This period is so frustrating for young parents especially, that it has been termed the terrible twos. At this age, the toddler’s favorite expression is “NO!” or “I don’t want to!”
At about two years of age, many babies exhibit a radical change of behavior, often including fits of bad temper commonly called tantrums. This period is so frustrating for young parents especially, that it has been termed the terrible twos. At this age, the toddler’s favorite expression is “NO!” or “I don’t want to!”
He may become frustrated with both his parents and himself as he struggles with his own conflicting feelings. He wants to be away from you, yet he wants to be near you! To bewildered parents, little seems to make sense and even less seems to work. They can’t but help asking the question…”what is going on?”
It is extremely important that as parents, you consider the radical shift that has taken place in the toddler’s life. Until that time, all he had been doing was whimper and adults would come running to give him attention. Now he begins to realize that his reign of terror with his parents is over and that time has come for him to do something by himself.
During this difficult period, parents should hold onto the reins of authority. If they do so in a firm but loving way, the child will adjust to his new role positively and this will create a good stage for further marvels of growth. Parents therefore, should not join in the fray of the tantrums, but should play their cards lovingly and with the kind of firmness that is never relenting or compromising.
Doing this also requires that both parents demonstrate the same level of firmness, because if one of the parents is compromised by the toddler, then a fertile ground for poor management of the toddler’s tantrums will have been given centre stage.
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