Arguing with Your Spouse
Every relationship will have it ups and downs. Often times when arguments arise it is due to a simple misunderstanding. Sometimes there is a huge issue that really needs to be addressed.
Almost everyone tends to agree that the key to any good relationship is communication. If problems arise and they are not communicated then how can they be resolved? When arguing and yelling back and forth happens how does that solve the problem? Yelling back and forth does nothing except create more stress. This is something that needs to be avoided.
There are times that the stress of the problem gets so great that we do not know what to do. The stress sometimes can be alleviated by simply communicating and understanding what the problem is. When actions to help solve the problem begin then stress levels will go down. The problem is knowing how to do it.
Agree to disagree and move on. Is this really a solution? Sometimes the answer is yes and sometimes the answer is no. The important part is developing a mutual understanding of how the other person feels. A relationship is a two way street. It is about the two of you together. If the other person agrees with you great. If they don’t that is fine too. The important aspect of this is to understand where the other person is coming from. Ensure to develop a mutual understanding.
Fight fair- Do not call the other person names. This does nobody any good nor does it solve any problems.
Understand-Ensure that you know what the other person is saying. Sometimes we may misunderstand what they mean. Take a moment and simply ask. “I heard you say this. Did you mean it this way?” This is a big part of communication.
Take Responsibility-If you are wrong about something don’t be afraid to say that you are sorry. It is amazing that some people can’t say this.
Love-Let the other person know that you care about how they feel. Many times the other person thinks that the other doesn’t even care about their feelings. Make sure you tell the other person you care. This will go a very long way.
Understanding and communication is a very helpful tool in any relationship.
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Ukrainian | Jun 3, 2011 | Reply
Good post and good tips.
Melanie T | Jun 3, 2011 | Reply
“Agree to disagree and move on” is not always as easy as it sounds but would definitely be better than yelling.
Brenda Nelson | Jun 3, 2011 | Reply
Pick your fights.. not everything is worth fighting about.. and if you had a bad day at work do not come home and take it out on your spouse.
Rosettaartist1 | Jun 3, 2011 | Reply
food for thought.
Dreamy777 | Jun 3, 2011 | Reply
great post
Mark Gordon Brown | Jun 3, 2011 | Reply
yeah everything is ups and downs, wife and I have our times like every marriage, however we moved into an area where there are a lot of women who have never been told no in their lives and I thank God, Goddess, The Gods and everyone else everyday that I did not marry one of those jerks, yeah I know I should be using the “b” itch word but that is a word of enpowerment that I refuse to use on people who are being jerks.
guraynsj | Jun 5, 2011 | Reply
Very interesting.
Edgar Garin | Jun 11, 2011 | Reply
Keep sharing excellent articles.
seanob389 | Jun 14, 2011 | Reply
Thank you all for your comments. It is greatly appreciated.
CHIPMUNK | Nov 4, 2011 | Reply
Arguing with your spouse interesting one, sometimes not every spouse understands