Heartless guys who are not ready for parenthood, are still selfish and egoistic and believe the world revolves around them.
It is no doubt that every women wishes for a knight in shiny armour, it is definitely no doubt when every girl wants a man who is exactly what they imagine in their head, and what is in their head, no one knows but themselves. And to have such high expectations of a guy they constantly dream they have, and to hope that they would meet such a guy, or that the man they marry one day and start a family with would be exactly as they wished he was.
Unfortunately, women do forget the pros of a guy, being completely blind-sided by what she wants, she forgets to see the good of the guy who loves her and the good in him.
Again, sad to say, there are guys who are completely not what a girl wants, and for some reason, the relationship never ends. Perhaps it came to the point of no turning back, where the girl becomes pregnant etc. However, sometimes, we all try to live with what we have, and try to accept every thing about it.
Although, there are guys who are completely horrible in every single way. That is becomes to difficult to understand how and why they would even be able to get a girlfriend or wife! Some guys are completely heartless and mean, egoistic and selfish, self-centred and ignorant, irresponsible and proud, yet no matter how many times they are told that they are complete douches, they never fail to continue being the horrible human being that they are.
It gets worse though, when they become fathers. Imagine their poor child who carry the genes of these men, who are brought up and taught by these men, and how they would turn out and become. It is sad, because sometimes, these are the things which cannot be controlled, and yet everyone wishes it would never be true. The fear that would run through the minds of many and perhaps even the mother herself who carries the child or sees how the child is and would be brought up.
Imagine a guy, who seems excited to be a father, but doesn’t even know that a baby takes 9 months to grow in a woman’s womb. A guy who doesn’t know why his wife is cranky all the time because of hormone rush, doesn’t know how to make her feel better when she cries because she is worried about the future of the child, her and the family. A guy who wants the child, but intends to abandon the child with his mother and travel the world when the baby is born. A guy who doesn’t think that there would be any costs inccurred before the baby is born. Doesn’t plan to buy any clothing, baby cot or baby stuff for the baby at all, and believes that he does not need to spend a cent until the baby is born, and in his mind is between 7 to 9 months.
He assumes that what he thinks he knows about bringing up a child is correct, when he wants to name his child after a soccer player, has NOT researched at all on his pregnant wife or his child. Doesn’t even know the meaning of labour, nor wants to go to the gynae with his wife to ensure the health of the baby.
All these signs are the obvious signs of someone who is not prepared for parenthood, someone who is not prepared to be a husband or father. Yet, he does not want to let this child go, and even though his wife knows he is not prepared, and is willing to release him of all responsibilities, he wants the child but not his wife. How do all these fit in? How does it all work?
Please leave comments below if you can. Would really love to hear about what you think the wife should do about this, because it obviously hurts her, and her daily crying over such occurrences does not make her feel better, and the guy, does not understand or try to understand at all.
Published in: Family