Helping a New Baby Into Your Child’s Life

Long before the baby intrauterine makes a bump, we can start helping the child at home welcome that new brother or sister.  Logic and reason will not automatically click in when the baby arrives, so with the greatness within you, you have to pave that road now.  On the other hand, it is not too late to try some of these working ways if you have only a day before your gestation is complete.  Furthermore, it is still a great attitude direction to endear the sibling to your other child anytime. I will be offering from the onset of pregnancy, so you can take what you want and leave the rest.

Maybe one of the best things that can be said to the child, that is at your side, is a little grown up, but it will pull the platform  in place on which that child will stand forever.  Start calling that child a big brother or big sister.  For all intensive purposes, I will refer to both of the children as “he” and yet referring mostly to the unborn child as baby.  I think you probably picked up on one other very important verbal statements with my last sentence.  All of it’s life, the big brother has been the baby. Start changing that label soon, so when people start asking how the baby is, big brother will not feel robbed of that name.  He will have a great and honored name of big brother, not baby anymore.

Planning anything for the baby should also include the big brother.  Let the selection of colors, the style, the placement of furniture and anything you can incorporate using the big brother’s ideas and thoughts be monumental. Now, I know you might be saying he is only 2.  Adjust the help you will seek according to the age of the child. If there is something you absolutely need to have a certain way, tell the big brother what you are thinking and ask what they think too.

Let big brother feel the movement and the signals of the baby intrauterine.  Guide with gentleness, so the touch will be just right. You can supervise this now, but there will be a split second you might not be so close to teach kindness to the baby from big brother. Get the lesson taught now.

Depending on age of the big brother, let him know when your time to go to the hospital is near, so he will know you will be coming home with the baby.  This also lets him know you left, but will be back soon. Let that big brother help put things in a suitcase for that delivery day.  Let him know who will be taking care of him while daddy takes you to the hospital on the birthday of your baby.

Buy a gift, before you go into the hospital for delivery of your baby. This is a gift for baby from big brother. Have him help pick out that special gift.  Also buy a secret gift for big brother.  This will be given to big brother from baby, when you both arrive home. Two things bond people that I am fully aware of since I was pretty young. One is food and another is a gift. We will be bonding the big brother so he will be anxiously awaiting the arrival of baby.

When family members come to visit the newborn, ask them to buy big brother a gift  so he will not feel less important than the baby with all the gift giving and attention.

Keep the union between the two siblings by giving the older big brother 2 notebooks for school, telling him to give one to his brother.  Many things can be given that way. If the larger piece of pie is given away, praise follows immediately and an extra bonus of some type should be given or at least told he will be rewarded for giving more to the baby and keeping less for himself.  The more you work on the little deeds, the more of a great sibling foundation will be built.