A guide on how to raise your kids, from newborn to teen.
Over the past couple years I’ve noticed it doesn’t matter where you are; the grocery store, the mall, downtown, the movies, a friends house, or even your own house, kids don’t listen to their parents. The age of respect is gone, and kids run amok, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
OK, so you’re a new parent and you don’t want to raise a little devil. Newborns aren’t easy to mold. They don’t remember a thing, and each day is a new slate, but over time they will start to make connection.
Babies seem innocent enough, but this is when they start to form habits and it is the things they experience that will give them a warm or negative feeling (depending on the event) later in life, either consciounsly or subconsciously. So start doing fun things, listening to the classic music (The Beatles are best because of their ‘easy listening’ songs), and praising and scolding.
Toddlers are angels or trouble makers. When the child is being good, praises should be given, and you should do fun things with them. Ask the child what they want to do, to build leadership (takes away some of the pressure away from peer pressure later on). When they misbehave, Ground them, and send them to their room. Be strict, but show them that if they don’t misbehave they have fun and can do things they want. (That way they don’t feel and compelled to rebel later in life). Also, have family meals at a table every day. Build a sense of family.
Now that they’re a little older, they get a little more freedom. Let them have friends over and go to friends houses. Keep the same strategy as before but with more freedom. Make sure they take school seriously.
Help them. This is key. Independence is required, but its also scary. Help them with dealing with adult things, slowly backing off. You can no longer ground them, or rebelling might become an issue, but make sure to express your anger and most importantly disappointment when they wrong. Freedom is also key, let them have their freedom, and trust them.
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