Jon and Kate

Jon and Kate are two very remarkable people.  Right now they are going through some very tumultuous times. And the tabloid hype is totally outrageous. One tabloid said John had to sign a paper to have a girl friend. Where does society get off thinking that a man can not have a girl friend, unless she is a girlfriend? For that matter, a woman can not have a boy friend, unless he is a boyfriend.  But why?  Are our minds so dirty and in the gutter that we can not see that these are two Christian people? Human beings! Human beings make mistakes.  It is the nature of the beast.

That being said, we need to find a solution for the problem.  Both Jon and Kate have stated openly that they have done everything for their children.  And THAT is the problem.  They have been doing everything for the kids, and nothing for Jon and Kate. This is why 85% of all marriages involving multiples end in divorce.  

Kate is very strong willed. It is her finest asset. Because she is woman, wife, mother, it falls to her to bear all the tension and stress so that her husband can be free to enjoy his life, his children, and, yes, his wife. That is what wives do.  Believe me.  It is in the job description.  

Jons’ finest asset is his gentleness and his big heart. He is loving and caring. If he did not love Kate so strongly it would not bother him that she has to be on the road so much promoting her book. His is a love as big as all outdoors.  Between his heart and her strong will, they are raising beautiful, wonderful, happy children. 

Granted, theirs  is  a most unusual situation, but not insurmountable. And with that, I will give you the solution.  Their whole world revolves around their children.  I have probably seen every episode they ever made and have seen very little physical touching between Jon and Kate. They touch their children.  They touch their friends. They touch their families. They don’t touch each other!

There is something called the togetherness project. Here is how it works.  You pick a time, the same time every week, to be together. You MUST do this at least once a week.  Same day.  Same time. This can be something as simple as holding hands and taking a walk around the block.  It could be renting a video and popping corn or sitting  in your front yard watching the sunset. It could be as elaborate as a night on the town, a movie, a fine dinner,  it does not matter.  You must do this religiously!