It’s time to take the commercialism out of Mothers Day. Give your Mother what she really wants. Show your appreciation of your Mother in a meaningful way.
Yes, it’s that time of year again, when every time you turn TV on the ads are screaming Mothers Day at you. Whenever you go shopping you are bombarded with tempting displays of all the things you should really buy for your Mother. And expensive restaurants are offering three course lunches that will barely provide enough food to make it through till the next meal.After all, this is a special celebration.
But is this what your Mother really wants on Mothers Day? I have a few personal criteria, things I would enjoy on Mothers Day. I thought I’d share them with you.
Spending quality time together: There are times in their lives when our children have no money! This can be an embarrassment for them, when all the shops and advertisements are telling them they should be spending up if they really love you. For me, all I ask is time together, when we can laugh, share stories and enjoy each others company. This sometimes means I have to travel, rather than my son come to me, but the time together is worth it.
A phone call or e-mail if time together not possible: On those times when being together has been impossible, a simple phone call always makes my day. A Mother needs to know she is remembered, even if it is only once a year! Show your appreciation in words, not expensive presents. A text is OK, but a phone call or e-mail is even better.
If spending money, make it small and meaningful: By small and meaningful, I mean a card, a small gift you’ve created yourself, or a little treasure that has some relevance in your life. Many years ago, when my eye problems started, my son was a student and penniless. Nevertheless, he managed to find a small gem stone that apparently has healing properties for eyes. It cost very little at his local market, but is a treasure that still sits on my dressing table and I still hold it in my hand from time to time, these days usually before I go for an eye appointment.
A home cooked meal, made with love: Depending on the age and circumstances of children, this can be as simple as breakfast in bed, afternoon tea, or a full scale meal. It doesn’t matter what it looks like, it will taste wonderful if prepared with love.
What Mothers don’t want: Unless it has been a special request, most Mothers don’t really want a gadget or piece of equipment that means more work. We have enough of that sort of thing all ready. Things that promise to make Mum’s life easier, don’t always live up to the promise. If you are wanting to treat your Mother with something that sounds like work for her, think twice. If she has asked for it, that’s different.
I am looking forward to Mothers Day. My husband and I will travel for two hours to spend it with our son, who is unable to come to us. We have booked into a small pub near his home and will enjoy a simple pub meal together. There have been moments we thought this year Mothers Day wouldn’t be as happy, but those times have passed and now I look forward to the day with anticipation.
Whoever you are reading this, Mothers or children, remember your Mother on Mothers Day. Many countries in the world celebrate the day on the second Sunday of the month. Take a moment to think about all Mothers everywhere, not just your own. And, have a happy day.
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