless occasions where the lack of a powerful figure in a child’s life has resulted in the child being led to a life of punishment and crime, accounting for many criminals in both juvenile detention facilities and in prisons.
It appears to be an increasing trend for parents to essentially neglect their child by granting them with their materialistic wants, rather than their emotional needs. This deprives the child of basic needs, including guidance in the child’s life. In some extreme cases, this neglect by the parent can even lead to resentment for the parent, should the child ever feel as though they were abandoned.
Many children are also becoming the dominant figure in the household, possessing more power than the parents and fully utilizing that power to reach their own goals. Many parents are afraid to defy their children, as they fear the consequences that may result in it. Some children even threaten parents, and, in more extreme cases, kill the parents if they deem it necessary. Parents are living in fear of the child, which gives the child even more power.
In certain environments, such as that of a school, one can easily determine how a child was raised due to its behavior patterns. If the student is more respectful and hard-working, then it is likely that he or she was raised with parents who held a strong position above the child, rewarding good behaviors and punishing bad behaviors. If the student rarely cooperates with their peers and teachers and refuses to do their schoolwork, then it is likely that the parent had little to no part in the child’s life, essentially giving the child permission to misbehave and roam around the world doing as they please. Since poorly behaving children often have a negative impact on society, it is vital that parents obtain and retain their authoritative figures they were place at and take control of their child’s actions, in order to allow the next generation to properly conduct business and live a fulfilling life void of crime and disrespect.
Published in: Family