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Once you become a mother your life is never the same. From the moment I set eyes on my daughter I have loved her like no one else I have ever met before in my life. Creating a life is such a special experience that honestly its quite difficult to describe all of the feelings that I felt not only while pregnant with her but also after she was born.
A mother has many titles, and stay-at-home moms who handle about 75% of family and household issues have even more titles. We are teachers, cooks, financial planners, cleaners, coaches, nurses, sleep therapists (laugh, you know you want to)…..the list goes on and on. I really believe that the word mother is a loaded term because once you have the title, you become so much more important than just someones mother, but instead someone that is greatly looked up to in a way that even dads can’t understand. Don’t get me wrong dads are awesome too…in fact my husband is one of the greatest dads I know! The point I make is that mothers will always have a different bond with their children after carrying them for 40 weeks (or longer) and giving birth to them.
All mothers would love to be their children all the time but some choose to have careers. When mothers work outside of the home and take advantage of daycare, they are entrusting someone else to partially raise their child. For quite some time I believed that this was great because working would actually give me a break, only I was very wrong. I discovered that by leaving my daughter with someone else, it caused me to feel as if our relationship suffered a little bit and I didn’t play as active of a part in her life as I should’ve been. The truth is that going back to work after maternity leave was difficult but I did it because we needed the money.
Recently, I have left the corporate world because I know that my daughter can make me happier than any corporate job ever can. Don’t get me wrong, I still need a break once in a while. Like today, I have decided to leave her with her babysitter so that I can get caught up on some things and also have some personal time. Even though I love the fact that I can get every day all day with her, its important to still take care of me. With the constant activity during the day that is much unlike the job I had working from a desk at a computer in a cubicle, it does tend to be more tiring. I wouldn’t trade it for the world though.
Out of all the titles I carry, the one I love the most is friend. Building a strong, trusting relationship with my daughter is very important to me because as she gets older, I want her to know that she can talk to me about anything and should never be afraid to ask questions about anything. An open and honest relationship is essential to getting through the teenage years I know for sure. My teenage years were difficult because communication with my parents was almost non-existent. I have already made the resolve with myself as a parent that I will not have that type of relationship with my daughter. I love her too much to create a wedge between us making her afraid to confide in me when she will need someone the most.
My second favorite title to carry is a sleep therapist. I said earlier you can laugh if you want but it’s really true. From the time our babies our born they rely on us to help them sleep in one way or another. Even after they have learned to put themselves to sleep and stay asleep all night they still need the security of knowing that you will be there when they need you. I cannot count the number of times that my daughter has yelled out for us when she has a bad dream and simply needs to hear one of our voices in order to drift back to sleep. When she is sick and is uncomfortable, I am there for her to stay calm and get her rest. Many mornings when daddy and I want to sleep in, she comes into our room early and wakes us up by climbing up into bed. At this point she understands when we want to rest but still needs our help in order to go back to sleep. One thing I can say for sure is that it is true that there is nothing more special than a sleeping child. Even if the day was a complete terror, once they are asleep and you go in to check in on them so far in dreamland, you forget all of the troubles with discipline, messes and overall craziness. It’s just the way it’s meant to be.
As a mother, I have learned alot as my daughter grows, and I also know for sure that when I have more children they will all be different, but I will carry some very valueable experience with me.
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Denise Lawrence – Mompreneur & Marketing Executive
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