Bullying and Your Children

Is your child being bullied at School? Or perhaps they are the bully.

 As a parent you just want whats best for your children, often we want them to have everything we didn’t as a child. Or perhaps you had all you needed as a child and you want to make sure your children have all they need and more. This includes a happy healthy childhood, which cannot happen if they are being bullied or if they have become a bully their selves. 

The best way a parent can help a child who is being bullied is to create a open, honest and supportive environment.  Encourage your child to talk about what’s happening to them. Ask your child what he or she thinks should be done. What’s already been tried? What worked and what didn’t? Never blame them for the harassment.  Let them know that you’ll help them figure out what to do. Encourage your child to be assertive rather than aggressive when confronted by a bully. Perhaps suggest walking away to avoid the bully or seeking help from a teacher, coach or other adult that’s near. Encourage your child to walk with friends when going to and from school, during school breaks between classes, even when out on shopping trips or other outings. Bullies are less likely to pick on a child in a group. Help your child practice what to say to a bully so he or she will be prepared if ever confronted. Suggest they let them know that you don’t appreciate the way they treat you in an assertive but non aggressive way. Because once you get angry or show any sign of reaction towards what they say or do to you, they know they gain the power of controlling you and your emotions, which makes them want to do it more. Sometimes just letting them see that its not bothering you, let them see your happy and have friends you can laugh with and that they are nothing they can do to ruin your day. By dong this often they will realize what they’re doing is pointless and that maybe they’re being immature. Others will see that as well and may suggest they leave you alone and that they should grow up.  Often this will result after some time has passed the bully trying to become friends with the once bullied, because people want what they can’t have including friends.

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  1. this article opened my eyes into some of the issues my child faces when i’m not around thanks

  2. Excellent article. As a parent and a former teacher I can attest to the effectiveness of your suggestion to practice what your children can say the next time they are being bullied. Kids so often don’t think that they have any means to change the situations they face. Role playing and brainstorming alternative solutuions, practicing what to say – this will help your child to be assertive and confident.

    This technique is very effective in a classroom as well. Most classes will have a few bullies, a few victims, and quite a few bystanders. When you get them to role play together, and maybe mix up the roles a bit, they can hopefully get them all to see from the other’s perspective.

  3. Good advice.
    Being old school I’d love to see it in practice.

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