Mommies are networking these days, especially stay-at-home moms who are with the baby all day. They are setting up play groups to get the little ones out communicating with other kids their ages. Some moms and babies love it but some find themselves in a trickery situation, especially if the group is made up of neighbors and friends. Some kids are not well behaved and do not act appropriately in a group of children, while some are shy and do not fit in with the group. What’s a mom to do?
Many stay at home moms with young children are joining play groups. If you decide to join with your child, you should know the ages of the children in the group. A few months difference in ages can make the difference in loving it and complete failure. If all the other kids are older than yours he or she might not be ready to handle the group. Another problem is, are the other mothers women you want to spend time with. Do they have the same interests you do? Some moms tend to get too personal going into details about their sex life and other subjects you might not be interested in.
Once the kids in your group are toddlers, you must watch out for hitters, biters and bullying. If another child is hitting or bullying your child, point it out to the mother in a friendly way. Be up-front and hopefully she will take care of the problem. She might not have noticed it. Talk about your child’s feelings, not about her child’s problems.
If the group meets at the mom’s homes, you might want to think twice about joining. It’s a big job preparing snacks, cleaning up and worrying about kids spilling juice on your carpets. Who needs that extra work when you have a young child? If it’s a problem you can always look for a group that meets on neutral territory, such as a playground, or community room.
Sometimes the group is fine but you are just not into it. There’s nothing wrong in calling it quits. It can be stressful being at a certain place on time when your child is taking naps and your time is scheduled. Groups might not be your thing. If you are a one at a time mom, get together with another mom occasionally who has a child the age of yours. You can visit and have coffee while the kids play.
If you want to get out of a play group without hurting anyone’s feelings, start coming to fewer and fewer meetings. Let the message get out that you just don’t have time for it. If you have only attended a few times you might send a email saying, It’s been fun but it’s too inconvenient.
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