As explained in previous pages, that according to Megawangi (1999) there are three elements of the internal structure of the family, one of which refers to the function sosial.
The way to do family in the socialization process is as follows: First, conditioning / pelaziman. Because we know and do not doubt that the child is entirely in the passive human socialization, so things mostly related to attitudes and behaviors do in fact go through this process, which was created by parents or other family members who have grown up with the provision of mechanism of punishment or reward; such as, eating, drinking, bathing, dressing, bowel / small (toilet training) even though spoken. Given such a mechanism would maintain a child’s specific behavior when what is done / done (well) to return. Instead the child will avoid certain behavior if it is what is done (bad) will be punished.
Second, modeling (pengimitasian and pengindentifikasian). Way of imitation usually lasts a short time to simply mimic the outer aspect of the figures / models diidealkannya. Conversely, if the child wants her equal (identical) with the imitation of his idol figures will be more profound because it is not just mimicry behavior but also the totality of the figure or model (identification), so here’s parents (families) need to give examples of good behavior for his son.
And third, the internalization of the way that requires the child (voluntarily) to realize that something, such as norms, values and behavior have a certain meaning of value for himself or for the future for direction, guidance or action that over time it will became part of his personality, exemplified by acts such as child-perbuatn prohibited religious or unexpected community at large.
Children as part of family members in growth and development will not be separated from the neighborhood where he was treated / cared for or obtaining the initial learning experience for a child. First child in the family interacts primarily with his mother after child birth and through breastfeeding. This relationship will evolve in stages the age of the child. From this and the child will always try to adapt through learning experience to be accepted in the social environment and a society that can be personalized; the condition have a chance to connect with other people (socialization), able to communicate and talk to an acceptable (to understand) other people motivation to learn and have fun. For this we need a support of others, for the first time that early social experience gained in the house the families that are most appropriate to determine the process of socialization in children.
Because the family serves to maintain and grow and develop its members, it would require a wise parent, for parents’ behavior will affect the way they treat the child and affect children’s behavior. Basically the parent-child relationship depends on the attitude of parents, where it also acquired through prior learning experiences of their parents.
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