Parenting is the most important thing that we will ever do. Here are some tips for finding success as a parent.
We buy things for our children on impulse
Starting at a young age, parents do buy trinkets for their children whenever they are out shopping. It might be harmless to purchase that cute little stuffed toy for your toddler. But if you are shopping for groceries, then you are sending a potentially expensive message. The message is that you will buy your child little toys whenever you are out shopping. Try to limit these purchases to birthdays and special occasions. Otherwise, your child will expect gifts constantly and you will carry the burden of that constant extra expense. Ask yourself: “Does my child really need this?”
He or she probably doesn’t and impulse buying is not an easy habit to break.
We give our children too many choices
I remember a dear friend asking her two year old daughter what she wanted to wear every morning. The little girl would always pick something that was not weather appropriate for winter in Colorado. As a result, getting ready in the morning became a huge battle that could have easily been avoided. Give your child two appropriate choices and let them pick one. This gives you the control of appropriate attire and makes your child feel that they have ownership of what they wear.
We do not acknowledge selfishness in our children
Teach your child that there are less fortunate people in the world. Let them see how you help in your community. Maybe it is baking a casserole for a sick friend or a visit to a senior facility. Your example will make a lasting impression.
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Teach your child to be kind to the earth. Let your child be an active member around the house with collecting recyclable items. Remind them to save energy by turning off unnecessary lights at home. Show them that we all can make a difference for a healthier planet. But we all must do our part.
We raise our children to be spoiled brats
There is nothing worse than a spoiled child who demands all the goodies for himself or herself. When you have company, make sure that your child is being a gracious host. Compliment others who share. Your child will want to receive your positive compliments as well. Soon your child will see that sharing is not receiving less, but giving more.
We don’t give our children a faith system
It is critical to give your child a faith or a belief in something. You do not have to have a definite religion, but a faith in something greater. It might be God, Buddha or simply a greater force. Also you do not need a specific religion to teach your child about kindness, sympathy, understanding, love and compassion.
We don’t know our children’s friends
You need to know who your child is hanging out with. Especially during the teen years. You also need to know the parents of your child’s friends. Peer influence is tremendous especially during the teen years. Parents of quality will have children of quality.
We don’t teach our children to value an education
You may have had a lousy school experience and you survived. So you don’t see the need for caring about an education. Research proves that school is important. Don’t you want more for your child, than you may have had as a child?
We don’t take the time to take our children to the library.
Parents are the first teachers of their children. You need to send the message that reading is important and books matter. Successful readers find success throughout life.
We are too busy to monitor our children’s television and computer game usage
Supervise what your kids are watching on television. Regulate when they are online.
You must control the time that your child spends playing video games. Monitor the
video game content. Expose your child to family television and Rated “G” movies.
Young children are not emotionally ready for much of what we view in theaters and
We want to be our children’s friend, not their parent.
The world is full of friends for your child. What your child needs throughout his or her life is a parent. Parents provide guidance and support .While you may not always be popular, your child needs a parent more than another friend.
We don’t give our children routines
Children need structure. It is wise for parents to set appropriate bed times for youngsters. It is also important that parents of teens set rules about curfew, driving, drugs and alcohol.
Finally, remember there will come a time when your child will be off to college. You as a parent will wistfully look back at all their abandoned childhood things. Our children leave home and they don’t carry all the items of their childhood with them. However, they do carry eighteen years of good parenting, wisdom, guidance and love.
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