Having a Baby Doesnt Make You a Mom. Raising a Child, Now That is What Makes You a MOM!

Sitting around with your girls saying with a no good man he his around your kids doesn’t help you child self image and surely doesn’t make you look good. Heck you are the one that had his child aren’t you?

So grow up! Stop blaming the man. If he isn’t responsible you chose him….Women are the only ones on the planet that don’t hold a interview before giving someone a job. And yet you blame them for not doing it right.

So step up and raise your child and stop blaming the dad. Let him walk. File for support and if he doesn’t want to be a part his lost. Don’t worry about his personal life develop your own. Stop being a hater and concentrate on your children. Enjoy them, have fun with them. Let that man move on. Remember it takes a real man to be a daddy because any boy can be a father.

Stop making the kids pay for your choice, your decision. Be woman enough to raise them right and say, they are not a mistake and be a good mother. You can do that. The kids deserve that much !!

It doesn’t matter who your childs parent is seeing as long as your child is still being taken care of. THAT isn’t your business any longer. Once you have your own life, you won’t be so worried about theirs.

You don’t have to love the child’s parent..You don’t even have to like them. But for your child’s sake please respect them.

Set personal boundaries. Don’t get involved in their personal business unless it affects your child.

Their current girlfriend or boyfriend is not your business unless that person mistreatments your child.

Encourage a relationship and never belittle the other parent. My personal motto was I loved my children more than I disliked what happened to our marriage. They were my priority so I would never be selfish and not allow them the love of their father. I am proud I never stood in the way of that and encouraged it.

When you step back if a parent is lousy, it eventually shows. You dont have to do a thing.

Remember YOU choose them not the child!

Belittling them says more about YOU than you think.

For many seeing your EX with someone else is hard. But that is YOUR stuff. OWN IT….Don’t make your child pay for it. If you are doing it, you are being a bully, you are mistreating them. Look at you and why you are doing it….Take a hard look because though it may hurt, you just may be hurting the lil ones you say you love…… more than you know.