Is It a Jump If Somebody is Pushing

The trial is on for the father who jumped, along with his children from a balcony on a “make or break” holiday.

Losing a child is unbearable, nobody would wish to dispute that, but as is too often the case, the public and media are lashing the “innocent” mother with sympathy and the father is cast as the evil body – Yes, it doesn’t take a big IQ to understand jumping of a balcony with children is crazy behaviour and what he did was clearly wrong, but was he acting rationally?

Moreover, how much of his clearly irrational behaviour was provoked by a seemingly nasty, spiteful wife who drove him to commit an unspeakable act of desperation, believing he could escape his living hell and take his children to heaven? Making the so-called jump, a push at worst, at best an assisted act…either way, is the remaining child is risk of harm in the care of her mother? Given her mothers apparently selfish poise to date.

Sadly, my partner endured this kind of wife for too many years, his scars from the relationship are significant and mostly invisible to outsiders, luckily, I guess, the resulting mental problems he suffered as a result of his abusive wife did not end in such an extreme fashion as poor Mr. Hogan, although it should be said that was more luck than judgment, still, the ex in our picture is still attempting to blame my partner and continues to play the injured party admirably, as does the questionable Mrs. Steele but it is a shallow, transparent act in both cases. I’m sure Ms. Steele is too busy with her new marriage to care about anything much more than poisoning her young daughter, the media and public against her absent father, rather than arranging for her daughter to get help with the separation of her own feelings about her father from her mothers biased opinions.

The current pitiful situation is the fruit of her own despicable treatment of the father of her children – a man who she knew had a personal and family history of mental health problems, including suicide -traits that she took grand delight in using as a vicious weapon against a man who, until that awful night, it seems did little wrong bar trying to appease the crazy, irrational demands of the cold, unfeeling bitch he married.

If you bully a man for years, slate him as a useless father, lover, man, run his family down, – whatever – over time you will erode his sanity – much the same as a battered wife will lose her self-confidence in the process, the outcome is rarely pretty, both varieties of domestic abuse tend to have tragic consequences, still, I do think the scenario is worse for men, who just don’t get the help or support available to women, despite the PC brigade permanently fussing about sexual equality, this supposed equality never seems to stretch to help for male rape or abuse survivors.

Why is it so that this kind of women, who commit their abuse in a just as sly, discreet and damaging fashion as their male counterparts are largely unhindered? Then, when the inevitable breaking point of her victim is finally reached, he becomes a hated criminal, while she waltzes on happily sucking up the benefit of motherhood and the outside compassion, stands back bleating and pointing the finger at the man who she tortured into a monster, instead of examining her own behaviour leading up to the breakdown and shoulder at least partial responsibility for the tragic outcome.