Love and The Family

When people generally speak of falling in love, it’s always focused on all the good feelings. The butterflies, the way your heart beats slower and faster all at the same time, and the way you just seem to melt altogether whenever you’re anywhere near that significant other. What nobody ever seems to warn you about, though, are the bad things that come along with all the good, like some kind of fine print packaged deal.

What are you supposed to do when there are problems with your in-laws? When the things you deal with from them drive you to the verge of clinical insanity. There’s nothing you can do but deal with it, right? Wrong! For so many years now people have been putting up with being put down and shoved around by their in-laws and always thought that they couldn’t do anything about it. It’s time for us to stand up for ourselves when we feel we are being done wrong.

Many women and men alike want nothing more than to stand up to their controlling in-laws but don’t know how to confront an intimidating figure. The first step is self security. You have to be secure with yourself before you are ever going to be able to do anything for yourself. Take a look in the mirror a couple times a day and just ask yourself: are you abiding by the Golden Rule? Do you know what you want out of your life? Do you have your priorities in order and know what needs to be done in order to take care of yourself and your family? Have you already addressed the problem with your significant other? If you can answer an honest “yes” to all of these questions, then you are one step closer to being able to confront your issues in a mature, adult manor.

Your next step is to track your problem back to the root. For example, if you are having a financial issue, you have to be able to recognize if they are abusing their access to money. Once you trace the root of your problem, then you just have to come up with a suitable argument. Every personality is different, and so every approach to a problem should be different as well.

I, for one am more than tired of having my life controlled by someone who not only does not live in my home, but by someone who does not live in the same city or state. I have taken a stand for what I feel is right and am doing my best as a wife to ensure that my family is provided for. If you agree that this has gone on for far too long, let me know your problems and show some support!