On Being a Good Father

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There are teacher conferences.  It for a father to be there along with his wife to listen first hand to what their teachers have to be say.  Sometimes, a teacher’s comments can be flattering.  At other times, it is not unusual to hear that a child has a behavioral problem.  This can be serious and both parents have to consider how to nip it in the bud before it becomes even bigger.  It is hoped that a father will be sensitive to these needs and not be the sort of individual who works long hours and completely ignores his family’s welfare.

Provide your kids with insights about various occupations

Early in their lives let your kid see what you do for a living.  Bring him to the office.  Explain your responsibilities  and introduce him to your co-workers.  Let him sit at your desk and play on your computer, ask questions and explain to him the nature of your job.  This is a great opportunity to let him know that there are many more jobs from those that we typically see in the news: e.g., teachers, policemen, nurses, and firefighters.

Tell him about other occupations: e.g., chemical engineers, accountants, biologists, and radiologists.  Let him know that there is dignity in being a tradesman: e.g., carpenter, welder, and plumber.  It will be your intention to wet your children’s appetite, so that when it comes for them to make a choice in their life, they will be familiar with a variety of jobs.  They will know that many of these jobs require a college education.  Expose your kids to the creative arts.  Many boys dream of becoming rock stars.  Some learn to play an instrument.  Encourage and praise their efforts.  Girls may be interested in modeling and some may even dream about being part of fashion shows and entering beauty pageants.

Some boys and girls love sports.  They may become quite active in their school teams.  As a father, bring them to these games.  Whether it is basket ball, baseball, football, hockey, volley ball, or tennis, do not discourage them from playing a sport.  Support their team.  Volunteer your time to be a coach if necessary.  Be active with your kids and organize other parents.  As an extracurricular activity, such involvement will contribute to the happiness of your children.

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Fathers want their children to grow and develop as well rounded individuals.  With their wives, it is their responsibility to prepare them for the rigors of the real world.  Through this nurturing they will be laying the foundation to achieve these ends.

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