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Keeping a Strong Bond with Your Child

by LadyElena on Oct 07, 2010 with 5 Comments

You look at the small bundle of Joy in your hands – a beautiful baby, face of an angel. You are so overwhelmed, words can’t express the love you feel. About 10 years later, you look at the same face and wonder what went wrong. You don’t understand your child, vice versa. Somewhere along the line, you seem to have lost each other…… some parents experience this.

It’s a familiar story, but a few tips can help keep a close relationship with our Children.

How?

a) Spending quality time with them. Indoors and Outdoors. Have a good laugh with them and come down to their level. This way you get to know them more and if they start showing signs of any strange behaviour, which most of the time is picked up from school, you can nip it in the bud early.

b) I was going to write show affection but you know how the boys are when Mum kisses or cuddles them, particularly by the school gate - “Mum, your cramping my style”.

Always tell them you love them. This is important for a child to hear. A lot of Eating disorders stem from the fact that a child feels unloved.

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c) Communicate – If your child wants to speak to you and you are in the middle of doing something. My advice is to stop what you are doing and give them the attention because chances are, if you don’t and ask them about it later, the reply will be “its okay” or “don’t worry about it”.

d) Praise – When they do good things and even when they don’t do so well in school. Encourage them, point out their strengths/positives and let them see that you believe in them and they’ll be inspired to do better.

e) Be a Good Example – If parents do things contrary to what they teach the kids, chances are that the kids would lose trust in them. Bonds would break. I recall reading about Beyonce (the singer). Her parents are Christians but recently her Dad left her mum for another woman. As a result, Beyonce fired her Dad as her Manager and can’t bear speaking to him. He had always managed her singing career.

I’m sure there are many more ways to keep strong bonds with children/Teens. Please feel free to share any more tips, in the comments box below.

Parent Quotes

** “Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” Robert Fulghum

** “Your children need your presence more than your presents.” Jesse Jackson

** “If you have never been hated by your child you have never been a parent.” Bette Davis

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