Memo to Parents From a Child

Memo to Parents from a Child

Don`t spoil me. I know very well that I shouldn`t have everything that I ask for. Sometimes, I`m only testing you, so I ask for everything under the sun just to see how far you will go on spoiling me. Don`t be afraid to be strict with me. Actually, I prefer that you are strict because it gives me a sense of security. Knowing that you have rules and that I have rules to follow gives me a great sense of confidence since you are in control. My teacher told me once that discipline provides a “sanctuary of security” for us when we are growing up. I know that she was right.

Don`t let me form bad habits. I always don`t know what is good and what is bad, and I have to rely on you to see the bad habits that I am starting to form and to talk to me about them.

Don`t make me feel “smaller” than I am. It only makes me want to behave “big” and stupidly. When treat me like a little child at all times, I will keep acting like a little child. Treat me as though I were older than I really am and I will try live up to what you except of me as an older “person” it is a challenge for me to grow up.

Please don`t reprimand me in front of other people. It makes me ashamed and rebellious. I will pay a lot more attention to you if you talk to me “man to man” or “woman to woman” quietly and reasonably, and in private. Don`t make me always think that my mistakes are sins. Most of the time, they really aren`t. they`re just honest mistakes. You will spoil my sense of integrity if you make me think my mistakes are sins when they really aren`t. Furthermore, don`t protect me from the aftermath of my mistakes. Sometimes I need to learn my imperfections in the painful manner if make mistakes or do something wrong I have to accept the consequences. It doesn`t help me grow up when protect my shelter from my mistakes. Don`t be upset when I say “I hate you” I really don`t hate you. In fact, it’s the power that you have over me that I hate. However when I think about it, I realize that your control over me is good, simply because you love me.